Devaluing Of Friendship

[Remy Danton]

Why cant you REALLY love your friends?

I really love mines.

seems like love is arbitrary nowadays

 

[Remy Danton]

What is a "friend" though? What is a friends responsibilities? I'm a loner in real life. So I don't have anyone I consider a close friend and I usually don't feel comfortable with people getting close to me.

going to have to link you to that Define Friend thread.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

@No_bammer_weed speak on it famo. Drop a Gem.

This is a really good question.....really good. I dont know how to answer it.

In one sense there is a far greater division of interest than in past years with social media. Before your circle of friends was who you were in immediate proximity with...now your circle of friends can be thousands, and you can contact them everyday....remember when a friend would move away and that was the end? Now you can skype, fb, text --- probably talk to them more than when they lived next door to you.

The flip side is that exposure to so many can expose you to more bullsht, which makes you develop an acute appreciation for real friendship, since you bombarded with so much fake. Its definitely a complicated question.

 

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[CrimsonTider]

Is friendship being devalued/trivialized? A individuals' most significant social relationships are 1. platonic 2. familial 3. romantic. But when we talk about love, we only seem to mean it in the lfirst and third. People nearly never say they love a individual of a non-attractive gender as a friend. In fact, when people say "I love you as a friend", it is almost always romantic rejection (because you can't REALLY love your friends!). Even the characterization of romantic relationships of being "more than friends" is significant


thoughts?

I love my nikkas more than my own blood
I die for my nikkas and I love my cub, hope that's not fukked up

 

[IronFist]

I value my friends almost more than the others you mention, sometimes or at least similarly but that is definitely not the norm in my situation.

 

[Chill]

This is a good ass question.

I'm having a hard time trying to explain my thoughts about this but I can say it's definitely devalued these days. Or maybe that's due to me growing up and growing apart and getting older. I'll expand if I can.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I think you're reaching, I think that there's no need to even say "I love you" to most people anyway.

 

[storyteller]

My closest friends are more like family, and I love them just like I love family (regardless of gender). The thing is, out of all the friends I've made in life from sports, school (Kindergarten through grad school), parties, introductions, etc...There are 6 friends that I'd rate like that and the rest fall anywhere from "I look forward to kicking it with and talk to 'em often" to "I'll say what's up if we happen to cross paths but that's about it"

 

[1thouwow]

I should start being more compassionate