Can Patriarchy Save Black People from Poverty?

[ignorethis]

The black community is patriarchal.So many of the single black mothers have internalized sexism.

No no no, if blacks In America aren't matriarchal, then that means matriarchy has never existed in the history of the world.

African Americans are what happens when you try to implement matriarchy and it failed horribly.

What you guys call internalized sexism is just a woman doing what comes naturally to her.

Education in science, engineering, technology,math and finance is what we need. Can you imagine a generation of black kids with a background in these fields? We basically need that tiger mom parenting.

Do you have Asian friends? Tiger mom parenting is usually only possible because there is an Asian father working all day as a doctor or an engineer making sure all the financial needs of the home are taken care of.

 

[hatechall]

Not saying it isnt a problem, but there are great dymanics at play that are more influential. Making a correlation between poverty and lack of 2 parent homes is way too tenous. I think enivronmental and educational factors play bigger roles. Your belief that two parent homes fixes thede problems is based on your misguided ideas about how men raise children. A father isnt gonna teach you discipline and structure any more effectively than a mother. Only thing a father MAY be better than a mother at is providing a positive black male image that the child MAY duplicate in order to be a servicable citizen. Thats it. Other than that you cant say having a father in a two parent home provides anything more than a single parent home other than possible financial stability. Your ideas and perception about the black male role model problem is being fed by an idea about young black men perpetrated by white media. And in actuality what that idra is really expressing is a deep emasculation of the black male that is widespread in this country. There is a social angst going on within the young black male community that doesnt really have much to do with fatherlessness (though it is a factor) as it does hopelessness and disenfranchisement. I will say that fathers influence sons and daughters in a way that makes them more productive human beings, but thats it. All the problems in this country for blacks and many other peoples comes from education and money. Thats it. When you see white fathers teach white children how to be succesful youre glossing over the fact that the societal advantages that fathers father had allowed that father to be put in a situation where he knows enough to teach that son. Unfortunately black fathers arent always readily able to do that bc they themselves were never given those tools from their fathers bc their fathers were never PROVIDED with tbose tools. There are plenty of black and white families with two parents who are stuck in generational poverty. Like i said, it all boils down to education and money.

Excellent post. I wish I could pos rep that jawn

I agree that most of "our" problems boil down to being poor and uneducated. I don't believe we can solve them simply by adhering to a particular set of conservative principles or practices, as so many black people seem to believe.

 

[Luna]

Thatrogueassdiaz made excellent points. What also need to teach children to love and respect not only their parents but everyone in their communities. In order to do that you need to respect your child while instilling authority. No more child abuse, no more spanking, no more threatening kids and forcing the idea that physical aggression is how you solve your problems with othes. This is why they grow up fighting at schools and recording it. Kids need to be able to trust and confide in their parents so that they grow up stable, decent people.

 

[StickStickly]

Do you have Asian friends? Tiger mom parenting is usually only possible because there is an Asian father working all day as a doctor or an engineer making sure all the financial needs of the home are taken care of.

And that involves men obtaining careers where they make enough income to provide for a wife and children and a mortgage, car payments, etc without the help from another earner. These careers call for higher level of education and skills, which means advanced degrees are necessary. And this means that one would have the grades and discipline to attend a university and postgrad Ed, which means they would have excelled or done well in high school, and this goes back to parenting. Not just tiger moms, but tiger dads, grandparents and families too. Hell throw in there a tiger community where our culture is set to value education and excellence and all of the above. That's how the Asians do it.