Coli brehs and brehettes I want that old thing back *Ex advice thread*

[Cuban Pete]

Ok so here's what it is. I recently had a dream about my ex. This ain't nothing crazy cuz I dream about people in my life rather often, but something in me said 'look for her'. So I started searching the web for any social media, and after a while I found her. Requested a follow and got it immediately, hit up her DM and she reply instantly. Shorty got married and she's divorced We get to talking, the chemistry is there off rip. She tell me 'your girl better not be seeing these DMs' I'm like 'your man better know you entertaining this fukkery' she said 'what man' She in Philly I said yo don't give me the green light to flirt with you I might have to book a flight and she replies 'no need I might be coming to Miami' with some heart emojis

I don't know what to do y'all

In my mind I'm like fukk here we go again, we got together like 3 times to just to break up and make up, we click so well but then it gets toxic, there's things we HATE about each other but I'm so fukking drawn to her, I'm saying should I be contacting her more now that I got her on deck? It's like every bit of game I got goes out the window. Is this love or infatuation?

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Don’t go backwards, dummy

 

[BLΔCK⁂W⊙LF]

Get ready for that 4th break up.

 

[Stir Fry]

Ok so here's what it is. I recently had a dream about my ex. This ain't nothing crazy cuz I dream about people in my life rather often, but something in me said 'look for her'. So I started searching the web for any social media, and after a while I found her. Requested a follow and got it immediately, hit up her DAM and she reply instantly. Shorty got married and she's divorced We get to talking, the chemistry is there off rip. She tell me 'your girl better not be seeing these DMs' I'm like 'your man better know you entertaining this fukkery' she said 'what man' She in Philly I said yo don't give me the green light to flirt with you I might have to book a flight and she replies 'no need I might be coming to Miami' with some heart emojis

I don't know what to do y'all

In my mind I'm like fukk here we go again, we got together like 3 times to just to break up and make up, we click so well but then it gets toxic, there's things we HATE about each other but I'm so fukking drawn to her, I'm saying should I be contacting her more now that I got her on deck? It's like every bit of game I got goes out the window. Is this love or infatuation?

Depends on the things you hate about each other and consider toxic. You'd be surprised at how many issues can be worked through once egos can be put aside.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I don’t know how fresh her divorce is but don’t be that guy..
Meaning..
You two get together(fwb or relationship), I would give it 6 months top before those certain butterflies fade on her end..
People for some reason don’t take a time out after something so traumatic before the next person, which shyt from the past starts to bleed into the new thing..
It’s familirity for the both of you and that’s what people always use as a landing pad..
Take your time breh and really think about it..
Read some literature..

 

[GzUp]

U already fukked up.

 

[Bonk]

Give it another try, you might be lucky this time and she's probably your soulmate.

I can relate and the relationship between my ex and I are like that.

Everything happens for a reason, breh.

 

[Cuban Pete]

Depends on the things you hate about each other and consider toxic. You'd be surprised at how many issues can be worked through once egos can be put aside.

We're really similar on a surface level, but when it comes to our ideals, the shyt we would die for, we're like night and day. I know that seems like a huge hurdle to overcome but I don't believe that my lady has to be my exact mirror. I like letting people rock. I've seen this chick shed dead ass tears over me, the way she would rest her head on my shoulder completely at peace, it was real. I haven't really felt that in my other relationships like that. And when we started dating we were young as fukk. I snatched her from her first bf bruh. I taught her mad things, but we were both young and stupid, I feel like life has humbled both of us. And again, there's undeniable chemistry and tension still...

 

[Stir Fry]

We're really similar on a surface level, but when it comes to our ideals, the shyt we would die for, we're like night and day. I know that seems like a huge hurdle to overcome but I don't believe that my lady has to be my exact mirror. I like letting people rock. I've seen this chick shed dead ass tears over me, the way she would rest her head on my shoulder completely at peace, it was real. I haven't really felt that in my other relationships like that. And when we started dating we were young as fukk. I snatched her from her first bf bruh. I taught her mad things, but we were both young and stupid, I feel like life has humbled both of us. And again, there's undeniable chemistry and tension still...

I mean, as long as she's not a trump supporter, I can't think of many other things that couldn't be overcome with a little compromise

 

[MaxPain]

Just drop the bytch

 

[Cuban Pete]

I don’t know how fresh her divorce is but don’t be that guy..
Meaning..
You two get together(fwb or relationship), I would give it 6 months top before those certain butterflies fade on her end..
People for some reason don’t take a time out after something so traumatic before the next person, which shyt from the past starts to bleed into the new thing..
It’s familirity for the both of you and that’s what people always use as a landing pad..
Take your time breh and really About it..
Read some literature..

I feel you one hunna on that but she's not sweating that divorce, its been like 3 years since that and she got happy azz lil selfies and she let me know she been on the dating scene since then but she just hasn't had any luck that still solid advice tho, but I can't lie to myself bruh I want her and that's what I'm wrestling with. Even if we do start talking again I don't want her to just jump in my life 100mph

 

[Fade Runner 2049]

Do it breh

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I feel you one hunna on that but she's not sweating that divorce, its been like 3 years since that and she got happy azz lil selfies and she let me know she been on the dating scene since then but she just hasn't had any luck that still solid advice tho, but I can't lie to myself bruh I want her and that's what I'm wrestling with. Even if we do start talking again I don't want her to just jump in my life 100mph

Not saying things can’t work out..
There are no guarantees or for certains in life..
But take it slow and just feel it out..
Mentality/perspective is everything
Also be careful with that “no luck” line..
People use that as a cover-up for their own flaws they are not ready to accept..
She could be dating quality men but sabotaging or even limiting their interactions due to personal feelings of herself..
I.E. projecting..
The realest thing you can do is set boundaries and put all your cards on the table about how you both are going to approach this..
Again familiarity breeds a safety net but it also may lead to contempt..
I wish you both well in whatever the situation..

 

[Cuban Pete]

 

[PCHMalibu]

Attraction don't always mean compatability. I understand that you want her but she may not be what you need. There's a reason why you all broke up.
Just let it flow. If it's meant to be, then it will...