Can someone help me with the “not caring what people think about you “ mindset

[The Intergalactic Koala]

I often struggle with this mindset. Like there are moments where I shake it off and be like "fukk it", then there are times where I wish folks would see the best in me. Yet, during this dark moment of my life which I hope to get better, I come to realize that I am just me.

I can't change the mentality of what folks feel about me, especially nowadays where I have damn near nothing but travel bags and dreams of going farther. At the end of it all, you got yourself and only you know the true story of your life. Not everybody else.

I would rather folks point the finger and make their own judgement over trying to figure me out and end up being wrong in the end.

Bottom line, just see yourself through as you are going to get sleep tonight, eat Cheerios in the morning, and walk out of the house and see the world as ain't shyt as it is.

 

[Barlow]

to an extent yeah, but you can’t let that control you... that’s people’s faults.

off topic but I heard a motivational speaker say something that folks need to hear with the race to success. He spoke about ‘watching everybody on social media..etc, and trying to keep up with them and all the purchases and lifestyle. Went on to explain why some people we classify as rich aren’t happy. You end of living ur life for others and trying to live their lifestyle, completely alienating yourself from ‘yourself’

Very few people will actually admit that they care how they’re perceived but you can clearly see it with 99% of people.

We all have parts of us we tone down or turn off for the public. Work, school, social life etc… we care and we should care how we’re perceived in these areas because life relies on other people.

the key is being cultured and flexible enough to put your spin on whatever situation you come across.

I was talking politics with a coworker today, did I rant about ados and black power? No, because that’s not the place. But I made it known that I lean toward no party and am about black rights.

 

[ImLionyall]

How can an individual strike a balance between not caring what people think and living in belligerence

Criticism is inevitable, ppl will have opinions, but the shame or embarrassment you feel afterward is temporary and a choice. No one can make you feel something without your consent. Why would allow ppl to hijack your time in this life? We all have like 60-70 years until we croak but you’re gonna spend worrying about what @Another Man thinks? You think ppl sit around worrying about what you think of them

 

[Barlow]

Also I better not see any nikkas who say rap makes us look bad in here

 

[AllHolosEve]

- @Dogmatic for me it's the simple acceptance that you can't please everyone & trying to do so will only make you miserable. My existence doesn't revolve around other people's expectations.

Very few people will actually admit that they care how they’re perceived but you can clearly see it with 99% of people.
We all have parts of us we tone down or turn off for the public. Work, school, social life etc… we care and we should care how we’re perceived in these areas because life relies on other people.....

-While I generally agree with the sentiment I will say there are those of us who navigate those areas & still don't care about perception. Myself, I turn off parts in certain environments because I don't feel it's relevant, not because I care about perception.

 

[Redwood]

Focus more on the task at hand

 

[Sad Bunny]

I have learned to accept that people don’t care as much as you think they do. Some people are naturally judgements but they’re not really good people anyways.

Live and be happy.

 

[hatealot]

Put your happiness and health first. Manage your finances well and even reward yourself.

How you doing on your progress?

 

[Rozay Oro]

How you doing on your progress?

Better than ever. God is good. Unrequited love can no longer hurt when you love yourself more. I still plan to do therapy soon for my baggage from childhood and teen years.

 

[2 one 3]

They aren’t putting money in your pocket


fukk em…


And even if they are…

fukk you, pay me…


People are gonna have an opinion about you one way or another. You just gotta decide if you’re gonna let it cripple you or just let that shyt you can’t control just roll off your back.

the choice is yours…

 

[get these nets]

If you're comfortable in your own skin, the only people's opinions that should matter are from people who have genuine love and concern for you. They will call you out and rein you in when you're out of order.
If you can figure this out as a kid when there's peer pressure to fit in, you won't have a problem as an adult.

 

[Clay Puppington]

These are good points

My main point which i didn’t emphasize was how that mindset could lead to rationalizing shytty behavior on your part

 

[96Blue]

What helped me is knowing that people are going to think what they think how it makes me feel. Now how you let it affect you is the real thing you should be worrying about.