Did I bully this girl on Plenty of fish?

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I kind of got into it with my white homegirl, who said that trolling people on POF is a form of bullying, and that what I said to this girl on POF was very mean. I didn't think it was mean, just truthful :yeshrug:.I get tired of seeing bytches on POF (and in life, in general) who know they are desperate and have made really shytty choices that have resulted in them being undesirable. So I let the bytch know what she had on her profile was unacceptable :mjpls:

Here is what she says in her profile:
Hardworking, plus size/curvy single mother.

I'm not here to be "the friend" and while I believe you should feel like you're with your best friend when being in a relationship....it does not mean I don't want things to progress from there. I know what I want and more friends isn't exactly why I'm here. Just saying.

I'm not a booty call. I'm a woman not a prostitute. I'm not one of the crazy ones. I'm not going to ask you for money or any of that craziness. I work, have a good and legal job with the same company for almost 7 years now. I pay my own bills, take care of my daughter, and I really don't need you. So feel privileged if I decide that I want to know you.

I'm not looking for a guy covered in tattoos or piercings.
(:leostare:) I don't mind a couple but when you're covered it's a turn off for me. No drugs, alcoholics, dead beat dads, men with several baby momma's. No criminal records. (If you have to say you don't want that, that makes it sound like that's what you mainly attract :mjpls:) Please and thanks.

No mama boys or men who are emotionally unavailable. Please make sure you want to date. I get going thru rough things in your life and wanting to try again. But please don't talk to me if you're not even sure if you're ready to take the chance. I don't want to be the casualty while you're testing the waters. (:russ: :mjlol:) That's not fair to me.

I only date white men. (:pacspit: :camby:) It's a preference thing not racial.

So here was my response, short and to the point:
Single mother, a few extra pounds, 33, on plenty of fish--not a recipe for being extremely picky
I'm sorry, but I just had to put homegirl in her place :smugralphie:. Now my white female friend doesn't think there is anything wrong with her profile:dylanhuh:, and that I was super wrong for sending her that message. She also didn't mind that the girl doesn't date outside her race :nooocacs:. We went back and forth about that issue for awhile too, but eventually we just dropped it. She's still fam, and I respect her opinions. Was I wrong for this?

Oh, and here is a picture of her
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That was mean and unwarranted, so :yeshrug:
Gotta let the picky women who made all the wrong choices feel like "Queens" while they sit waiting for a King.
That whole "So feel privileged if I decide that I want to know you" part is egotistical and combative, and setting herself
up for the lowest dudes, if even they are interested in her elitist ass. Is she rich? Is she a pillar of the community?
No? A single, overweight mom on a free dating site...this makes male attention an offering on her privileged throne?
She is gonna be chronically single off the attitude alone.
 

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That was mean and unwarranted, so :yeshrug:
Gotta let the picky women who made all the wrong choices feel like "Queens" while they sit waiting for a King.
That whole "So feel privileged if I decide that I want to know you" part is egotistical and combative, and setting herself
up for the lowest dudes, if even they are interested in her elitist ass. Is she rich? Is she a pillar of the community?
No? A single, overweight mom on a free dating site...this makes male attention an offering on her privileged throne?
She is gonna be chronically single off the attitude alone.
That was EXACTLY what I told my homegirl. I told her that with that attitude she is going to be single for a very long time. Dudes don't want a girl who is super negative and says those kinds of things in their profile, nevertheless someone who says those things in real life. My friend said that I don't know if that is true, but I told her that I do know that it's true--I've seen it with my own three eyes. All she is saying is "I'm hurt. Please don't hurt me :mjcry:. Also, the only dating white men shyt got me HEATED. I'm like, shorty, you're on a dating website. You obviously aren't doing to well in your dating life. Not to judge because neither am I, but at least I'm SUPER open to any kind of race and size (:mjpls:).
 

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HELL NAH...that shyt was funny tho :deadmanny: but..of course your white friend thought it was mean....does ya white homegirl only date black guys/? :troll:
Is ya white friend a lil...."plump" :troll:
and does she also have a profile on POF? :troll:
My home girl is with a white girl. She got divorced two years ago, and I was actually a friend of her ex husband before her, but we became really close friends (:mjpls: :mjpls: :mjpls: :mjpls:). Nah but foreal I've never hit; she's in Cali and with someone else now.
 

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That was EXACTLY what I told my homegirl. I told her that with that attitude she is going to be single for a very long time. Dudes don't want a girl who is super negative and says those kinds of things in their profile, nevertheless someone who says those things in real life. My friend said that I don't know if that is true, but I told her that I do know that it's true--I've seen it with my own three eyes. All she is saying is "I'm hurt. Please don't hurt me :mjcry:. Also, the only dating white men shyt got me HEATED. I'm like, shorty, you're on a dating website. You obviously aren't doing to well in your dating life. Not to judge because neither am I, but at least I'm SUPER open to any kind of race and size (:mjpls:).
Yea, it is what it is, breh. If she is still reasonably cute, the few guys that hang in will try to pump and dump. When a woman throws up THAT many walls to men whom she hasn't even spoken to
yet, it screams damaged goods. Her being overweight also shows that at the young age of 33, she isn't focused on being her best self. She will bring more baggage than anything else into a relationship.
 

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Yea, it is what it is, breh. If she is still reasonably cute, the few guys that hang in will try to pump and dump. When a woman throws up THAT many walls to men whom she hasn't even spoken to
yet, it screams damaged goods. Her being overweight also shows that at the young age of 33, she isn't focused on being her best self. She will bring more baggage than anything else into a relationship.
Exactly. I think this shyt rubs me the wrong way because I've been rejected a lot recently. I don't think it's cause of my looks; I just think I keep choosing drunk, bar girls who become uninterested after the alcohol wears off. I tried out POF, but the girls I went on dates with tried to play games. 1 tried to be slick and order 4 rum and cokes in an hour so I would pay for her drinks :stopitslime: She was going to order a 5th before I cut it short and made her split the bill. The other was an obvious hoe who was trying to play me for paying for dinner dates without actually putting out or even just going to the next stage. So this rejection got me feeling real shytty, and so when I saw that shyt on POF I just snapped.
 

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Exactly. I think this shyt rubs me the wrong way because I've been rejected a lot recently. I don't think it's cause of my looks; I just think I keep choosing drunk, bar girls who become uninterested after the alcohol wears off. I tried out POF, but the girls I went on dates with tried to play games. 1 tried to be slick and order 4 rum and cokes in an hour so I would pay for her drinks :stopitslime: She was going to order a 5th before I cut it short and made her split the bill. The other was an obvious hoe who was trying to play me for paying for dinner dates without actually putting out or even just going to the next stage. So this rejection got me feeling real shytty, and so when I saw that shyt on POF I just snapped.
Salright, breh. You gotta live #HOH and guide women along the path you wanna take. Just let life be a party wherever you go and things get better. fukk online dating.
 

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Why even waste your breath on retarded hoes like this? She'll learn eventually, and if she doesn't, she's likely dying alone :manny:
I shouldn't have said shyt. Yesterday was just a fukked up day for me, and I took that shyt out on her. I sent the girl a message again just now and apologized to her.
 

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I disagree with your homegirl & @At30wecashout that it was mean (it's not like you called homegirl names or went in) but agree that it was unwarranted 'cause fam you gotta let life do it's thing sometimes. Feel free to advise the people/loved ones closest to you in matters of love, but let the rest learn on their own. Life is a great teacher that doesn't need much help.
 
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