They’re ashamed that they prefer a man’s bottom, or to be a bottom to another man. I think on some level they feel like it’s wrong and unnatural to be attracted and to have sex with a other man, but they can’t ignore the urges they have no matter how hard they try.
There’s a riskier lifestyle attached to gay men, more chances of stds and hiv—and they know how others especially heterosexuals see gay sex. It’s “ewwww…”
They’re afraid of how their family and friends will treat them once they find out. And I get it, but it’s incredibly hard to hide that shyt and live a double life without one day getting caught up. Some of these men have extreme paranoia and fear of being exposed. They are willing to take that secret to the grave. They will kill over it. That’s why DL men are honestly dangerous as hell.