Being A Weekend Dad Is Depressing…

[MoveForward]

You literally can never do enough… You pay your child support, sign them up for sports, ALWAYS show up no excuses, take your kids to sporting events, amusement parks, buy the PS5, X Box, Nintendo Switch, Disney cruises, Disney Park vacations, keep them fresh… As soon as they get out of line and you correct them, they will look at you and tell you that they want to go back to their mom’s.

On Monday when they’re back at their mom’s, they calling you telling you more shyt that they want you to buy. On Mother’s Day it was, “ Dad, what are we getting mom for Mother’s Day?” I didn’t hear a peep about Father’s Day yesterday at all. We go to therapy and all of that, I have voluntarily taken parenting classes, and I read shyt on how to be a better father and still… You start to realize that your relationship with your seed is very contingent and conditional.

Just venting… I know y’all live in Wakanda and everything is perfect in your world but when homes are broken, the child that left with the mom, overtime isn’t the same child. They become the mom… You’re the bad guy and whatever happened surely was your fault.

People say, “ Bro, they will see shyt for what it is when they become an adult… YOU just make certain that you are doing the right thing.” What a depressing existence….

 

[jdubnyce]

You start to realize that your relationship with your seed is very contingent and conditional.

Yikes
Don't know your situation, but that statement is

Sometimes Time spent with them >>>> Money spent on them

How old are the kids? Perhaps if they're really young, it's more of a maturity thing and will get better over time

 

[Swirv]

This is a hard situation to solve because a lot of it comes down to how they’re being raised whilst with the mom. Have you talked to her about what’s going on?

 

[number21]

Basically living like a vassal for the woman and the children. GMB.

Stay strong breh.

 

[LuuqMaan]

. It’s ok bro

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Praying for you and your family bro. You’re trying, so I pray the tide turns. Don’t give up, and I’m sure your kid appreciates you as a father. Don’t worry about that.

I know it’s hard to hear right now, and you probably don’t wanna see it, but it will get better. How old is your kid? My daughter does that same “I wanna go to mommy’s house” when she gets in trouble lol. Does the same with her mama, though, when she gets in trouble over there.

 

[Sauce and Footwork]

That last line might sound depressing as hell right now, but I come from a broken home and have 2 young kids that don’t know who they grandfather is at all. Because he played it wrong and is so selfish to the point he not in they lives at all. I know it’s rough. But as they get older they will appreciate it if you are a good father.how old are your kids?

 

[CapitalforCapital]

Man this is how I want my shyt to be when I have kids. But it can get expensive if you just an average breh. So i can see why you mad. One word can change your life tho and that is “no”.

 

[Matt504]

What caused the split between you and the mom?

 

[Shadow King]

Which is why I'm not going to be one period (on top of my own flaws).

Not signing that 10-20 year contract and not putting my living heart in a modern woman's hands.

 

[King Poetic]

Thank god I never had a kid and went through baby mama ex wife drama over a child

I’ll be 60 and not 40 with that headache

 

[New Jeruz Jewelz]

Bro, trust I went through the same thing. Cried myself to sleep on many occasions. It’s all in your mind and you can’t blame your son, he’sa child and can’t truly fathom the dynamics yet. My son is 15 now and it’s so different. Your job as a father hasn’t changed. Keep the faith and you’ll look back on this as a blip in time.

 

[Pseudonym]

How is the mom? How does she talk about you around the kids ?

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Damn that's tough homie, being a parent period is hard. I couldn't imagine that circumstance

 

[beenz]

my kids live in texas, so I have it worse than that. they come up for the holidays and what not and in the summer/spring breaks. at least they are able to fly solo.

just gotta do the best u can with the cards that have been dealt.

I did get a father's day gift at least

my youngest kid has been up here visiting for the past month though.