any of yall have old parent? how do you deal?

[Dont@Me]

DISCLAIMER: I'm not complaining about my parents at all and am curious how yall handle some situations with your older parents. IF you misinterpret what i say then fukk you

I don't even live in the same state as my dad , but it can be grueling some days trying to communicate with him. I love him and try to have patience with him while my brother has absolutely no patience and snaps at him easily. I tried to reprimand my bigger brother about it too (yes, "bigger" brother ).

Every time i call my dad he never really understands what i'm saying. The amount of times I have to repeat myself is frustrating and even when I slow down my speech. I feel bad for him because i know his hearing is bad. He also has a bad habit of interrupting people when they speak and he would be able to understand people more if he listened more. Every time I call him one the phone I spend about 30 minutes talking to him and when i need to go, he prolongs the process. I have to tell him I gotta go at least 3 minutes before i actually gotta go and be stern with him because that's when it seems like when he wants to talk the most . He claims no one ever spends enough time with him, but I think he has extremely high expectations of people and their time when thy have lives to live while he is at home all day. He got into arguments with several family members about this. It a sad situation though because he is old and really just wants attention. He has his moments where he complains and actually cries for nothing though. He slurs his speech sometimes and it's hard to understand him which makes conversations harder depending on how he is feeling that day.

Overall, it makes me conscious about being patient with people, but damn I never want to get old

 

[ThrobbingHood]

That’s why if I don’t have children by 40 years old... then I’m getting the snip at least. I’m not trying to be an old ass dad, having to get fed with a spoon by my teenage children.

Personally... I think anyone who decides to have children at 45/50 are incredibly selfish and just want to fulfil their own vain version of themselves, at the expense of their childrens’ child hood.

Bust senior creampies brehs.

 

[Cave Savage]

I know 22 year olds with dads in their 70s

I feel bad knowing that their dads might not live to see their weddings

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

My parents getting up there but they are doing fine. Their health is decent. I sent them some cell food. I really hope it helps. I got a plan to get us all in the same state in a few years. I really want to be close to them.

 

[Dont@Me]

My parents getting up there but they are doing fine. Their health is decent. I sent them some cell food. I really hope it helps. I got a plan to get us all in the same state in a few years. I really want to be close to them.

send your old parents prison cell food brehettes :jordanflip:

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

send your old parents prison cell food brehettes :jordanflip:

Cell food is a product that helps deliver more oxygen to the body. I take it. It gives you crazy energy.

 

[The Burger King]

By taking solace in the fact that I didn’t let them down by being a fakkit like OP

 

[who_better_than_me]

I understand where you coming from if your situation is anything like communicating with my grandpa. Dude is in his 80s now but even when he was in his 70 and 60’s he was hard to talk with. He wears a hearing device but it feels useless cuz it’s like you got talk into the ear with device for him to barely hear you and then hits just a lot of repetition after than and constantly repeating yourself. Be as cool as you want but it’s a lot of energy to elusive a simple visual conversation with him. He’s the only older person interact with in my life I have these issue with but that’s not because of his personality but more so his health.

 

[Heafcliffe]

Subs

 

[Rawtid]

Try writing him letters if you can find some time. That way you can say what you want without him interrupting and he might feel special getting mail. Sounds like he has time to reply.

 

[Ikwa]

Have ancient parents brehs

 

[karim]

DISCLAIMER: I'm not complaining about my parents at all and am curious how yall handle some situations with your older parents. IF you misinterpret what i say then fukk you

I don't even live in the same state as my dad , but it can be grueling some days trying to communicate with him. I love him and try to have patience with him while my brother has absolutely no patience and snaps at him easily. I tried to reprimand my bigger brother about it too (yes, "bigger" brother ).

Every time i call my dad he never really understands what i'm saying. The amount of times I have to repeat myself is frustrating and even when I slow down my speech. I feel bad for him because i know his hearing is bad. He also has a bad habit of interrupting people when they speak and he would be able to understand people more if he listened more. Every time I call him one the phone I spend about 30 minutes talking to him and when i need to go, he prolongs the process. I have to tell him I gotta go at least 3 minutes before i actually gotta go and be stern with him because that's when it seems like when he wants to talk the most . He claims no one ever spends enough time with him, but I think he has extremely high expectations of people and their time when thy have lives to live while he is at home all day. He got into arguments with several family members about this. It a sad situation though because he is old and really just wants attention. He has his moments where he complains and actually cries for nothing though. He slurs his speech sometimes and it's hard to understand him which makes conversations harder depending on how he is feeling that day.

Overall, it makes me conscious about being patient with people, but damn I never want to get old

My parents aren't that old, but I have a very old grandma. Patience is key and empathy for the situation old people are in. Growing old is not fun, you're alone, people stop taking you serious and you're getting more and more dependent on others. Sometimes, my mother and my aunt complain but I tell them to appreciate the time they have left with their mom and to accept her the way she is. One day, she will be gone and you're going to miss her. Just show old people love and be Patient with them, that's all they are looking for. And disregard their flaws, you never know what you will be like, when you're getting to their age.

 

[Dont@Me]

By taking solace in the fact that I didn’t let them down by being a fakkit like OP

you never let up do you?

I understand where you coming from if your situation is anything like communicating with my grandpa. Dude is in his 80s now but even when he was in his 70 and 60’s he was hard to talk with. He wears a hearing device but it feels useless cuz it’s like you got talk into the ear with device for him to barely hear you and then hits just a lot of repetition after than and constantly repeating yourself. Be as cool as you want but it’s a lot of energy to elusive a simple visual conversation with him. He’s the only older person interact with in my life I have these issue with but that’s not because of his personality but more so his health.

yea i just try my best to ask simple and short questions that get HIM talking more.

Try writing him letters if you can find some time. That way you can say what you want without him interrupting and he might feel special getting mail. Sounds like he has time to reply.

most solid advice in this thread actually

My parents aren't that old, but I have a very old grandma. Patience is key and empathy for the situation old people are in. Growing old is not fun, you're alone, people stop taking you serious and you're getting more and more dependent on others. Sometimes, my mother and my aunt complain but I tell them to appreciate the time they have left with their mom and to accept her the way she is. One day, she will be gone and you're going to miss her. Just show old people love and be Patient with them, that's all they are looking for. And disregard their flaws, you never know what you will be like, when you're getting to their age.

hopefully dead