coli fam...focus on you

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Agreed. I turned my shyt around for 2015 and life is lovely so far

 

[Vandelay]

Edit, misread the initial point.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Everyone should focus on them, and square themselves away 1st before dealing with someone else. There are cases that this isn't the best method, like if you need moral/mental support. Alot of people just need that helping hand or companionship, but wont admit it to themselves.


Over all though most people just need to focus on them and getting there life together before trying to deal with someone else.

 

[jeh]

 

[mannyrs13]

I feel like I'm going thru something like this myself. Friends that only focus on what you can do for them and take advantage of it. Those negative people don't belong in your life. Time should be spent on yourself and those that truly well appreciate you. You could know somebody for years and eventually they'll do something that shows they're a fraud. That's why I don't care about losing friends. I've gone thru so many in my life that there isn't anybody that could make me sad about losing them if they ain't worth it. The same people in your youth aren't always there when you're old. Most folks are fake or have an agenda. That negativity isn't needed.

 

[Aceofspades404]

To my young coli brethren and home girls, get degrees or certs. Always make "me" time, travel and read. Have thirst for knowledge, be well rounded and above all, truthful to yourself. Focus on your self and only then you can make a better life for yourself and those you care to label family.

 

[PaperEnterprise]

I feel like I'm going thru something like this myself. Friends that only focus on what you can do for them and take advantage of it. Those negative people don't belong in your life. Time should be spent on yourself and those that truly well appreciate you. You could know somebody for years and eventually they'll do something that shows they're a fraud. That's why I don't care about losing friends. I've gone thru so many in my life that there isn't anybody that could make me sad about losing them if they ain't worth it. The same people in your youth aren't always there when you're old. Most folks are fake or have an agenda. That negativity isn't needed.

I agree, help those that want to be helped. I am going to start volunteering at youth centers, hospitals and in my community. These people will send me blessings than friends who dont listen to advice they ask me for.

 

[mannyrs13]

I agree, help those that want to be helped. I am going to start volunteering at youth centers, hospitals and in my community. These people will send me blessings than friends who dont listen to advice they ask me for.

I feel you on that. I have a close friend who was using my employee discount at work. I don't mind if she used it but I have money on my rewards card. Granted I get it for free, it's Walgreen so it's like those dollars on a rewards card. Her and her man I'm also cool with were using the money off my card behind my back. I thought that was grimey as hell. I didn't care about the money since it was free money but it was just the principle. Those closest to you will find a way to take advantage.

 

[PaperEnterprise]

I feel you on that. I have a close friend who was using my employee discount at work. I don't mind if she used it but I have money on my rewards card. Granted I get it for free, it's Walgreen so it's like those dollars on a rewards card. Her and her man I'm also cool with were using the money off my card behind my back. I thought that was grimey as hell. I didn't care about the money since it was free money but it was just the principle. Those closest to you will find a way to take advantage.

fukk em. Throw them in a snake pit...theyll feel at home

 

[Music Fiend]

How would one stop being negative bruh?I have a few people who have done some things to me years ago which I cut off but they are doing well for themselves and even passed me on the come up. I could use their friendship at this point and their network/ connections. I love these people. But only so often can you feel like you've been their for them when they needed you and were down and out, but when you needed them they just caused you pain.

I wanna forgive and forget and get on with life, but it keeps me away from the.

THe thing that makes it hard is there were times they were negative and going thru things, but I was there, and then I went thru a similar patch consumed in negativity. Everybody just kinda watched me and didn't give me a hand up.

Im keeping the 21 year old around, we speak daily. She is fun and i dont see a future at all but need good sex in my life...she claims she is single and her ex left her for some other flyer chick lol. Shes jamaican, puerto rican and part german. Nice body, nice eye candy...

My point to anyone reading this, no matter what the age, dont waste time with negative people. Friends, bytches, family or whatever. If you have dreams, surround yourself with people that are visionaries...expect nothing from anyone...build your finances. Have good credit...stop believing someone will do the work for you to be successful.

To my young coli brethren and home girls, get degrees or certs. Always make "me" time, travel and read. Have thirst for knowledge, be well rounded and above all, truthful to yourself. Focus on your self and only then you can make a better life for yourself and those you care to label family.


Focus on you. Peace and love.

 

[Xtraz2]

Im 33 and single. Was in a weird relationship with this women for 3 years, i cut her off one day and never looked back in february of 2014...

By the end of last year, i cut off everyone that were around because they needed me to make them feel better...i woke up and realized no matter how much love or care for people that are broken, they will always be damaged goods.

I also quit my shytty job id been doing for many years...currently i drive limo and am making twice as much a week than a job i worked nearly 8 years...im starting to have savings and am signing up for IT cert courses on the weekend.

Just as recently i was juggling three girls, one 31, one 22 and one 21. Cut off the 31 year real quick once she told me she was in a relationshio for 12 years, she is way too broken for me to invest my time and energy for her to be scared of living...just decided to cut off the 22 year old cause she has a baby daddy who she isnt with but has a dope dealing boyfriend but wants to fukk me cause i got bread...i told her we just gonna fukk (which we hadnt done yet, my schedule too hectic) and she was with it...too much baggage and reading the thread about homie being told his girl has herpes, scared me...if this thot going around sucking dikk and cheating, i aint trying to get a std at this age.

Im keeping the 21 year old around, we speak daily. She is fun and i dont see a future at all but need good sex in my life...she claims she is single and her ex left her for some other flyer chick lol. Shes jamaican, puerto rican and part german. Nice body, nice eye candy...

My point to anyone reading this, no matter what the age, dont waste time with negative people. Friends, bytches, family or whatever. If you have dreams, surround yourself with people that are visionaries...expect nothing from anyone...build your finances. Have good credit...stop believing someone will do the work for you to be successful.

To my young coli brethren and home girls, get degrees or certs. Always make "me" time, travel and read. Have thirst for knowledge, be well rounded and above all, truthful to yourself. Focus on your self and only then you can make a better life for yourself and those you care to label family.

I wasted my younger years trying to encourage friends and people who were lost, in the mix i got jaded...remember offer opinions and advice carefully. People dont like the truth, they like a convenient lie.

With all that said, im just sharing my life experience, anyone who disagrees, i respect your choice. Life is great, life is beautiful. Be thankful you are here and can have a second chance to do what you want. It aint always about bytches and money.

Focus on you. Peace and love.

Shout out to tha '82 baybays

 

[PaperEnterprise]

How would one stop being negative bruh?I have a few people who have done some things to me years ago which I cut off but they are doing well for themselves and even passed me on the come up. I could use their friendship at this point and their network/ connections. I love these people. But only so often can you feel like you've been their for them when they needed you and were down and out, but when you needed them they just caused you pain.

I wanna forgive and forget and get on with life, but it keeps me away from the.

THe thing that makes it hard is there were times they were negative and going thru things, but I was there, and then I went thru a similar patch consumed in negativity. Everybody just kinda watched me and didn't give me a hand up.

I wish you health and peace within. You dont need these losers...if they were genuine human beings with compassion, they would care for you during your tough times.

Expect nothing, you are the controller of your destiny. Happiness is a mind state that you create through building your mind via meditation, accomplishing your personal goals, being thankful and wanting to be a better human being.

fukk them. Dont dwell on the past, it happened, now live in the moment and surround yourself around good people. They exist.

I truly wish you success.

Also, dont allow society to create you by being who they think you are...individualism is an art long forgotten. Be you.

Peace