i was about 5 years out of college before i calmed down
never had any problems (dui, etc) or addiction issues
but every night i'd go wild for a couple hours
then crahs and go to work the next day
and i was still going etra hard for weekends
in some ways it was worse than college
i think at some point i'd just had enough of all that
was ready for something different
put more effort into my career, got more involved with fitness
going to night school for m.s. degree
started training seriously and got into best shape of my life
my wife (rip) would smoke before bed, and maybe friday-saturday i'd join her
but no more drinking alone, no hard drugs
she's still do a little coke with her sister every now and then
but basically we both cleaned up
i dropped acid maybe one more time when i was 32 or 33??
but yeah..
i'd have a beer with the guys if everyone was drinking
but i became a one drink per hour type of guy
honestly it was easy for me to change up
maybe i matured??
or maybe my life was already okay, and just got better
i'll say this much..
i look at guys who DIDN'T stop,, and their lives clearly fell off at some point
you cant' keep going hard forever without consequences
i mean they might be basically okay (functioning)
one breh keeps a good management job
but he admitted he physically can't stop drinking without withdrawals
he's lowkey been in rehab twice
so i'd say go hard when you're younger, but there comes a time..
basically i'm glad i chilled out when i did
before any dependencies took hold
)
thanks for the advice