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Angry boyfriend went on racist tirade after finding out his girlfriend broke rules of their open relationship by sleeping with black man, court told
A furious boyfriend launched into a racist tirade after discovering his girlfriend had broken their open relationship rules by sleeping with a black man, a court heard.
Christopher Dalby and his partner Amber Gilfoy had agreed they could have other partners - but only if she avoided black men, Southampton Crown Court was told.
When 47-year-old Dalby found out that she had broken their rule, he went into an expletive-filled racist rant, prosecutors said.
Miss Gilfoy was said to have slept with a man named in court only as Mr Marshall.
It was heard that Dalby, Miss Gilfoy and her friend Safia Uddin were in a bar named The Social in Southampton about about 10pm one night in August last year when Mr Marshall walked in.
Dalby, who had drunk four pints, saw him and began shouting a string of racist slurs and pushed Ms Uddin before being led apart by locals, the trial was told.
He also reduced Ms Uddin to tears by hurling anti-South Asian slurs before later sending her abusive Facebook messages, prosecutors said.
Dalby, said to suffer from PTSD, anxiety and depression, has now admitted the incident left him feeling 'ashamed and embarrassed'.
He claimed he had an 'autism meltdown' due to the number of people in the pub.
Appearing at the crown court, Dalby pleaded guilty to racially aggravated intentional harassment towards Miss Uddin.
He was sentenced to a 12-month community order, with 25 rehabilitation activity requirement (RAR) days - while also ordered to pay a £200 fine.
Ms Uddin told in a statement to the court how his treatment of her that evening brought back the trauma of racist taunts she endured in her youth.
She said: 'That night changed things for me.
'Being called this took me right back to a place as a scared child. I immediately broke down in tears.'
Lisa Bowles, defending Dalby who now lives in Ash in Surrey, said: 'He says he is absolutely mortified. He is ashamed and embarrassed.'
Judge Dan Pawson-Pounds told the defendant: 'It is clear that your actions took her back to a time she had experienced racism as a child.
She describes her sense of shame and embarrassment.
'I am not impressed with your argument that her actions left you no choice - that is nonsense.
'I have given you a chance to make sure this doesn't happen again.
'I am satisfied you will take that chance - don't make the court look foolish
Boyfriend 'went on racist tirade when girlfriend slept with black man'
Christopher Dalby, 47, has now pleaded guilty at Southampton Crown Court to racially aggravated intentional harassment.
Mad she slept with a black man
