I think there are valid arguments on both sides of the single mother debate.
As a young woman, you’re supposed to be protected by the men in your family and you have to be taught that there are men who only want your body who will have fun with you and leave you with the responsibility, and there are men who will respect you AND THEMSELVES enough to not create illegitimate children.
But a lot of guys don’t get the memo that they need to wrap it up because there isn’t really a stigma on “baby fathers”. I have friends who knocked up chicks back in undergrad who graduated, got their careers on track and then married women with no kids, and there was no issue. Have their babymamas gotten married yet……..
This is why girls have to be more serious about it. Life isn’t always fair or balanced.
Men will toy with you if they can, and move on to the girl who is smarter than you and doesn’t wear her heart on her sleeve. Marriage, family and the future are about more than love and what a man says to get the draws.
Tough world. <— And I say that with all the empathy in the world. It’s a tough world for women who don’t know how this thing goes.