I don't want my girl to be "soft", I want her to be herself.
I'm lucky to have a girl that's naturally submissive without asking. But one woman's "soft" is another woman's "manipulative" or "high maintenance". All women are not the same.
I wish we could cut out all the extra bro science, pickup artist, macking bullshyt when it comes to discussing relationships. Be yourself, invest in some self care, and have some realistic, practical life goals. You'll find someone who loves you for you.