[AGENDA] Why I Stopped Dating Black American Men When I Decided I Was Ready For Marriage

[truth2you]

I find it hilarious that I can go to multiple black weddings within two months, have tons of black female friends married to black men or engaged, see married black couples all day everyday yet come online and see this woe is me bullshyt on the internet.

Btw that is completely false. Around 75% of black women get married before they turn 35 according to stats from 2000 - 2009. Barring a huge cultural shift I highly doubt those numbers have changed.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.theroot.com/myth-busting-the-black-marriage-crisis-1790865391/amp

Now compare that number to the overall US populuation of women that never get married.

This Chart Will Reveal How Many Men and Women Are Married by Age 30

Wanna know whats even more hilarious? The fact that this was posted to a sub on reddit comprised of mostly black feminists and they completely shyt on it. Yet here you are in your shining armour defending this steaming pile of garbage.

Stop it slime.

What's crazy is I would see the same thing, and the main people I saw who weren't married that kept talking about marriage, it made sense why they weren't married!

I find it odd that you showed a very important fact about the statistics, what people ignore is the stats are including people 15-18 yrs old

That alone would lower the stats, plus if you include older women who may be gay, or have medical issues, and in prison, that also lowers the stats. Add to the fact, the older a woman gets, the chances of getting married is lower because she is used to doing her own thing. All the stats do is talk about ALL women from teenage years. It's clear as day its an agenda going on!

I'm reading comments in here, but that are ignoring your post, and still talking how fukked up each black gender is. They even ignore the fact that she has American uncles, so she is not just West African, at least in culture, I don't know her mothers ethnicity.

It's over for us, we have too many people who have lost the power of thinking, and they are the loudest. Lack of knowledge really is the reason why we suffer, and its not because we can't get it, its because we don't want to do the work to research, and sit down to read it!

 

[AB Ziggy]

I think she’s just bitter because her baby daddy (who is AA and not a cac.) is no longer in her and her sons life.

Well looks like her only option is going outisde the race. Cause I know NO African man will ever disgrace his family taking in a single mother. She's fukked

 

[Scott Larock]

This is just the extension of the internet life, tons of fear and nonsense that's not applied to the real world. I will admit some girls really think this way but their's so much black women out there it's probably less than 5% of the total number of women.

This is just same as INCEL, a group of people lined up, sitting online listening to this stuff. Life is hard for alot of us but I really think the internet and YOUTUBE is particular circulates this fear of everything.

Just about everything technology based is some sort of fear based or racism based non-sense. I need to pull a Paul Miller (verge) and get off the internet unless I need music or something.

Sam Harris is a top podcaster and literally all he does is this racist IQ stuff, this is where America is going, as more of us are unattached with each other, this inept, antisocial, angry bitter behavior takes over.

No offense to any black women but you can get married if you get real, reality is not everyone gets someone of their level. Some of us have to date down and I know quite a few happy dating down couples.

When I use to trick, I felt like crap knowing this girl isn't in to me but thinks it's okay to seek money and act like that's what a relantionship is.

And people wonder why the hood folks are so fun to be around.

 

[Scott Larock]

I am telling African American men, you need to drop this "dating within your race" mantra. It was created to usurped you.

Your own ethnic group should be a marriage priority and then you look to other people of African decent. Anything else is self hate. That's reality.



This is self hate. This is glamorizing another culture before your own and not respecting your roots.

She's trying to distance herself from who she is. There are plenty of spiritual, religious and educated AA men who know their roots and surprise they're the most successful.

They want to create this bubble where every person of African decent is exactly the same so they can fetishise others. It's a dangerous mindset.

I get hated for saying this but the "What about black on black crime" really is a line no one can combat cuz if we in such bad shape, we'd be rushing to build something to get out of it and married folks ain't usually busting they gun.

Cold hard reality, people don't want each other then complain they can't find anyone.

 

[truth2you]

How can you get screwed over if you have little to no wealth in the first place. The desire for marriage is just not there. There's nothing wrong with admitting that.

Umm, that means its actually worse for that person then someone who does have wealth!

Why don't people think?!

 

[badtguy]

Most american born or americanized men and women are not marriage material. ( america is a selfish society)

It's common knowledge that even amongst 1st and 2nd generation africans, women are more likely to be married if they get an off the boat type of nikka - who is focused on being married.

all though majority of my female cuzzos are married it's to off the boat type nikkas, it ain't to american born counterparts nigerian - american, Sierraleonean americans, it's nikkas straight from Africa.

Unlike the men in my family who were born in the US, we are either single and working or got married to their child's mother after the fact.

like literally none of my american born guy cousins had a wedding- they all just have common law wives.

 

[GoPro]

I swear, u dudes are so worried about losing 'your women' that you cant even see when they're doing you a favor.

