Am I a Fetish or Just the Prettiest Girl here? Why Attractive Black Women Trigger White People

[DJK]

Young attractive sista tells a truth not often heard:

White Women Will Always Yearn to Be the Standard of Beauty. And White men are triggered when denied by women they deem beneath them because it forces them to acknowledge their own mediocrity despite all of their privileges.

Am I a Fetish or Just the Prettiest Girl in the Room? Why Attractive Black Women Trigger White People

[Femininity is measured in whiteness, and those who benefit from white ideals of beauty but aren't necessarily conventionally beautiful are noticeably uncomfortable when women ranked lower on the racial hierarchy are praised for their looks.

Existing in white femme spaces has shown me a significant amount of competitiveness I've never experienced with other Black women, and I soon questioned if all of the cattiness and backhanded compliments I've encountered was racism in disguise. For instance, on a past trip to Portugal, a friend of mine took notice of the hostel receptionist complimenting me whenever we'd pass the front desk. "He must really like you," commented my tall, model-thin brunette friend with a slight smirk. "He hasn't said a word to me."

I don't believe her comment was of malice, but rather confusion. White women, no matter how open-minded they believe themselves to be, still subconsciously see themselves as the "default," and any nonwhite woman fitting into the "hot girl" trope is supposed to be the exception, not the rule.

[In many white-centric nations where the Black female body is hypersexualized and degraded, there is an unspoken truth that the supposed allure of blackness is nothing more than a commodity to be used for sexual consumption.

Violent responses from rejected men are not at all unique to women. What differentiates me from the next white girl is that my race positions me as someone who should be thankful for being under the white male gaze.

An English coworker of mine once labeled me a "stuck up bytch" for ignoring his many attempts at flirting. An American white guy who once walked me home told me to "go fukk myself" for not rewarding his pseudo-chivalry. And a drunk German guy told me I "don't belong" to the country he himself was not a citizen of after I demanded he leave me alone. How much more aggressive and hateful could these men have become if we were not in public settings?

You cannot ignore how race is an important factor in establishing the dynamics of one's romantic relationship. Dating interracially comes with its own set of challenges, however, the "white is right" mentality is still heavily used to assess the worthiness of the non-white partner.

Unfortunately, the effects of white supremacy continue to sneak into my dating life, and it's a hard pill to swallow — despite how beautiful and intriguing I believe myself to be — that it's not always my dazzling personality that captures the attention of men.

Black women are not shiny, limited-edition products. Believing our physical attractiveness is only desirable when white people deem it so is a form of misogynoir I will not partake in.

 

[The Fade]

Part of the reason why certain people enact in imperialism is sexual access to other peoples bodies and they feel entitled to other races women

for example, the whole hijab debacle. These certain people project women wearing the hijab as a type of thing forced onto Muslim or darker women and at they same time they hyper sexualize the women. They wrote stories about themselves saving darker colored (and eastern) women from their own dark colored men because they fetishize the women. They would depict the men super black and the women light skinned. It has been used as propaganda to siege other nations. The idea black women needed to be saved from black men was also a white feminist talking point

so in a sense the author of this is right

 

[Wildhundreds]

Cicely Tyson made it clear before she passed..

A white man once told her that "he hated the fact her son called his father daddy"..

Or a white woman told her that, "she couldn’t believe how two black people made love to one another"..

What type of human being says shyt like this to a person of another race?

And more importantly, what type of idiot believes this type of mentality has gone away? The reality is right there.. Its just waiting to be accepted and embraced..

 

[I Really Mean It]

Black men face the same attitudes. A good looking breh entering a room will have the doughy-faced cacs

 

[Swagnificent]

Black men face the same attitudes. A good looking breh entering a room will have the doughy-faced cacs

Not really. Because men are valued by women for more than just their looks. Women on the other hand are only valued by men for their looks. So a beautiful woman has way more social capital than a man with equivalent good looks. Men react totally differently to a beautiful woman than women do to a good-looking man. To get a similar reaction from women, a man would have to be famous (aka have a very high status in society).

 

[BigMoneyGrip]

This is easy “stop fukkin wit crackas figuratively and literally”

 

[I Really Mean It]

Not really. Because men are valued by women for more than just their looks. Women on the other hand are only valued by men for their looks. So a beautiful woman has way more social capital than a man with equivalent good looks. Men react totally differently to a beautiful woman than women do to a good-looking man. To get a similar reaction from women, a man would have to be famous (aka have a very high status in society).

What? Average cacs hate good looking black men, especially when they notice that their women find them attractive. The vibe in the air always shifts when a handsome breh steps into a setting that is majority non-black.

 

[Swagnificent]

What? Average cacs hate good looking black men, especially when they notice that their women find them attractive. The vibe in the air always shifts when a handsome breh steps into a setting that is majority non-black.

No shyt. My post was in response to drawing a false equivalency between men and women when it comes to the importance of looks. The looks of a woman draw significantly more attention from the opposite sex than the looks of a man. You were trying to act like we (as black men) face the same scrutiny. Not even close. There's levels to this. And a woman's looks matter a lot more than a man's looks.

