Breaking up with your girl over racist family?

[Dreamchaser]

I was talking to a friend of mine that is black that been with his girlfriend for over a year and he recently learned that his girlfriend parents are racist. He told me that her parents weren't happy when they started dating and in large it had to do with his race. We got into the conversion of whether or not he should break up with her over this. I told him that a racist family is a deal breaker for me especially if he potentially see a future with her. Just curious to know how people here would respond to this situation.

Edit: Both are in their early 30's looking to settle down.
Edit: Guy was born in Kenya and moved to the states in elementary school , chick family is Indian and was born in the USA.

 

[jdubnyce]

Basically is the girl willing to choose him over her family?

She'd have to cut ties with her fam.

 

[VertigoKnight]

A year? First thing he should be checking out if his pawging.

Like the breh above said would depend if she is ready to cut ties with her family.

 

[Dreamchaser]

Basically is the girl willing to choose him over her family?

She'd have to cut ties with her fam.

I'm not sure, but I know she wants to keep a relationship with her family.

 

[Luke Cage]

Eventually it will lead to problems. When the relationship is new it'll just you and her versus them. But unless she is willing to cut them off entirely, she will eventually get more and more comfortable with letting them into your life and you will be more and more exposed to micro aggressions, and eventually it'll get to a point where she is siding with them against you.
Now you not just with a girl who has a racist family. You are just with a racist family period.

 

[STAN JONES]

when i was younger i dated a middle eastern girl who family was racist af but I didn’t care

nowadays I wouldn’t waste my time

its cool if yall just dating but I wouldn’t take her serious and definitely don’t get her pregnant

it’d be pretty fukked up to intentionally bring a kid into a family that won’t love and support them

 

[1thouwow]

Your friend huh

 

[jdubnyce]

I'm not sure, but I know she wants to keep a relationship with her family.

Yeah...dont think a relationship would work if that's the case

I see this as 2 path choice with no hybrid option

Relationship with bf or relationship with family.

 

[SunZoo]

bytch gotta get down with the get down.



I mean that's how it usually works most of the time anyway, the woman has to make more effort to integrate into the mans family. Of course you wanna have your lifelines and support systems but chances are if they are that far apart idiologically then being cut off/disowned for doing what you feel is right isn't that far of a step to make.

 

[SunZoo]

Yeah...dont think a relationship would work if that's the case

I see this as 2 path choice with no hybrid option

Relationship with bf or relationship with family.

Doesn't matter what it is is...if your family can't live and let you live, wether it be partner, job ect, they don't respect your soverignty...fukk em.

 

[Dreamchaser]

Your friend huh

I'm on the internet, if I wanted to say it was me I would.

 

[1thouwow]

I'm on the internet, if I wanted to say it was me I would.

Then why didn’t you

 

[get these nets]

I don't see the problem. I would keep a white son in law at arm's length.

Your man is probably more upset that his family embraced his girlfriend, and that the feeling wasn't mutual on the other end.

 

[...o3]

...the plight of a swirler bruh.








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