Brehs that have been in a monogamous relationship for more than a year...

[The Realist Perspective]

Why haven't y'all married your girl?

We're talking, a solid year of monogamous relationship. Just y'all, dating. That's your public, claimed girlfriend and you are her boyfriend.

How much longer y'all need to know each other? Date? fukk? I mean what else needs to be done that hasn't been done already, discussed that hadn't already been discussed for you to take it to the next step?

Is she truly the one?

I been in this situation. I've been in a 3 year and a 2 year relationship before and honestly, I was wasting the girls time. I knew for a fact I never was gonna marry her. Because if I'm with her for a year...what else do I need to know about her?

Let's talk about it men. Are we just wasting these girls time for easy p*ssy, comfortability and familiarity?

 

[Jahbarri]

Some girls you just know they ain’t forever ever . And you act accordingly

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

ridiculous

 

[Fat Fred Jones]

It's a valid question. However, In that first year, the people are still experiencing that new relationship energy. Everybody's judgement and behavior is off. You'll do more than typical and ignore more than you should. Plus people can change so much in the span of a year or three, especially so if either individual is in their early 20s.

Once in the mid 30s, maybe the people are closer to who they'll be for the long term.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I have no desire to get married.

 

[OnlyOneBoss]

I feel like this statement doesn’t apply if the parties involved are under the age of like 28


But at 30+ you make a solid point I feel OP but I also feel like you’re taking dating much more seriously at that age as well

 

[Music Fiend]

She switched year 4. Thats why.

i saw some flags but she was 90% what i wanted. Took me til year 3 to really start getting microscopic and looking super deep.

then i realized she was selfish and non-lazy in working and public but personal life lazy

 

[Trav]

Gotta make sure you gon get over those 3rd-5th year hurdles everybody go through. Rather find out now while everything split then get together and shyt turn into a disaster. Aint no benefit to jumping the gun early.

 

[VertigoKnight]

You need at least 3-4 yrs together before you should even be thinking about engagement.

That first year is still the honeymoon period.

The real test for me is can you both live together?

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

Marriage isn't needed to define a relationship and that's how we both feel. We'll get married when it's time and not any sooner to conform to society's expectations of how relationships should be.

 

[KingBeez]

Considering how the world is right now, a girl you started dating at the beginning of the pandemic could’ve been completely different once shyt started to open up again.

You may think you’re dating a homebody, but when she starts wearing less and going out more, you may see how she really is.

Plus to me, the first year is the easy part, year two and three of dating is where the limits are tested. Friend groups/families are introduced to each other, the possible notion of moving in occurs, etc.

I think 3-4 years of dating before marriage, with one year of that being y’all living together, is enough time to see if someone truly is marriage material. A year doesn’t cut it

 

[Givethanks]

Broke, went back to school, wanna get a d cent job and wanna buy a house (hopefully) , been dating for 5 years.

We talk about it, she said she's in no rush.

 

[the cool]

Gotta make sure you gon get over those 3rd-5th year hurdles everybody go through. Rather find out now while everything split then get together and shyt turn into a disaster. Aint no benefit to jumping the gun early.

Me and my ex broke up after 6 yrs

 

[Seoul Gleou]

because i checked the scoreboard

and GMB hasn't taken any losses

 

[the cool]

You need at least 3-4 yrs together before you should even be thinking about engagement.

That first year is still the honeymoon period.

The real test for me is can you both live together?

Me and my ex were together for 4 yrs and lived together the last 2yrs (6yrs relationship)

found out I can’t live with her. Never cook cleaned or did dishes. Brushed teeth only in mornings not at night