Anybody else struggle with being consistent?

[Music Fiend]

I don't understand why I struggle so much with being consistent brehs.

I'm a smart dude, I just can't seem to get my life in order brehs. I try so damn hard and maybe that's the problem. I try OD hard and it can't be maintained, then I just get discouraged and fizzle out for a couple of months, then I bounce back.

I am litterally a human yo-yo. Starting to think I may be bipolar brehs.

This goes is regards to all my lifestyle. I just keep finding myself in an ever revolving pattern I can't seem to get out of. I eliminate all my distractions but it just seems to carry over into something new.

Smoking (weed and cigs), health (body), cleanliness, grades, passions/ambitions, women, friendships. All of em go OD up and down and I can't stop it.

I'll be in the gym for 6 months straight, looking great, eating clean, money straight, new women, not smoking or drinking much. My crib will be a1 clean, while I'm kicking ass at my ambitions. Im meeting new people and hanging with old people less.

Then before i can even realize it to stop, I'll have missed 3 months in the gym, put on 10 lbs, crib will be a mess, I'm back chillin with old chicks, I'm hanging with old homies and thinking to myself why am i hanging with the nikkas, I will have fallen back from all my interests, I'll be sleeping a lot more, somehow broke.

It never gets super super out of hand but all this starting from scratch over and over means I'm always going somewhere but nowhere at the same time.

 

[Captain]

A lot of times a lack of consistency or poor work/effort comes from planning too much for the future or dwelling/living in the past.

The times you felt like you were the most consistent/potent you probably were living in the present moment more. If you think about it this is all you really have, the present/now; the past is a memory and the future is an educated guess, and you exprience(d) them only in the present. Take care of now completely.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

I'm guessing you're in your early/mid-20's.

Correct me if I'm wrong.​

 

[Music Fiend]

A lot of times a lack of consistency or poor work/effort comes from planning too much for the future or dwelling/living in the past.

The times you felt like you were the most consistent/potent you probably were living in the present moment more. If you think about it this is all you really have, the present/now; the past is a memory and the future is an educated guess, and you exprience(d) them only in the present. Take care of now completely.

This for sure has something to do with it. I never live in the present. I don't even get excited anymore for the present. I'm judging myself everyday to be who I feel I should be, which is probably a perfectionist issue as well. But that extreme motivation goes from 100 to 0 so quick. I'm in the cycle where I'm eiither all consumed, where every thought it about a certain subject matter. Or I'm so far gone that I'm not even realizing ttime is passing.

Like right now I'm sitting at a 3.8 GPA for the semester, and I have a few finals tomorrow. I have not studied one bit. I have tried and tried, reading pages over and over and it's just my eyes glossing over the page. Nothing is going on in my mind, nothing being stored. Just nothing. I will read a page and forget what i just read by the next page.

I'm seeing a new chick and shes different from what I usually go for. Real shy, no body count (besides me), prolly a 6/10 in the face (usually go for higher), nice body. Cheerleader at my uni.Aerospace Engineer.She's been waking up, cooking, bringing me food she cooked at 6 am just because she without asking while I'm pulling all-nighters. And I just do not care. I feel bad bruh. I've just checked out man.

I'm guessing you're in your early/mid-20's.

Correct me if I'm wrong.​

Just turned 23 a couple days ago. Really hit me with a reality check. Had a get together planned, bunch of ppl were supposed to come, and litterally 5 out of 20 actually showed.

Just kinda taking into account all these cats I support and kick it with and party with routinely, nikkas ain't really caring like that. I'm no lame. But I felt the realness for sure. i gotta keep me moving, if I could just stop drifting.

 

[Ego Noir]

Breh you're probably depressed.

What I see is a lack of, well, anything inside you. It all feels empty, you feel like this is what you're supposed to be doing, you do it, you get decently successful at it, then at the top you realize there's still a void.

So you try to fix/focus on it and lose everything.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

I never live in the present. I don't even get excited anymore for the present. I'm judging myself everyday to be who I feel I should be, which is probably a perfectionist issue as well

 

[kevm3]

The key is to be sustainable. A lot of times when you do the yo-yoing, you overdo it. You might work out superhard every day for a week, but then your body is worn out, so you take a week off. You go super hard on your job, get burnt out and then take it easy for a while... the key is to learn to pace yourself so as not to overdo it and don't put unrealistic expectations on yourself.

 

[KingTut]

I'm forreal bipolar breh so I know exactly what you mean. My highs are really high but my lows... man my lows

A couple years ago I was hitting the gym, eating clean, passing all my classes, making good money at a decent job paying above minimum wage and then depression hit me like a fukking train. I went from 165 to 145 lbs within a couple months. Just failed all my exams this semester so I can't graduate again and I'm pretty sure my mom is gonna come down here and whoop my grown ass once I tell her tomorrow That's how I know when I'm at a low... I'll study well in advanced of an exam and get in there and just forget everything or start doubting myself and have a mini panic attack.

Depression ain't nothing to fukk with bruh... talk to someone if you can because if you don't it will just eat at you. And try to keep yourself busy with a new hobby or something. That's what I do since I hate being around people at times like this. I

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Direction and consistency is what I'm lacking

 

[BlackBall]

I suffer from indifference

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Are you the same music fiend from sohh?

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

And to answer your question, yes everyone struggles with it. I just try to take things day by day with a hope for the future and plans...

 

[Hawaiian Punch]

Realist thread in a minute. The key to life is being consistent, yet the hardest thing to do in life is stay consistent.

A lot of times a lack of consistency or poor work/effort comes from planning too much for the future or dwelling/living in the past.

The times you felt like you were the most consistent/potent you probably were living in the present moment more. If you think about it this is all you really have, the present/now; the past is a memory and the future is an educated guess, and you exprience(d) them only in the present. Take care of now completely.

Best answer thus far. It really is about staying in the present. There is no future, only right now. Constantly reiterate that to yourself, "what am I doing right now?". If it's something non productive change it to something productive.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Best thread of the day.

Bump

 

[Larry Lobster]

At least you have friends