 

[kaldurahm]

Well looks like her only option is going outisde the race. Cause I know NO African man will ever disgrace his family taking in a single mother. She's fukked

Yeah it's hella frowned upon. But y'all right, she could've gone to Nigeria and spotted a man out there or got with a Naija-American.

 

[badtguy]

I would also add there is some confusion amongst half africans and american born africans.

I know alot of 1st generation africans who are single because they didn't date off the boat africans, or black american men, hated white men.(not to mention physical preferences)

Ex. Some of these nigerian-american women are literally looking for other nigerian-american men to marry(from their ethnic group) but imo there's no incentive unless your families know each other.

I know a nigerian american chick who didn't date nigerians from nigeria in her younger days "he's too african" "accent too strong" only likes americanized nigerian-ghanaian-Sierra leonean-americans.

now she 30+ traveling to nigeria. bytch going to church now, fasting and praying for a off the boat nikka to wife her.

But most decent african born men over 30 are married. So she in a fukked up position.

Like sis - thought it was cute to diss off the boat africans, when she was younger now she's smelling pepper.

Edit. Her choices now are basically

1. american born 1 and 2 generation nikkas like me who don't really care about marriage, career is more important
2. black american men who don't care about marriage, career more important
3. white men who are perverts and don't care about marriage. Even when they get married it be on some weirdo shyt.
4. Off the boat african nikkas who marrying for citizenship.

Cause decent 30+ nikkas are in serious relationships and not looking.

 

[AB Ziggy]

I would also add there is some confusion amongst half africans and american born africans.

I know alot of 1st generation africans who are single because they didn't date off the boat africans, or black american men, hated white men.(not to mention physical preferences)

Ex. Some of these nigerian-american women are literally looking for other nigerian-american men to marry(from their ethnic group) but imo there's no incentive unless your families know each other.

I know a nigerian american chick who didn't date nigerians from nigeria in her younger days "he's too african" "accent too strong" only likes americanized nigerian-ghanaian-Sierra leonean-americans.

now she 30+ traveling to nigeria. bytch going to church now, fasting and praying for a off the boat nikka to wife her.

But most decent african born men over 30 are married. So she in a fukked up position.

Like sis - thought it was cute to diss off the boat africans, when she was younger now she's smelling pepper.

Maybe that's your experience, most Americanized Africans women I knew never discriminated against recent migrants. Especially if there wasnt enough of their own ethnic around group to find more options.

 

[badtguy]

Maybe that's your experience, most Americanized Africans women I knew never discriminated against recent migrants. Especially if there wasnt enough of their own ethnic around group to find more options.

You said "esp if they're wasn't enough of their own ethnic group around"

That's my point. If they're are over 200,000 american born africans Houston or the DMV. A good percentage of those chicks are looking to marry someone that's not too african and not too american.

Also this afrobeat music era wasn't as popping 15 years ago. so foreign born africans were discriminating against african born recent migrants.

Wasn't no wizkid, davido, african party, azonto.that made it cool to be african or listen to african music.

Edit. A good example is rapper wale. He wasn't fukking with afrobeat music 10 years ago and wasn't giving no feature to african artist on the come up now he's going with popular culture

 

[AB Ziggy]

You said "esp if they're wasn't enough of their own ethnic group around"

That's my point. If they're are over 200,000 american born africans Houston or the DMV. A good percentage of those chicks are looking to marry someone that's not too african and not too american.

Also this afrobeat music era wasn't as popping 15 years ago. so foreign born africans were discriminating against african born recent migrants.

Wasn't no wizkid, davido, african party, azonto.that made it cool to be african or listen to african music.

You're definitely right on this one as I also noticed this behavior change from other 1st/2nd gen African chicks I grew up with as of recent years because of African music and Nollywood. And then Black Panther completely sealed the deal.

Edit: actually I remember Wale linking up with his roots as far back as 2013. but as you said before, the music was as big as it is now.

 

[poundedyam]

I think the problem is neither black american men nor women value marriage.
Marrying an african man wont fix the fact that you dont know how to be a wife.
Same ways if you are a black american man,marrying a foreign black woman wont fix the fact that you dont know how to be a good husband.
By all means if you are struggling to find a good black american go foreign but if you aint up to scratch dont bother.

 

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Arah.Iloabugichukwu (@arahthequill) • Instagram photos and videos

I know she is ugly and insecure just because she hides her face. Her lips are what she thinks are her best features. Looks is one thing, but she is dumb as well which compounds the ugliness. She is a monster just like the rest of her ilk that would rather blame everyone else for their shytty lives and decisions as opposed to looking within and dealing with their own problems.

And she's a single mother?

Irresponsible!

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

The article was actually pretty good. She didn't shyt on BM. She just basically said that common cultural beliefs within the community didn't match up to what she wanted in a mate.