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5 Lessons Learned from Being a Woman’s “Other Man”
July 16, 2018 Alan Roger Currie Sexuality 0
In most instances, women will reveal their true desires, their true personality, and their true sexual nature and kinky fantasies to the men who they are cheating WITH much more so than they will to the men who they are cheating ON
I remember when I first began receiving feedback from male readers of my eBook and from male listeners of my audiobook version of my book, The Possibility of Sex: How Naïve and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly.
Sadly, a good percentage of the men who read my eBook and/or listened to my audiobook conveyed to me that this particular book of mine left them feeling ‘dejected,’ ‘depressed,’ ‘jaded,’ and incredibly ‘pessimistic’ regarding the idea of finding a ‘good woman’ to date and possibly marry.
This was the first book of mine where I began to receive praise from men who were self-proclaimed MGTOW types (Men Going Their Own Way) and other hardcore Red Pill types who were active in the manosphere. Many of these men offered comments to me such as, “See … I knew women weren’t worth marrying. I knew they were all scandalous, no good bytches. Alan, your book proves it!!” Unfortunately, this was not the impression that I wanted my readers and listeners to have of all women in society.
The Possibility of Sex is divided into two parts:
Part One of my book centers on the archetype of women I refer to as ‘Manipulative Timewasters.’ A Manipulative Timewaster is a woman who has no interest in engaging in sex with a man (either within the context of a long-term monogamous romantic relationship or within the context of short-term non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex), but she is very reluctant to verbally communicate her lack of sexual interest to a man too quickly or too straightforwardly because she has a high interest in maintaining that man’s non-physical, non-sexual, purely platonic attention and companionship … and in some cases, she has a strong desire to exploit that man for various ‘financial favors’ such as free meals, free movie tickets, free concert tickets, and any other monetary favor or materialistic gift she can manage to secure from him.
Part Two of my book centers on the women who I simply refer to as ‘No Good Women.’ These women might be fine to engage in a few episodes of short-term non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with, but if a man’s interest is entering into a long-term, emotionally profound, strictly monogamous romantic relationship with these women … I suggest that all men avoid these five categories of women at all costs.
The five types of women that I examine in Part Two of my book are:
In this chapter, I openly and publicly confess that I have been a woman’s “other man” (i.e., her ‘side dude’ or the man she was cheating on her long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband with) at least thirty-five times between the ages of 17 and 37 (roughly a span of 20 years).
Some men have harshly criticized me for this confession, arguing that my actions blatantly violated what they deem as ‘the man code’ (i.e., “bros before hos”). Other men appreciated my frank, forthright confession, and conveyed to me that they appreciated the fact that I was willing to share with them the knowledge, wisdom, and insight that I gained from my multiple experiences being a woman’s “other man” or “side dude.”
For the remainder of this article, I will share with my (male) readers a few of the lessons I learned from engaging in sexual relations with women who had a long-term boyfriend at the time, a fiancé at the time, or a husband at the time.
LESSON #5: WOMEN ARE JUST AS SHALLOW & SUPERFICIAL AS MEN ARE WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR DESIRE FOR SHORT-TERM and/or NON-MONOGAMOUS ‘CASUAL’ SEX
There are many men who naively believe that women do not place as much emphasis on a man’s physical appearance and sense of seductive charm and overall sex appeal as the average man does with women.
Wrong.
Similar to men, women have a different set of criteria for men who they desire to engage in short-term and/or non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with than they do for the men who they desire to have as a long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband.
When a woman decides to select a man as her “side dude,” that man’s level of career success, his level of financial success, his moral character & integrity, and how faithfully monogamous he can be with a woman becomes totally irrelevant. When a man is chosen by a woman to be her ‘man-on-the-side,’ all she really cares about is how satisfying he is going to be in bed, how kinky and erotically dominant he is, and how private and discreet he can be. Also, if the man is very good looking and oozes with seductive charm, confidence, and highly masculine sex appeal, all the better.
LESSON #4: WOMEN, GENERALLY SPEAKING, ARE MUCH BETTER LIARS, CHEATERS, and ADULTERERS THAN MOST MEN ARE
For most of the 20th Century, there was this mistaken belief and invalid stereotype that men were far more likely to cheat on their long-term girlfriend, fiancée, or wife than a woman was to cheat on her long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. The internet and the manosphere has helped destroy this myth in the 21st Century.
Women are much more meticulous, precise, and strategic when they cheat than the average man is. Men, generally speaking, tend to be very ‘sloppy’ in their attempts to cheat or commit adultery. The vast majority of men get caught cheating all the time. Women, on the other hand, are much cleverer and savvy when it comes to cheating.
