Basically it was for 100 Black Men to come together, network, and talk about the main topic which was "Tough Love".
The event was supposed to start at 2. I roll there around 2:30 and I thought brunch would be popping off and prepared, but it wasn't ready until 2:45.
The guest speaker wanted us to talk about Tough Love and what it meant. In the middle of it a woman came and the speaker came and said "Stand up men! We got a queen here and she ain't got a man!" or something to that effect.
The rules also included no misogny or homophobia. I understand and agree with both but there are many spaces now where ones opinion, especially a Black man's can be misconstrued as bigoted so I thought that was some bullshyt there.
In his beginning topics he used the term "cis hetero straight men" more than once, to which I'm argue I'm not cis ANYTHING but I think he was being sensitive to some of the gay Black men there.
Those two combined made me think it was on some bullshyt.
We finally got food and did brief networking. Some Black men in the community were doing some good things trying to get young Black children transportation to school, fighting food insecurity, getting more Black people in tech. All good!
The conversation went back to the topic of tough love.
One thing that annoyed me was that the speaker was using tropes of men saying we don't talk about feelings. The speaker even said he just talked about feelings two weeks ago with his therapist and is "just learning about it"...so why are you speaking on it?!
Some people said tough love was out of necessity which I agree. I was waiting for someone to say that tough love was toxic but thankfully no one did.
The brunch speaker also gave me the impression that he just liked to hear himself talk. He is an activist in the community so I feel that he thinks he can speak on things.
Wish there was more networking and building instead of being lectured to. We didn't need a theme for us to come together. One breh said that he went to one last year and people talk talked but they aren't here today.
@hood b. goode invited me to it and I think we could do a better one that serves our community better
The event was supposed to start at 2. I roll there around 2:30 and I thought brunch would be popping off and prepared, but it wasn't ready until 2:45.
The guest speaker wanted us to talk about Tough Love and what it meant. In the middle of it a woman came and the speaker came and said "Stand up men! We got a queen here and she ain't got a man!" or something to that effect.
The rules also included no misogny or homophobia. I understand and agree with both but there are many spaces now where ones opinion, especially a Black man's can be misconstrued as bigoted so I thought that was some bullshyt there.
In his beginning topics he used the term "cis hetero straight men" more than once, to which I'm argue I'm not cis ANYTHING but I think he was being sensitive to some of the gay Black men there.
Those two combined made me think it was on some bullshyt.
We finally got food and did brief networking. Some Black men in the community were doing some good things trying to get young Black children transportation to school, fighting food insecurity, getting more Black people in tech. All good!
The conversation went back to the topic of tough love.
One thing that annoyed me was that the speaker was using tropes of men saying we don't talk about feelings. The speaker even said he just talked about feelings two weeks ago with his therapist and is "just learning about it"...so why are you speaking on it?!
Some people said tough love was out of necessity which I agree. I was waiting for someone to say that tough love was toxic but thankfully no one did.
The brunch speaker also gave me the impression that he just liked to hear himself talk. He is an activist in the community so I feel that he thinks he can speak on things.
Wish there was more networking and building instead of being lectured to. We didn't need a theme for us to come together. One breh said that he went to one last year and people talk talked but they aren't here today.
@hood b. goode invited me to it and I think we could do a better one that serves our community better
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