Alright brehs and brehettes. I've had enough, I like this chick but I've got a problem

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I'd go as far to say that I love her and I love spending time with her but this whole break down in communication between us is crazy. She's going through some pretty serious shyt with one of her family members dying of cancer at the moment (going into surgery etc) and I get that but I try and empathise and give her a shoulder and an ear and shyt just isn't enough. She keeps talking about wanting to be left alone in her emotions, even going as far to say that I'm selfish when she comes off foreign and I don't like the fact we don't talk when she gets like this.

It just wasn't the way I was raised and it isn't the way I deal with things. :manny:

I'm an open, honest man and I care. I mean well when I give the girl the platform for her to talk to me but I can't ask her what's up without feeling like a piece of shyt for caring.

I feel like there's a fundamental issue here with us as people and I honestly can't deal with this shyt anymore. A huge part of me wants to finish things but I'd be upset if things broke off like this.
 
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You can't expect her to deal with things like you do. People mourn in their own way breh. Either you accept her as she is and her differences, or you don't and leave. :ld:

I completely get that but there's differences and there's hanging up on me when I try and tell her that acting the way she's acting isn't helping our relationship or the fact that I feel like she's pushing me away.

The worst thing is I honestly do feel a little bit selfish but it seems like she only wants a relationship when things within our personal lives are perfect. That aint real life.
 

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I completely get that but there's differences and there's hanging up on me when I try and tell her that acting the way she's acting isn't helping our relationship or the fact that I feel like she's pushing me away.

The worst thing is I honestly do feel a little bit selfish but it seems like she only wants a relationship when things within our personal lives are perfect. That aint real life.
I understand what your saying, seems like she is having a real hard time right now and its effecting the relationship. All I can suggest is to not take her behavior personal given that it is probably coming from some type of internal hurt. If you truly love her, you will do your best at being supportive- even though it hurts right now. And if y'all want to put the relationship on the back burner for a while until things calm down, that's always an option to. Relationships can get really hard breh, and you can't anticipate how shyt will be at any given time. I'm sure she loves you but is having a hard time showing it.
 

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If she is pushing you away, then the door is open to walk away. You don't have to say a word. Just quietly walk away.
I know you care, but sometimes you have to grant a person's wishes.
 

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If she wants to be left alone.... then just leave her alone :leon:

Maaaan I get that but I wasn't told this till tonight when I brought up the fact that she's acting all strange and shyt, she told me the last time we had an argument about this sorta stuff she'd switch things up but there's literally no change.

Worst thing is she dropped the fact she'd wanted to be left alone after I was told that she'd give me a call tonight and a message to tell me an update about this family member. I got nothing till I dropped a message at 2AM asking her what was up.
 
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