Anyone ever come to the realization that YOU were the problem in a relationship?

[FreedMind]

This shyt is blowing my mind right now. I always thought of myself as being a good boyfriend, but I've been piecing together my recollections lately and I'm noticing that I may very well have been the toxic partner everyone rightfully despises.

I keep trying to vindicate myself and say that it's just my guilt that's making me think I was worse than I was, but I have an overwhelming feeling that's a lie.

I was in a nearly 8 year relationship where I spent probably 3 or 4 years being unhappy/ wanting to leave her. I was too p*ssy to just sever our relationship, and I kept trying to make it work, but I think I just ended up taking my unhappiness out on the relationship and on her.

Damn, I got some thinking to do. She wasn't perfect by any means, but I gotta do better. I can be a real scumbag.

 

[Splash]

Ye I dont spend to much time playing the blame game in any kind of relationship

What can I do better in the future
Sounds like you got plenty of room for growth, its aight.

 

[boriquaking]

We’re almost always gonna feel like the good guy in our own movie.

 

[DivaForever]

If youre always gettin dumped then yeah you need to pick your battles. Anytime you get into a fight.. ask yourself. Am i gonna still be arguing about this a year from now? If the answer is yes then you need do discuss it.. if not then its a non issue.

 

[Secure Da Bag]

I learned two things. Yes, I was the problem. Yes, I kept picking women who were problematic.

 

[karim]

One of my exes told me "I spend the entire relationship fighting for your appreciation" when we broke up. I thought long and hard about that, because I never felt that I wasn't appreciating her. Years later, I talked to her again and apologized, but her subsequent behavior showed me, that the problem was her immaturity and lack of self-esteem, not my lack of appreciation

 

[Dont@Me]

yea nikka. i kept cheatin

 

[Pimpdaddy]

Realizing this shyt too late hurts like a mf

especially when you see her years later with a good dude and you cant even be mad because you're the one that fukked up


come back babygirl
I changed

 

[Knowledge]

I know I'm the problem, because I don't want a relationship. Im even up from and say I'm not relationship material but these chicks swear they can change me. They end up falling in love and every time I leave they try to drag me back in. What's a nikka to do who just wanna fukk from time to time but don't but escorts

 

[NerdNash]

I realize this every time

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Nah I've never been the problem. It's always the woman that can't keep up with me.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

nahnot never.
it jus dont be meant to be.

 

[Vandelay]

I was guilty of not checking women when they did some fukk shyt...then would wonder why they shyt on me down the line.

Fellas, never be afraid to go without.


EDIT: I did used to cheat, but I never got caught so that doesn't count.

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

NOT ON THE COLI. ONLY THREE PEOPLE CAN BE AT FAULT FOR YOUR BAD RELATIONSHIP. WHITE PEOPLE, SIMPS AND WOMEN. IF SHE A WHITE WOMAN SHE IS AT DOUBLE FAULT.

 

[kaiOogway]

yea nikka. i kept cheatin