Brehs, when meeting women just be yourself, man. Brehettes please chime in

[intruder]

Have you ever seen a breh just straight talk himself out of some p*ssy? Now i understand why some women keep stressing dudes to be themselves. I didnt know cats can be so lame on a date when they first meet a chick

So me and these two chicks i know were supposed to out friday night. Me and the first chick (G) get there and we're in the corner chilling having a few drinks feeling each other up. We''re cool but we flirt around a lot. The other one (W) send us a text saying "yeah im running late. Is it okay if i bring this dude i just met on Tinder along?" We're like "sure why not?"

Mind you... this chick (W) is a straight freaks and is very open about it.

Anyway she shows up and 10 minutes later homie gets there. He sits down and introduces himself and less than a minute into it they page him to come move his car (he was blocking someone). So homie leaves for a few minutes and the chick (W and G) are like
W - He's cute! Definitely fukking him. Could be tonight
G - haha
Me - SMH
Again, brehs. W is freak. I cant say this enough. Shes the type on a first date within the first 30 minutes she'll ask you your d!ck size because she wants to know if she should bother continue talking to you.

So dude comes back and we're talking. Homie starts going offtopic talking trying to impress the women talking about how he speaks 4 languages and his degree and so on. Little does he know these are highly educated women and i myself am a native french and creole speaker. Dude would just randomly starts saying sh!t in spanish then switches to french. AGain... trying too hard. And with every sentence i could see homegirl getting more and more annoyed and starting to make faces at the other chick. (we were seated at a long table with 2 people on each side)

Im sitting there wishing i could signal homie to chill before he talks himself out of some but my man couldnt stop himself and i know them chicks are ruthless and are laughing at him so hard deep down.

Needless to say she didnt fukk him. She said she grabbed him under the table just to satisfy her curiosity (while we were still there the convo had turned sexual) but he had already gotten on her nerves so she went home afterwards and sent him a text saying she wasnt feeling it and good luck. Homie started blowing up her phone trying to ask what he did wrong.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

gonna play devil's advocate here - maybe that was his regular self?

also i'd say another issue a lot of dudes have is their social skills aren't sophisticated enough that they can pick up on non-verbal cues. i can usually tell when i'm veering off the target (vagina) and i change course accordingly.

if these chicks were getting increasingly annoyed he should have picked up on that and chilled out a bit.

 

[Spuffy]

Omg I hate one-uppers

 

[Worthless Loser]

Being yourself is key, but sometimes that is not good enough for these chicks.

 

[GreenGhxst]

gonna play devil's advocate here - maybe that was his regular self?

also i'd say another issue a lot of dudes have is their social skills aren't sophisticated enough that they can pick up on non-verbal cues. i can usually tell when i'm veering off the target (vagina) and i change course accordingly.

if these chicks were getting increasingly annoyed he should have picked up on that and chilled out a bit.

It probably wasn't himself because he was trying to impress her. But yeah bro sometimes you gotta check yourself, you like a chick so much that you start trying to validate yourself. Your presence alone should make you valid. Talk to her like she's an equal, you don't talk to your homeboys trying to validate yourself, why? Because yall on the same level.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Being yourself is key, but sometimes that is not good enough for these chicks.

That's why its key to know your playing field and act accordingly. Saves you a bunch of time automatically having a good idea if she's someone who will appreciate your character.

Me for example, I'm a clown/goofy type. So for those who don't appreciate those types of dudes, don't even waste my time entertaining the thought of interacting with them and keep it moving.

 

[Worthless Loser]

That's why its key to know your playing field and act accordingly. Saves you a bunch of time automatically having a good idea if she's someone who will appreciate your character.

Me for example, I'm a clown/goofy type. So for those who don't appreciate those types of dudes, don't even waste my time entertaining the thought of interacting with them and keep it moving.

Exactly. Had one chick out the blue tell me im not a real nikka. Im a pretty relaxed person mixed with a lot of sarcastic humor so i told her to define what real nikka means and she was dead quiet.

 

[intruder]

Omg I hate one-uppers

I used to be that dude. Somewhat. Not bad but i'd do it every now and then until I witnessed someone doing it and found it annoying so I stopped. I'm sure I lost out on some ass doing it. I keep myself in check, now.

Being yourself is key, but sometimes that is not good enough for these chicks.

Well if someone is not feeling you then they aren't. Simple as that. I've met chicks who were really into me and didn't do anything wrong but I simply wasn't feeling them so it happens both ways.