Think about it this way. A guy can look like Idris Elba and be stuck working at McDonads. You ain't never gonna see a woman that looks like Halle Berry stuck in a dead-end job. She's gonna have a ton of simps willing to give her whatever she wants in life based solely on her looks. Ain't no such equivalent for men. Wealthy women ain't really falling over themselves to give good-looking broke dudes a life of luxury. But we all know that there are tons of old rich men with young trophy wives.

 

[I Really Mean It]

No shyt. My post was in response to drawing a false equivalency between men and women when it comes to the importance of looks. The looks of a woman draw significantly more attention from the opposite sex than the looks of a man. You were trying to act like we (as black men) face the same scrutiny. Not even close. There's levels to this. And a woman's looks matter a lot more than a man's looks.

Think about it this way. A guy can look like Idris Elba and be stuck working at McDonads. You ain't never gonna see a woman that looks like Halle Berry stuck in a dead-end job. She's gonna have a ton of simps willing to give her whatever she wants in life based solely on her looks. Ain't no such equivalent for men. Rich women ain't really falling over themselves to give good-looking broke dude a life of luxury.

I’ve seen plenty of dimes stuck in dead end jobs. What world do you live in?

 

[Crude]

For years slender blonde headed White women with blue eyes were the American standard of beauty.

Now other women notibly Black women are getting that same shine in the mainstream and White women find it hard to comprehend.

It's not that Black women haven't been desired because they always have been found attractive by others races of men and women it's just now in a more liberal society people are more open with it.

 

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Nothing but truth.com

So glad others are acknowledging this. Also our beauty isn’t just a fetish to whites. They claim is just base sexual desire because it’s easy to dismiss just wanting to fukk someone.

In reality, black beauty is a threat to the myth of white superiority. You can’t claim that anything associated with darkness is inferior while also acknowledging the beauty of our features. We make them look stupid.

That’s why any picture of an attractive black woman is picked apart for her features and skin tone and she is claimed as being mixed or they try to attribute her attractiveness to having “white” features. That’s also why you are more likely to see caricatures of black femininity in the media instead of black beauty.

This is also why white men are just as obsessed with black men and their bodies as white women are. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard white men mentioning black male genitalia in the media.

This society is about supporting comfortable narratives for whites. Anything deviating from the lies that we are ugly, fat, ignorant, inferior is a threat to this entire system. And a woman demonized as “bottom of the barrel” “least attractive” “masculine” “nappy-headed hoes” having the sheer nerve to not worship whiteness must be attacked.

 

[Swagnificent]

I’ve seen plenty of dimes stuck in dead end jobs. What world do you live in?

True. That was obviously hyperbole. Just as its not impossible for a wealthy older woman to have broke young good-looking guy as her boytoy whose lifestyle she funds. However, we all know that the universe of old rich men with young trophy wives is far larger than old rich women with trophy husbands.

If a girl looks good enough she can use those looks to move higher in the social ladder more easily than a man with equivalent looks. That's because men value looks in a woman more than women value looks in men. Its why you see rich famous women like Beyonce marry a Jay-Z but you'll never see a Trey Songz marry a Leslie Jones. To act like looks are similarly important for men and women is to be delusional.

 

[KidJSoul]

True. That was obviously hyperbole. Just as its not impossible for a wealthy older woman to have broke young good-looking guy as her boytoy whose lifestyle she funds. However, we all know that the universe of old rich men with young trophy wives is far larger than old rich women with trophy husbands.

If a girl looks good enough she can use those looks to move higher in the social ladder more easily than a man with equivalent looks. That's because men value looks in a woman more than women value looks in men. Its why you see rich famous women like Beyonce marry a Jay-Z but you'll never see a Trey Songz marry a Leslie Jones. To act like looks are similarly important for men and women is to be delusional.

Looks matter in different ways for women.

You can be in a relationship as an ugly man, but you will not be treated as well.

Looks affect how much a woman can respect you sometimes, believe it or not. Theres women who legit regret being in a relationship with or having sex with a guy if he's ugly after they break up.

 

[FeloniousMonk]

This is easy “stop fukkin wit crackas figuratively and literally”

But but but love doesn't see a color..

When white men specifically choose black women, that's a fetish.

When black women specifically date white men, they do it based on class i.e. life will be better, similar to eating and living in the big house.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

But but but love doesn't see a color..

When white men specifically choose black women, that's a fetish.

When black women specifically date white men, they do it based on class i.e. life will be better, similar to eating and living in the big house.

I get what you are saying but
This mindset is not only regulated to the bolded
All these females of any race/ethnicity
Use chump ass white boys
For this very reason
That “they treat me better” shyt
Is a whole ass myth
That’s why you see all these think pieces
After one of those precious cacs
Go upside their heads
But you can’t tell women shyt
They have to see it for themselves