I’ll give you one example. Many men, when they have a woman who is a mistress or side piece, will attempt to hide every detail about that woman (e.g., her real name, her face, her location, where she works, etc.) from their girlfriend, fiancée, or wife. Many women, on the other hand, will cheat on a man “in plain sight.” Meaning, many women will be bold enough to introduce their boyfriend, fiancé, or husband to the man they are cheating with. They will introduce him as “My good friend from high school or college,” or “My good friend who works with me,” or “My boss at my job,” or “my girlfriend Tanya’s best friend and neighbor.”
When I was in my twenties and thirties, I had a number of women who did just that with me. They would boldly introduce me to their long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. I would many times shake the man’s hand and look him dead in his eyes … knowing that I was banging his woman behind his back.
The woman’s thinking was, “Surely my significant other won’t assume you’re fukking me if I am audacious enough to introduce you to him …” Women are clever. This relates to that classic phrase, “If you want to really hide something, hide it in plain sight.”
LESSON #3: WOMEN WILL RARELY IF EVER FEEL THE NEED TO LIE TO OR ENGAGE IN ‘MANIPULATIVE HEAD GAMES’ WITH THEIR SIDE DUDES
As a man, you would THINK that if you are a woman’s long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband, that you will be that woman’s ace confidante and the man she would trust with all of her inner ‘secrets’ … right?
Wrong.
As a woman’s ‘other man,’ I usually knew more about a woman’s sexual past as well as more about her true sexual nature and kinky quirks than that woman’s boyfriend, fiancé, or husband ever did.
For example, I remember one married woman I used to engage in sex with … she quickly revealed to me that she was bisexual (I once had a ménage à trois with this same woman and one of her female lovers), and she flat-out told me that her husband had no idea that she was bisexual.
Remember what I said above about “hiding things in plain sight?” This same married woman told me that she had introduced her husband to at least a half dozen of her current and former female lovers, but he never once suspected her of sleeping with other women.
Women are not motivated to lie to their casual sex lovers or ‘men-on-the-side.’ There is simply no need to. Women are not attempting to exploit these men for money, materialistic gifts, or long-term dependable non-sexual attention and companionship. They just want good dikk whenever they are horny for it.
5 Lessons Learned from Being a Woman's "Other Man" - Negromanosphere
July 16, 2018 Alan Roger Currie Sexuality 0
In most instances, women will reveal their true desires, their true personality, and their true sexual nature and kinky fantasies to the men who they are cheating WITH much more so than they will to the men who they are cheating ON
I remember when I first began receiving feedback from male readers of my eBook and from male listeners of my audiobook version of my book, The Possibility of Sex: How Naïve and Lustful Men are Manipulated by Women Regularly.
Sadly, a good percentage of the men who read my eBook and/or listened to my audiobook conveyed to me that this particular book of mine left them feeling ‘dejected,’ ‘depressed,’ ‘jaded,’ and incredibly ‘pessimistic’ regarding the idea of finding a ‘good woman’ to date and possibly marry.
This was the first book of mine where I began to receive praise from men who were self-proclaimed MGTOW types (Men Going Their Own Way) and other hardcore Red Pill types who were active in the manosphere. Many of these men offered comments to me such as, “See … I knew women weren’t worth marrying. I knew they were all scandalous, no good bytches. Alan, your book proves it!!” Unfortunately, this was not the impression that I wanted my readers and listeners to have of all women in society.
The Possibility of Sex is divided into two parts:
Part One of my book centers on the archetype of women I refer to as ‘Manipulative Timewasters.’ A Manipulative Timewaster is a woman who has no interest in engaging in sex with a man (either within the context of a long-term monogamous romantic relationship or within the context of short-term non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex), but she is very reluctant to verbally communicate her lack of sexual interest to a man too quickly or too straightforwardly because she has a high interest in maintaining that man’s non-physical, non-sexual, purely platonic attention and companionship … and in some cases, she has a strong desire to exploit that man for various ‘financial favors’ such as free meals, free movie tickets, free concert tickets, and any other monetary favor or materialistic gift she can manage to secure from him.
Part Two of my book centers on the women who I simply refer to as ‘No Good Women.’ These women might be fine to engage in a few episodes of short-term non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with, but if a man’s interest is entering into a long-term, emotionally profound, strictly monogamous romantic relationship with these women … I suggest that all men avoid these five categories of women at all costs.
The five types of women that I examine in Part Two of my book are:
- Highly Materialistic ‘Gold Digger’ types
- ‘Man Thieves’ (i.e., women who have a strong desire to ‘steal you away’ from your long-term girlfriend, fiancée, or wife)
- Very Spoiled & Highly Argumentative ‘Drama Queens’
- Man-Hating ‘Misandrists’ who will only date men and/or marry men in order to get pregnant by them, but then these same women will subsequently proceed to psychologically emasculate the men who are the biological fathers of their child(ren)
- Liars / Cheaters / Adulterers
In this chapter, I openly and publicly confess that I have been a woman’s “other man” (i.e., her ‘side dude’ or the man she was cheating on her long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband with) at least thirty-five times between the ages of 17 and 37 (roughly a span of 20 years).