 

[damn_ese]

dude sounds like he was trying way too hard, me personally I mostly let the girl talk about her self and either add my opinion or make a light hearted joke, sometimes at her expense. nothing serious.

but then again, it really depends, some women wouldnt give me the time of day to talk to me, while others went out of their way to strike up a conversation with me and give me the

dont try too hard
smell good
dress well
speak in a confident tone
smile
crack jokes (especially at her expense, keeps her entertained and a little off balance)
compliment her once, not every 5 minutes
talk about your ambitions/goals

you'll have a 60/40 chance of smashin within a short time

 

[PeridotPuss]

Not be yourself. Be your best self. A woman wants to feel that she has something valuable, just like a man.

Topics to avoid: how well you eat p*ssy, anything about your car, critiques on how "women out here ain't shyt/your BM/ex "crazy", too much talk about travel, downing anybody in any way, cockiness or inappropriate "jokes"

Topics to focus on: what you appreciate about the woman you're getting to know thus far, life plans (nothing involving the entertainmental industry though), anything that shows you have stability and sense, positive views on relationships and women

 

[Doobie Doo]

My talk game is 50/50. I have talked myself out of as much p*ssy as I've talked my self into.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Not be yourself. Be your best self. A woman wants to feel that she has something valuable, just like a man.

Topics to avoid: how well you eat p*ssy, anything about your car, critiques on how "women out here ain't shyt/your BM/ex "crazy", too much talk about travel, downing anybody in any way, cockiness or inappropriate "jokes"

Topics to focus on: what you appreciate about the woman you're getting to know thus far, life plans (nothing involving the entertainmental industry though), anything that shows you have stability and sense, positive views on relationships and women

 

[King Poetic]

U let the woman fukking talk and all u have to do is fukking LISTEN to what she says..

U can tell by the way she talks and move around u if u have a chance.

I see these fast talking drug dealing nikkas or these so called good business men always bragging about what they have or what they going to do and trying to be all hip to what bullshyt they see on tv or hear on radio...

That shyt might work with low life hoodrats... but educated black women even if they are freaks know your bullshyt

 

[intruder]

dude sounds like he was trying way too hard, me personally I mostly let the girl talk about her self and either add my opinion or make a light hearted joke, sometimes at her expense. nothing serious.

but then again, it really depends, some women wouldnt give me the time of day to talk to me, while others went out of their way to strike up a conversation with me and give me the

dont try too hard
smell good
dress well
speak in a confident tone
smile
crack jokes (especially at her expense, keeps her entertained and a little off balance)
compliment her once, not every 5 minutes
talk about your ambitions/goals

you'll have a 60/40 chance of smashin within a short time

THose have always been my weakpoints.

1. I dont go out of my way to dress well. A nice polo shirt or button up shirt and some jeans and a decent pair of shoes is what i usually go for. No sneakers and not t-shirts
2. I know i need to smile more when i meet people. I have a Tinder profile and women always ask me why i never smile in any of my 4 pics
3. I rarely compliment women. Yeah i know im not helping myself here . But most women who know me know this and it's whatever. At least they appreciate it more when i DO compliment them on something because they know I truly mean it and they get all excited about it.

 

[damn_ese]

THose have always been my weakpoints.

1. I dont go out of my way to dress well. A nice polo shirt or button up shirt and some jeans and a decent pair of shoes is what i usually go for. No sneakers and not t-shirts
2. I know i need to smile more when i meet people. I have a Tinder profile and women always ask me why i never smile in any of my 4 pics
3. I rarely compliment women. Yeah i know im not helping myself here . But most women who know me know this and it's whatever. At least they appreciate it more when i DO compliment them on something because they know I truly mean it and they get all excited about it.

1) you dont have to dress in expensive clothes, just peep some fashion blogs to get some ideas and pick an outfit that you can pull off, a polo shirt is cool, remember accessories like a nice watch.
if you wearing a button down, 8/10 times you'll want to tuck it in and wear a belt to match your shoes

make sure the cut of your clothes looks good, dont go out in these streets wearing dad jeans or some dusty looking dad sneakers/shoes

for example i'll go and cop a blazer from H&M for less than a hundred, some slacks and a nice button down from uniqo (because they tailor your clothes in their stores, usually for free) and a nice pair of shoes

a decent lookin watch and im good

2) i try to smile, maybe not so much in pictures, but on a date i do

3) this is more for someone you just met, compliment them once, maybe twice, but dont do it every other 5 minutes