Can you be in love with a man that can't satisfy you sexually?

Claudex

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Sure. I'll never be satisfied sexually so I don't even worry about it anymore. If he's satisfied and treats me well, it wouldn't stop me from falling for him.

A couple of years back I used to think that women that said this ^ were misguided. But now I know better, there are really people (women and men) out there that just don't feel desperate for sexual fulfillment like most.

I respect the fact that you know yourself enough to know exactly what you personally need and don't need out of a man.:salute:

I'd just like to point out the dangers of looking at sex as an obligation though. That can bring resentment in the long-run brehette. So I myself would suggest you approach sex as in a way to see a side of your man you don't get to see otherwise. A side that, maybe orgasm aside, you can fall for or learn to appreciate.

I remember that one the really good aspects of sex for me often was just how I could surprise my girlfriend with an expected push or a pull to a different direction mid-coitus. Just that particular thing made sex both unique and special...orgasm aside.

An obligation is a much less attractive endeavor, in fact the definition of it...

An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment: he has enough cash to meet his present obligations | [ with infinitive ] : I have an obligation to look after her.

• the condition of being morally or legally bound to do something: they are under no obligation to stick to the scheme.

• a debt of gratitude for a service or favor: she didn't want to be under an obligation to him.

• Law a binding agreement committing a person to a payment or other action.


...has one too many words that one does not want to ever see attributed to sex itself.
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It's mental. Do you just let your self go, like, drop everything that you are worried/excited/scared about at the time as far as real life and just live in the moment?
I can't say that I have. Maybe it's just a matter of finding someone I'm comfortable with on a deeper level? I don't know. I stopped trying to figure it out.
 

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A couple of years back I used to think that women that said this ^ were misguided. But now I know better, there are really people (women and men) out there that just don't feel desperate for sexual fulfillment like most.

I respect the fact that you know yourself enough to know exactly what you personally need and don't need out of a man.:salute:

I'd just like to point out the dangers of looking at sex as an obligation though. That can bring resentment in the long-run brehette. So I myself would suggest you approach sex as in a way to see a side of your man you don't get to see otherwise. A side that, maybe orgasm aside, you can fall for or learn to appreciate.

I remember that one the really good aspects of sex for me often was just how I could surprise my girlfriend with an expected push or a pull to a different direction mid-coitus. Just that particular thing made sex both unique and special...orgasm aside.

An obligation is a much less attractive endeavor, in fact the definition of it...

An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment: he has enough cash to meet his present obligations | [ with infinitive ] : I have an obligation to look after her.

• the condition of being morally or legally bound to do something: they are under no obligation to stick to the scheme.

• a debt of gratitude for a service or favor: she didn't want to be under an obligation to him.

• Law a binding agreement committing a person to a payment or other action.


...has one too many words that one does not want to ever see attributed to sex itself.
:francis:

I feel what you're saying and I guess I shouldn't say obligation because if I don't want to do it, I won't.

Maybe I should say I appreciate intimacy more than sex. i can be good with massages, cuddling or even just sleeping together nude. Intercourse is more for his benefit than mine. Also because I sincerely enjoy pleasing my partner, I don't think I come off as a woman that's feels obligated to have sex. I just know it's apart of the "deal" you sign up for when you get in a relationship with someone.
 

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I feel what you're saying and I guess I shouldn't say obligation because if I don't want to do it, I won't.

Maybe I should say I appreciate intimacy more than sex. i can be good with massages, cuddling or even just sleeping together nude. Intercourse is more for his benefit than mine. Also because I sincerely enjoy pleasing my partner, I don't think I come off as a woman that's feels obligated to have sex. I just know it's apart of the "deal" you sign up for when you get in a relationship with someone.

There's a decent someone out there waiting for someone just like you. Hope you find them brehette. :obama:
 

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I can't say that I have. Maybe it's just a matter of finding someone I'm comfortable with on a deeper level? I don't know. I stopped trying to figure it out.


You need sexual therapy....... Not kidding. I bet there are some deeper issues that you should not expose online.



I may be wrong though :yeshrug:
 
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