Some men have harshly criticized me for this confession, arguing that my actions blatantly violated what they deem as ‘the man code’ (i.e., “bros before hos”). Other men appreciated my frank, forthright confession, and conveyed to me that they appreciated the fact that I was willing to share with them the knowledge, wisdom, and insight that I gained from my multiple experiences being a woman’s “other man” or “side dude.”
For the remainder of this article, I will share with my (male) readers a few of the lessons I learned from engaging in sexual relations with women who had a long-term boyfriend at the time, a fiancé at the time, or a husband at the time.
LESSON #5: WOMEN ARE JUST AS SHALLOW & SUPERFICIAL AS MEN ARE WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR DESIRE FOR SHORT-TERM and/or NON-MONOGAMOUS ‘CASUAL’ SEX
There are many men who naively believe that women do not place as much emphasis on a man’s physical appearance and sense of seductive charm and overall sex appeal as the average man does with women.
Wrong.
Similar to men, women have a different set of criteria for men who they desire to engage in short-term and/or non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with than they do for the men who they desire to have as a long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband.
When a woman decides to select a man as her “side dude,” that man’s level of career success, his level of financial success, his moral character & integrity, and how faithfully monogamous he can be with a woman becomes totally irrelevant. When a man is chosen by a woman to be her ‘man-on-the-side,’ all she really cares about is how satisfying he is going to be in bed, how kinky and erotically dominant he is, and how private and discreet he can be. Also, if the man is very good looking and oozes with seductive charm, confidence, and highly masculine sex appeal, all the better.
LESSON #4: WOMEN, GENERALLY SPEAKING, ARE MUCH BETTER LIARS, CHEATERS, and ADULTERERS THAN MOST MEN ARE
For most of the 20th Century, there was this mistaken belief and invalid stereotype that men were far more likely to cheat on their long-term girlfriend, fiancée, or wife than a woman was to cheat on her long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. The internet and the manosphere has helped destroy this myth in the 21st Century.
Women are much more meticulous, precise, and strategic when they cheat than the average man is. Men, generally speaking, tend to be very ‘sloppy’ in their attempts to cheat or commit adultery. The vast majority of men get caught cheating all the time. Women, on the other hand, are much cleverer and savvy when it comes to cheating.
I’ll give you one example. Many men, when they have a woman who is a mistress or side piece, will attempt to hide every detail about that woman (e.g., her real name, her face, her location, where she works, etc.) from their girlfriend, fiancée, or wife. Many women, on the other hand, will cheat on a man “in plain sight.” Meaning, many women will be bold enough to introduce their boyfriend, fiancé, or husband to the man they are cheating with. They will introduce him as “My good friend from high school or college,” or “My good friend who works with me,” or “My boss at my job,” or “my girlfriend Tanya’s best friend and neighbor.”
When I was in my twenties and thirties, I had a number of women who did just that with me. They would boldly introduce me to their long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. I would many times shake the man’s hand and look him dead in his eyes … knowing that I was banging his woman behind his back.
The woman’s thinking was, “Surely my significant other won’t assume you’re fukking me if I am audacious enough to introduce you to him …” Women are clever. This relates to that classic phrase, “If you want to really hide something, hide it in plain sight.”
LESSON #3: WOMEN WILL RARELY IF EVER FEEL THE NEED TO LIE TO OR ENGAGE IN ‘MANIPULATIVE HEAD GAMES’ WITH THEIR SIDE DUDES
As a man, you would THINK that if you are a woman’s long-term boyfriend, fiancé, or husband, that you will be that woman’s ace confidante and the man she would trust with all of her inner ‘secrets’ … right?
Wrong.
As a woman’s ‘other man,’ I usually knew more about a woman’s sexual past as well as more about her true sexual nature and kinky quirks than that woman’s boyfriend, fiancé, or husband ever did.
For example, I remember one married woman I used to engage in sex with … she quickly revealed to me that she was bisexual (I once had a ménage à trois with this same woman and one of her female lovers), and she flat-out told me that her husband had no idea that she was bisexual.
Remember what I said above about “hiding things in plain sight?” This same married woman told me that she had introduced her husband to at least a half dozen of her current and former female lovers, but he never once suspected her of sleeping with other women.
Women are not motivated to lie to their casual sex lovers or ‘men-on-the-side.’ There is simply no need to. Women are not attempting to exploit these men for money, materialistic gifts, or long-term dependable non-sexual attention and companionship. They just want good dikk whenever they are horny for it.
5 Lessons Learned from Being a Woman's "Other Man" - Negromanosphere
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