21 things black men don’t hear often enough

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1. I love you bro. We don’t tell each other as men how much we mean to each other. There is no weakness in that. Only strength, solidarity, and power.

2. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to commit to getting better.

3. Someone is depending on you, to be exactly who you are.

4. Read more. You have time to read 12 books a year (which is more than the average American). We also aren’t average.

5. Showing and sharing your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. Paying attention to how we feel helps us become more in tune with what’s actually going on.

6. Your mental health matters. You can’t “work yourself” out of your mind. Emotional trauma is very real and worthy of our time. We’ve been through a lot recently.

7. Living is an act of resistance. You are going to live, get out all these dreams, and thrive – despite the odds.

8. You are a descendent of kings. Seriously, don’t bow your head to life. You were built for this.

9. Their opinion won’t pay your bills, or build your dreams. They won’t always see your vision. Not everyone is supposed to.

10. Failure isn’t a tattoo. Learn how to take the Ls and move on. Adapt and overcome.

11. Getting this money, and doing good, aren’t mutually exclusive. You just have to be clear on your non-negotiables and stand by them.

12. You don’t have to ask for permission to be excellent. Go for it.

13. “Everybody eat’s b” – Ace Boogie. Seriously, we can all get what we want to out here. Helping people doesn’t make you a sucker. Do have boundaries though.

14. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else (even if you’re from Harlem), but it pays to think like an owner. Signing the front of a check is very different than the back.

15. #BLACKLIVESMATTER

16. If someone knocks you for your 9-5, they (1) aren’t your friends and (2) they don’t know about your 6-10. Keep going.

17. Start owning when you can. Pay yourself first. These loans ain’t loyal.

18. We don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You’re excellent and it’s perfectly okay to still be warming up.

19. Try to take care of yourself. I love Popeyes, but what we put in ourselves can actually kill us. Exercise, eat well, and get active. Put some $$ on your jumper, and invite your team out!

20. Learning how to cook is a great look. Seriously. Watch a couple Youtube videos, hit Home Goods, and start cheffing.

21. “Someday” is never going to show up on the calendar. Write that book, send that tweet, record podcast. Don’t opt out, especially not right now.

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Good points. It is very distressing with how trying it can be just being black, we are also expected to hold it together and be strong all the time. Crying alone is enough to turn a sane dude into something else. We gotta support each other without throwing shade.
 

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The first one hits hard.. growing up we're taught to hide our emotions and man up.. crying is looked upon as feminine.. getting screamed at or clowned when what you really need is a hug and someone to tell you it's gonna be ok :mjcry:

How can a human being not show emotion when it's exactly what makes us human... :wow:
 

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1. I love you bro. We don’t tell each other as men how much we mean to each other. There is no weakness in that. Only strength, solidarity, and power.

:damesmh: pause


14. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else (even if you’re from Harlem), but it pays to think like an owner. Signing the front of a check is very different than the back.

:damesmh: who told you that


but real talk the list is good esp 8-11
 

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Red used to be my regular. Until I went over to her place drunk and she got upset so she refuses to see me drunk. But I told her that's the only time I fukk around sober I never do. But she smokes and gets high guess we have our likes and dislikes. But to the booty when I fukked with chel it was always cool. She would let me shower at her place and cook me food and what not. But the sessions were as follows. We would talk first get to know each other and see how our days or weeks have been. She would smoke then I would sip a little. Then to her room. She would give the best nasty sloppy succulent bbjs. Her p*ssy would taste so good. It had no smell and look beautiful. Then I would hit mish then doggie boy she could fck. She would lower her chest and back then throw the ass so hard and it would just ripple into me. I always stayed an hr or more. But dam I miss that ass.
 
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The first one hits hard.. growing up we're taught to hide our emotions and man up.. crying is looked upon as feminine.. getting screamed at or clowned when what you really need is a hug and someone to tell you it's gonna be ok :mjcry:

How can a human being not show emotion when it's exactly what makes us human... :wow:
you see it on here too...with discussions on depression.

AS someone who has suffered from clinical depression for almost a decade...it takes so much strength to not lash out at those types in anger simply because they don't get it and they aren't worth the point of discussion.

American/Western society is just toxic for the black man and woman's psyche.
 

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The first one hits hard.. growing up we're taught to hide our emotions and man up.. crying is looked upon as feminine.. getting screamed at or clowned when what you really need is a hug and someone to tell you it's gonna be ok :mjcry:

How can a human being not show emotion when it's exactly what makes us human... :wow:

We used to be a close knit community, now we all cold strangers :wow:
 

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Nah 8 too.. majority of us don't know our culture at all.. if we knew the history and accomplishments of our African ancestors we'd be way more passionate bout shyt we do and refuse to be complacent

I can see why you would say this, but I don't know if I agree totally.
 
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