I think the other part you gotta consider is how you experience a certain place...
I love Virginia to death, but have no ties to it besides growing up there. Didn't graduate high school there. No college there. No family there, didn't start working there, nothing to really draw me back there other than the fact I bonded with the culture in my multiple times living in multiple parts of the state...
I didn't graduate from anything in California either, but I did start my primary education there, and the biggest thing is I have family all over. That can't be replicated, and no matter how long I've been away, every time I'm back in Sac or LA it feels like home. It's a different feeling...
They are both home to me for different reasons, I just didn't have the experience of growing up in one city or state, so I was shaped by both in different ways at different times. California is my home of record, my home by birthright and my home by family, not to mention i know people and am extremely comfortable there...
Virginia is my home because i experienced most of my "coming of age" moments there, developed relationships with people, and assimilated some of the culture living amongst its influence...
So I have a bi-coastal personality, people knew when I was younger I'm not really from VA, not just the fact that cats didn't grow up with me before middle school, but people also know I have no family out there. It's my adopted home, but I'm still one of them in other ways...
People in Cali know I wasn't raised there after elementary school, you can hear it in my speech and style, but you can also tell I'm from there, and people know I have family there. It's my original home...
And I'm 30 and have spent parts of my adult life in both states...
So my point is that plenty of people have had similar journeys to mine, it all just really depends on how that person feels, how their city receives them too...