Challenge: Black Men And Black Women Discuss Your Collective Failures In Life

[CHILLL]

He did it for your own good....

i guess he did

 

[Mandarin Duck]

What is the environment and people like that you would have to "dumb" down. I think I know what you mean, are you saying they wouldn't like what you have to talk about or your lifestyle?

You got 2 sides.
The "good" side - Racist white cacs(this is farmland and for some reason racism comes along with farming) and mexicans who want to be white.
The "bad" side - Mexican gangs. I grew up on the "bad" side and while I'm still coo with my friends I want something different. I'm not exactly like them so there's always a cultural difference there. But it's not all about race. If they were black gangsters that really wouldn't solve my problem either.
I'm chilling with my friends after going away for college and living life, they telling me stories of going to prison, shooting people and all the time they spent in jail. I'm sitting there like .
I'm not tryna get into no shyt anymore because I'm older so I try only chill with them every once and a while.


So I have these 2 sides. And talking could be a good example.
Let's say I want to discuss politics.
I can talk to a gun-toting right wing tea party member with a Nobama sticker on his pick-up truck.
Or a mexican gangster who doesn't give a shyt about politics.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Do you have a link to the discussion on the other site?

 

[CinnaSlim]

My failures:
-Not taking responsibility for my actions and decisions
-Feeling entitled and ungrateful towards my family
-Procrastinating and running from my problems
-being afraid to be vunerable
-Letting fear of failure run my life.
-Being financially irresponsible and over indulging.

 

[iBrowse]

My failures:
-Not taking responsibility for my actions and decisions
-Feeling entitled and ungrateful towards my family
-Procrastinating and running from my problems
-being afraid to be vunerable
-Letting fear of failure run my life.
-Being financially irresponsible and over indulging.

Four of these things are my issues that I'm working on.

 

[Yup]

1. Being perfect

 

[CinnaSlim]

Four of these things are my issues that I'm working on.

Then let's work on them together.

 

[thirdeye]

I treat people the way I'd like to be treated but I treat the ones that are undeserving.
I never follow through with an idea, sometimes half-assed but never whole-assed.
I'm squandering my potential because I'm afraid of failing but to be able to acknowledge your potential, you need to fail and try again.

Those are my main issues.

 

[iBrowse]

Then let's work on them together.

I think that could happen....

 

[Medicate]

Do you have a link to the discussion on the other site?

Yea......we went in and really brought out some good dialogue

http://destee.com/index.php?threads...tive-failures-only-sisters-post-please.61052/

http://destee.com/index.php?threads...ive-failures-only-brothers-post-please.61053/

 

[Medicate]

My failures:
-Not taking responsibility for my actions and decisions
-Feeling entitled and ungrateful towards my family
-Procrastinating and running from my problems
-being afraid to be vunerable
-Letting fear of failure run my life.
-Being financially irresponsible and over indulging.

That third one has been one of my issues....I work on it now, by going back in my mind and reliving the issue all over, and making the right decision and it always comes out with a better ending obviously, that way if it happens again, i'll know how to handle it. Basically retracing your step kind of thing.

 

[Soundwave]

I'm a cynic/pessimist by nature ... people have told me that I put myself down too much (even if it's in a joking manner). That in itself is a failure, but it also bleeds into my comic strips (which I like). I just have to think more positively, but I'm so used to dwelling on the negative ...

 

[Medicate]

You got 2 sides.
The "good" side - Racist white cacs(this is farmland and for some reason racism comes along with farming) and mexicans who want to be white.
The "bad" side - Mexican gangs. I grew up on the "bad" side and while I'm still coo with my friends I want something different. I'm not exactly like them so there's always a cultural difference there. But it's not all about race. If they were black gangsters that really wouldn't solve my problem either.
I'm chilling with my friends after going away for college and living life, they telling me stories of going to prison, shooting people and all the time they spent in jail. I'm sitting there like .
I'm not tryna get into no shyt anymore because I'm older so I try only chill with them every once and a while.


So I have these 2 sides. And talking could be a good example.
Let's say I want to discuss politics.
I can talk to a gun-toting right wing tea party member with a Nobama sticker on his pick-up truck.
Or a mexican gangster who doesn't give a shyt about politics.

 

[iBrowse]

That third one has been one of my issues....I work on it now, by going back in my mind and reliving the issue all over, and making the right decision and it always comes out with a better ending obviously, that way if it happens again, i'll know how to handle it. Basically retracing your step kind of thing.

I think the procrastination and fear of failure are tied together for me because I always want things to happen on my terms and when all my ducks are in a row and if its not the "perfect time" with everything how I want it, I sit back and "wait" until it is.

At least I used to be like this.