my mother didnt know the man that was living with them wasnt her father till my grandma kicked dude out when she found him fondling himself to the kids.
(my grandmother met dude while she was pregnant with my mother).
if your parents come from a family of like 6+ kids I can bet they have similar stories...
...they may not know about it...but its real.
we think a lot of this fukery is new...
...but black folks are generations deep into the clown shyt.
Deep.
There was a thread on here that cited a study that said 30% of all Americans have misattributed births. Misattributed births is the term for having a parent (most likely a father) who is not the one you knew to be your biological. Can't find the thread at the moment otherwise I would link it.
With the high rate of out of wedlock births and single parent households in the black community, I would probably add another 10-15% to that.
More anecdotal, I've been a part of black genealogical circles for the past 15 years. With the rise of DNA testing, every certified black genealogist that I know have stories of children popping out of nowhere, family members being tested and finding out one of their parents are not their biological parents. It's everywhere. From the most respectable bourgeois black families down to the black families in the hood so it's not even a class thing.
Even in my own family. My 2nd great grandparents were prominent abolitionist who helped escape slaves on the underground railroad in Canada. They had about eight children and they all became prominent members of the black community in Detroit and Chicago. Bourgeois and respectable, come to find out, between those eight children, they sired another 10 grand children that were unaccounted for and for whom we knew nothing about. Found out through DNA testing. Some were given up for adoption quietly, some were given to neighbors, some were supported by their parents but the parents never told the family. It's a whole mess.
If you read the autobiography of Malcolm X, he talks about how in his youth, all nikkas used to do was fukk around. Didn't matter the location, whether in Lansing where he grew up, or in Boston, or Harlem. It's been around for a long time. The older generations were just as bad as our current generation, but they don't talk about it. And we hold up our older relatives as being good traditional Christian people. They were anything but. They were just like us.
And this goes all the way back to slavery with the breeding farms and whatnot. It's just common human behavior that has existed across all generations and across all walks of life.
What brehs today need to realize is that all this fukking around is going to cause headaches for their children and grandchildren who will eventually find out about their daliances. They will find out their grandfather slept around town or their grandmother was a hoe, and carry it as shame. But we in our youth now, don't see our behavior as problematic, as we're simultaneously questioning our older relatives for their lax sexual ethic, even though we're doing the same thing they did. It's a cycle.
