I think this is a false dichotomy. I'm pushing back bc bw have been doing this for quite a while now, not giving a fukk what nobody think. Iirc, it's a tenet of 3rd or 4th wave feminism. We now have a community of Lizzos and aunties twerking on tabletops over ppl scampi who
very much should care what ppl think.
Maybe it's time for something
new...?
Nah I disagree. They have a facade that they don’t care but they absolutely do. (In fact Lizzo wouldn’t be crying every other second if she truly was with it) And what’s more, they care too much about what the wrong people think. Same chick who can roll her eyes and threaten to “blank on me” for taking her son’s cell phone for using it during class…is also the same chick that can’t seem to find that same energy to tell that bum to get off her couch, or say “NOPE” when a sorry dude is pressing her for sex if she doesn’t want it.
A lotta Blk women are hyper aware AND sensitive to EVERYTHING. Same chick pretending to be “strong” cares so much about what others think about her hair, that she wearing somebody else’s hair on her head.
Blk women need to give the middle finger to the world. Stop advocating for everybody else and playing passive support roles in other people’s lives. Stop worrying about whether they gon call you a hoe b/c they are going to do it anyway. Stop worrying about trying to live up or down to other’s standards. Get the users out of your life and only be down for those whose actions demonstrate love for them.
Twerk. Get educated. Stack money. Stop giving babies to bums (edit: of all races). Have fun. Laugh loud. Let the naps out. Enjoy dikk responsibly.
Many haven’t really come into this confidence until recently, and a shyt ton of blk women are making strides for themselves. I like it.

Stop worrying about who gon hate you for your skin tone. Blk women are only starting to embrace true freedom and empowerment. When they do what’s best for them outside of others expectations, then we’ll see real change.
But that takes worrying less about others and more about themselves. Right now a lotta blk women are all bark and no bite and people know it.

That’s the thing about “feminism” and equal rights and “empowerment”. You can’t say you down for it, if you don’t have the courage to stand in it.