Coli: Am I Wrong For This? (long read) (input from anyone and everyone welcome)

Am I wrong for curbing my "friend"

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I had to do it to em.
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Now, before you say it...yes, when I was younger I put up with alot of shyt that I wouldn't put up with now and I was kind of a huge c00n and admittedly hella whitewashed back then. so...

Yeah, I ignored a text from a friend that I've known for over 20 years since grade school a week ago. He just texted me and said "what's up?" guess he wanted to catch up since I hadn't seen him in over a year or talked to him for more than 15 minutes since then.

Why did I ignore him...basically it's like this. My life has changed since I moved to NYC. I grew up in Western Pa, in a predominantly white suburban affluent neighborhood. Went to predominantly white schools from k-college. I used to hang out with mostly white people and never really had black friends like that except for a few. Now except for 3 people, everyone I hang out with is either black or spanish. I used to be that dreaded corny suburban black nerd that was the token. Was a geek didn't get play yadadada. This dude is this nerdy white jewish guy that wore glasses and was in the same boat. I guess we connected cause were outcasts of the same coin.

But yeah, me ad this hung out but he would always be saying this hella wack blatantly racist shyt all the time. Just so I don't make this an epic wall of text he would be making slick disses about black folk...back in the day I really didn't notice it cause I was not as keen on race as I am now.

When we were in college and would go out, he would always lowkey get mad that I was more successful with women than him. He would meet women off of myspace, bring them to my apartment from time to time and every single time, those women would want to hang out more with me than him. They would always be saying how creepy he was, how he made inappropriate sexual advances and made the atmosphere uncomfortable, how they like hanging out with me more. Hooked up with a few of them. He also had a penchant for picking up teenage girls in his 20s cause no women his age that were worth a damn wanted anything to do with him. Whenever he had women, they would always take advantage of him and then dump his ass. They obviously did not like him as a person. He would always overcompensate for his lack of looks, charm, abrasive right wing politics with his money.

This one time, I remember I was talking to this blonde chick at the bar, she was feeling me I guess...we started chatting it up. She was smiling at me. Then all of a sudden the dude walks into the middle of our conversation...literally between the two of us and says "she's not into you" and made the atmosphere so uncomfortable.

The kicker was when me and him were walking to a party, we meet five dudes and one of them asked me "where the weed at?" I was gonna sell them a little 10 out of my stash...this dude takes it and walks away...I run up and was bout to take it back then he swung at me with a right, so I grabbed him with a collar and swung at him with a right....next thing you know I am gettig whooped on by 5 dudes.

So what does this guy, who's supposed to be my friend do? RUN like a biotch...4 blocks away to a fukking mexican bar/restaurant....while I had to run into a crowded party we were going to with a cracked eyebrow bleeding heavy.

As we went through our college years I started growing into my looks and getting buff and whatnot, and he started losing his hair and going bald, getting fat.

For as much as I had cool times with the dude the underhanded racist bullshyt and his obvious attitude just irked me. He would later rub his success in the corporate world in my face when I moved to NYC and was struggling trying to find work. He would be bragging about hooking up with these black women and saying I hated black women on some bullshyt, he would always get with these wack white worshipping low self esteem asian women that obviously only liked him cause of his money...there were many times where I thought of punching him straight up in the face. He would get me that mad with his bullshyt.

I put up with too much from him.

I realized how different our paths went and how much I don't like to surround myself with people like him. He moved to Baltimore and worked as in corporate, I moved to NYC. After living in New York for so long, surrounding myself with more black people and spanish people and more minorities in general I gained more of a sense of pride for myself, and would never want to surround myself with any negative people like him again. I am more outgoing, more into art, music, fashion, skateboarding, I'm in shape, more accepting and forward thinking. And this dude is your typical baldheaded awkward middle aged white guy that wears polo shirts with cargo shorts and sandals that only listens to the radio, posts on facebook religiously, watches sports, goes to wack sports bars, and listens to right wing radio and reads huffpost.

I remember when he came to visit me in NYC a couple of years back, I take him to the club I go to where I'm a regular and I get in for free when cover is charged cause I know security, the bartenders etc. None of my NYC friends liked the guy at all. The women we were with just noticeably did not like him. I guess in that environment he felt out of place. But every bar he would like going to I would feel out of place.

So, I curbed his text and deleted his number after not talking to him. I just realized how happy I was not having to surround myself with dumb wack swagless racist cacs and not being stressed by people trying to put me down anymore. I had moved past Pittsburgh. I'm now in a city where I'm successful, women want to be around me, and even though he says he is happy, he always was bugging me about I want to move to NYC, NYC seems more fun, etc. I made a new life for myself and I'm happy. I tried to merge old friends with new friends but my new friends reflect more of what I am about then my old friends. And frankly, part of me is ashamed of my past but whatever. End. fukk that motherfukker.

So, what do you think?
I know...y'all thinking...I ain't reading that shyt. LOL.
 
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Only have ppl in your life that influence you positively. Plain and simple. Regardless of skin color. I cut off everyone who isn't bettering themselves or helping me become a better person. So fukk em man. Have you ever tried talking to him though about how he is? Or is he just not hearing it?
 

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Only have ppl in your life that influence you positively. Plain and simple. Regardless of skin color. I cut off everyone who isn't bettering themselves or helping me become a better person. So fukk em man. Have you ever tried talking to him though about how he is? Or is he just not hearing it?
I don't want to talk to him anymore. Honestly. I dealt with alot of racism in my past in Western PA, so I'm really not trying to talk or reason with people like that. I feel like a fool for even wasting my time here with that dude....
 
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