Coli relationship experts...How long after dating did you move in together?

[Music Fiend]

Did it after 6 months. Failed after 4.5 years.

if i had to say, lack of defined roles really fukked shyt up as we got comfortable living together 4 years.

If you do it early, set shyt straight out the gate

 

[Action Mike]

Nearly did this...and we're not together, so I'd say have extra caution as I feel I dodged a bullet.

Only circumstance to do this is if marriage is happening in the next year of moving in, outside of that no fukking way.

 

[Pseudonym]

The lease on my girl’s apartment is up in August. By that point, we will have been together 8 months.

Do I make her sign another year lease, or invite her to live here? We’re pretty much back and forth between each other’s places anyway.

Advice from a happily married woman :

But really only you know of living together will work through open communication.


I stayed at my hubby’s almost every night but I would go home for a day or 2 just to recharge ( I’m an extroverted introvert ). The thought of not having my alone time scared me.
I need (ed) my own space so I was in no rush to move in. We ended up getting a larger place because I said from the jump, “ I need my own space” that can be the garage, a walk in closet, my own office , a plot of grass, anything that I don’t have to share with him. If I didn’t have my own office, I would’ve left this man 15 years ago



Edit: I literally have a woman cave.... maybe I can make a she shed

 

[Solano707]

Don't do it op. Moving her in is much easier than kicking her out when yall break up. The access to sex will drop significantly.

You moving way to fast breh

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

It’s coming up on 5 months, so right now, no, even though we go back and forth between each other’s places anyway. We’ve only spent 5 nights apart in the last month.

I want her living here, just not right now, and she brought up looking for a new place that is closer. But after 8 months, I’ll probably be ready, but I don’t want to tell her yes or no, and she doesn’t look for a new place, or she looks, puts the deposit down, and I change my mind and want her to move in. But I can see proposing next spring, and I don’t want her wasting money on rent we can use towards others things together.

Don't play house unless you are ready to be married.

 

[O³ (O cubed)]

I'm on the first page and suspect that you are trolling. If you are seriously asking for advice the answer is no. Don't do it.






No













Unless you want to give us a thread of the year in December after she kicks you out.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

Me and my girl are about to move into an apartment. I'll let you know how it goes in 10 months when the lease ends

 

[Spence]

It’s coming up on 5 months, so right now, no, even though we go back and forth between each other’s places anyway. We’ve only spent 5 nights apart in the last month.

I want her living here, just not right now, and she brought up looking for a new place that is closer. But after 8 months, I’ll probably be ready, but I don’t want to tell her yes or no, and she doesn’t look for a new place, or she looks, puts the deposit down, and I change my mind and want her to move in. But I can see proposing next spring, and I don’t want her wasting money on rent we can use towards others things together.

Me and my now wife moved in together after 6 months of dating out of convenience. She wanted to move out her moms apt and I was home at my parents for the summer so it was either move in with my girl and smash 2/3x a day or head back to the all male dorms or stay in the unsafe ghetto ass apts near campus.
We fukked like rabbits for 5 months straight with a mattress on the floor and some ikea furniture


Look at it this way op, let your girl move in and if it doesn’t work out she can always move back out to her own space and y’all can try again later. In that time you will have
A. Learned her habits and will have affirmed she is marriage material
B. Subsidized your rent even if only for a couple months to where both of you can get ahead on a combined income.

too many positives outweigh any negatives of the perception of “moving too fast”.

 

[staticshock]

If you truly love her and want to marry her in the future then go for it breh


We need more black love

 

[Absolut da poet ®]

I would not recommend living with a woman under any circumstances.

Peace and quiet is an unbeatable combination.

You've been warned.

Well the one circumstance would be marriage

If you know for a fact and no doubt about it
that she's the only one for the rest of your days on Earth then do it.

Anything less.. avoid it.

Having your own peace and sanity > everything else that living with a woman brings

 

[daemonova]

 

[F*ckthemkids]

We didn't move in together until after we were married. Been married 16 years.

 

[African Peasant]

Never.

I ain't living with a woman I ain't married to and makings kids with.

The ONLY reason to forfeit your freedom is to raise a family.

Other than that,

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Out of all my relationships I’ve only lived with 3.

I’ve realized that most of the time a couple decides to move in together it’s because of underlying circumstances (money, lonely, etc,.) instead of moving in because they truly want to be with that person.

Add in the phenomenon of limerence and you have a recipe for disaster.

I’ve seen people move in/get married quickly and the relationship is thriving till this day. I’ve also seen people wait months or years only to finally move in and fail within months.

All that to say a person should look within themselves and investigate THEIR own intentions before making that decision.

Personally I wouldn’t live with someone again unless I knew without a doubt I want to be with that person and marry them. My shacking up days are over.