Why don't guys want to date me?

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  1. Yazzy

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    I know this post will sound whiney and over dramatic but I just want to hear a guys insight on this. I have an older brother who I could probably talk to about this but he's overprotective and I'm sure he doesn't want to hear me complain about this stuff. Anyway, I'm 20, female and in the Army. I've been in about two years. I have a problem with over thinking. One of things I think about a lot is why I haven't had dating experience or had a guy even want to date me. Yes I know I should approach too, but from my observations I had two guys approach me but they were drunk. One was a weird sergeant (long story about him) who tried hitting on all the females and another was a guy friend who told me how he felt. He also said that I'm "wifey " material when sober. Yet when I eventually
    grew closer to him and I returned those feelings, he said that he doesn't want to ruin the friendship or make things awkward at work. He also said he would probably screw it up because he is trying to get back with his ex who is married to a woman. It did make me feel some type of way but I told him I understand since I didn't return my feelings that night drunkenly told me. I just wanted to get to know him more because he was new to the unit... After that we still talked and hung out but now he acts distant and weird. So some days he'll joke around with me and another day he acts cold. He said me rejecting him the first time wasn't the issue . He said it's him. I still don't get it though.

    I guess I went a little off topic. I mentioned that friend because it is bothering me about how he is acting toward me and I still have feelings for him. He's the only guy I've had strong feelings for... probably because he's the only guy who approached me directly and told me he likes me. What I don't understand is why some guys will say so much good things to a girl but not date her. What's the purpose of that?

    Another thing I notice is that guys choose my friends over me. I don't think I'm ugly personally and strangers tell me I'm beautiful. I'm certainly not a dime or a 10 though. Personality... hard to describe to people who don't know me but I am approachable and introverted. The reason why I say I'm approachable is that I attract male and female friends. They all said that I seemed like a chill person and was friendly. I'm not trying to make myself sound perfect because I'm not. I can be very sensitive and jump to conclusions. I can also be too defensive when someone wants to debate with me. I enjoy learning languages, game of thrones fan, harry potter fan, going to school for political science, and I love to travel. Do you guys think me being kind of a nerd has a lot to do with why I've been single my whole life and me not having a curvy body (slim thick)? Most of my friends are and they can have any guy they want. It's not even just their bodies that attract men... I can't pinpoint what else it is but if a thing for one guy doesn't work out, they have others waiting in line. And I'm over here like I can't even get the guy i like to date me and I'm a loner over here lol. :mjcry:

    Guys, I can't remember how I discovered this website but I would like input. I can take criticism and if some of you find this post ridiculous, I don't mind. I'm just saying how I feel. Also, if what I said above doesn't make sense, just ask me and I'll elaborate more.
     
  2. BaldingSoHard

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    So wait only two guys in your life have approached you or only two guys since you've been in the military?
     
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    Is that ass phat? :jbhmm:
     
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  4. Yazzy

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    Two guys my whole life.
     
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    Pic or story is disregarded & neg
     
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  6. Yazzy

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    Two guys my whole life. Yes it's sad
     
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    I ♥ PAWG AND LATINA PORNO Superstar

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    how are we suppose to help you without pics :stopitslime:

    we need to see what you working with, then we can tell you why
     
  8. Yazzy

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    Nah its not flat or large. Just average. I have big boobs tho
     
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    :takedat:

    But seriously, it just might be a minor adjustment you need, because you sound chill and dateable :salute:
     
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  10. Yazzy

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    Idk. I was trying to see if it's my personality or looks lol. I didn't want to post pictures because it's kind of awkward
     
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    Post a picture, and ill give you your answer
     
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    Send me a pic of your ass

    I'll be able to tell you everything from there
     
  13. Yazzy

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    Idk what it is though. And it's frustrating. I think I'm a good person :yeshrug:
     
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    This is a man until proven otherwise
     
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    Maybe you should learn some Brazlian jiu jitsu and see how things go from there.
     

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