Being Single and Child-Free: The Gift That Keeps on Giving

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In a world that often equates fulfillment with settling down, the decision to be a child-free and single man may appear unconventional. However, I firmly believe that this path brings forth unique and undeniable benefits. Choosing to embrace a life without children or the commitments of a traditional partnership can be an empowering and liberating experience.

One of the remarkable advantages of being a child-free and single man is the freedom it offers for self-exploration. Without the responsibilities of parenthood or the demands of a long-term relationship, one has the opportunity to deeply discover and understand oneself. This freedom allows for personal growth, self-reflection, and the pursuit of individual passions and interests. It enables the exploration of different career paths, travel opportunities, and the chance to delve into hobbies or creative pursuits without compromising personal aspirations.

Choosing to be child-free and single grants emotional autonomy, which is essential for personal well-being and fulfillment. It enables one to focus on self-care, mental health, and establishing a strong sense of self. Emotional well-being becomes the priority, fostering a deep connection with oneself. This freedom allows for the exploration of various emotional connections and the ability to invest in meaningful friendships, without the added obligations and sacrifices that come with parenthood or a committed partnership.

Being child-free and single allows for a lifestyle characterized by flexibility and spontaneity. Without the responsibilities and constraints associated with raising children or catering to a partner's needs, one can adapt plans on the fly, seize unexpected opportunities, and embrace new experiences without hesitation. Whether it's embarking on impromptu adventures, pursuing last-minute career opportunities, or indulging in hobbies, the absence of dependents or commitments brings an unparalleled level of flexibility to one's life.

A child-free and single life can often lead to enhanced financial stability and freedom. Without the financial responsibilities of raising children or supporting a family, one has more control over their finances. This freedom allows for greater savings, investments, and the ability to indulge in personal desires or experiences that contribute to a fulfilling life. Financial stability not only provides a sense of security but also offers the potential to explore entrepreneurial ventures or philanthropic endeavors that align with personal values.

Choosing a child-free and single life can empower individuals to define their own identities authentically. Society often places expectations and stereotypes on men, such as being providers or fathers. By rejecting these norms, one can embrace their unique journey and redefine what it means to be a man on their own terms. This path encourages self-acceptance, self-expression, and the creation of a life that reflects one's true self, fostering a deep sense of contentment and fulfillment.

Being a child-free and single man offers numerous personal and emotional benefits. The freedom to explore oneself, cultivate emotional autonomy, embrace flexibility, attain financial stability, and define one's own identity are powerful advantages that contribute to a rich and fulfilling life. While the decision may not align with societal expectations, it is essential to honor one's authentic desires and needs, forging a path that allows for personal growth, happiness, and self-fulfillment.
 

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All this sounds good in theory but in reality its far from the rosy picture you paint, their is value in creating a family and rearing and training up children to be productive members of the society, who will one day care for you in old age and continue the family name, who will provide support and comfort.
As i see it no man in his 50s or 60s should still be preaching this single and child less life because it then looks like a stain on the man, building a family is a good thing, we just have to encourage more two parent family structures and present parents thats it, so what you argue is true but only up to a certain age, when your 36 and getting older, you see value in having a wife and a kid, someone to love, provide for and also rely on and trust too , so its a nuance thing
 

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Everybody don't want to have kids. Everybody SHOULDN'T have kids.

If YOU want to have kids , nothing is stopping you but ill never understand people who legit get angry at people who have the self-awareness to know that they don't want any.

I actually salute people who know themselves well enough to know that being a parent/wife/husband isn't for them.
 

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All this sounds good in theory but in reality its far from the rosy picture you paint, their is value in creating a family and rearing and training up children to be productive members of the society, who will one day care for you in old age and continue the family name, who will provide support and comfort.
As i see it no man in his 50s or 60s should still be preaching this single and child less life because it then looks like a stain on the man, building a family is a good thing, we just have to encourage more two parent family structures and present parents thats it, so what you argue is true but only up to a certain age, when your 36 and getting older, you see value in having a wife and a kid, someone to love, provide for and also rely on and trust too , so its a nuance thing
What's the fukking point of shytting out a kid in this fukked up, evil world? We have enough people on the planet already.

Legacy? Who gives a fukk about how people will "remember you". Dead people don't, that's for sure. And if there's an afterlife, I'm sure the opinions of the Earthly mortals are the last thing on your afterlife mind.

Let's face it, the majority of people are having kids out here due to either peer pressure or lack of dikk discipline and have to put up the world's biggest charade of love and care for the child whether they regret it or not. And lately the charade has been disappearing because we can see how much a lot of parents really give a fukk about their child's mental and physical well-being.

The economy ain't getting any better and you have to basically become an automaton 9-5er that works overtime just to afford you and your child's BASIC needs if you aren't big ballin.

Parents delude themselves into thinking this is normal and OK. I saw what my parents did and all my cousins' parents did and that told me exactly why not having kids is the best move in the 21st century.
 

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ill never understand people who legit get angry at people who have the self-awareness to know that they don't want any.
They're jealous that they didn't have that awareness before they decided not to pull out. They locked in for LIFE with an entire human being with their own willpower and own motivations.

shytty, garbage, scumbag parents are only locked in for 18 years though....legally.
 

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OP..

Everything you said is fine & dandy, but not everyone sees it the way you do.

Personally, I don't have kids. I wasn't opposed to having kids, but I was & still opposed to having them outside of marriage. No marriage=no kids!

I didn't find anyone to settle down and start a family with when I was in my young adulthood, so I kept it pushing...

As for being single, I guess I am still single because I am not married (yet), but I am in a relationship. I have always wanted to be in a relationship and have had a few during the course of my adulthood, but it took me up to this point to find someone who actually wanted yo be in one with me w/o the bs, narcissism and other mumbo jumbo people bring into relationships.

@ the end of the day, I just want people to live their lives and figure out what works for them however they need to do it!

If it means going through trials & tribulations before the 💡 comes on, then so be it. If it means listening to those qualified to give sage advice and practicing what was to them, then so be it! *shrugs*

I will be honest and say that I am a lil concerned about what may happen should I reach old age. Hopefully, I will be married by then, but she will be facing the same situation with an exception.

I just learned that there is an Adult Protective Services in my State and should I be in a situation where people who aren't related to me end up caring for me, then I could be a victim of elderly abuse. Not everyone respect nor care about old folks. So, I guess that comes with the territory! .

*shrugs*
 

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All this sounds good in theory but in reality its far from the rosy picture you paint, their is value in creating a family and rearing and training up children to be productive members of the society, who will one day care for you in old age and continue the family name, who will provide support and comfort.
As i see it no man in his 50s or 60s should still be preaching this single and child less life because it then looks like a stain on the man, building a family is a good thing, we just have to encourage more two parent family structures and present parents thats it, so what you argue is true but only up to a certain age, when your 36 and getting older, you see value in having a wife and a kid, someone to love, provide for and also rely on and trust too , so its a nuance thing

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