Do Life Experiences Really Change You, Or Is It Mostly The Passage Of Time?

[Prince.Skeletor]

I was just thinking, i smoked a lil something so hamster wheel was going...

I was thinking of my past relationships, and if mistakes that I made changed me.
i'm still doing the same mistakes today basically.

I did change though, but I feel it's more the passage of time that changes you then your experiences.
Now i'm not saying experiences don't change you, i'm just thinking of the passage of time changes you more.

I 100% believe that people are products of their environment, but that's another topic.
I'm not talking about who you are, but rather how you grew.

Thoughst?
Did your life experiences change you or was it mostly the passage of time.
Don't knee jerk reply, really think about which takes the bigger piece of the pie chart.

 

[So-Chi]

It depends on the experiences. For example, if I was on a certain block minding my own business and random shootings started, I'd take that experience and stay the hell away from there...and remember it so the passing of time wouldn't matter. Though if I met a nurse when I was younger and had a terrible experience, later in life I might try it again

 

[Jimmy from Linkedin]

I was just thinking, i smoked a lil something so hamster wheel was going...

I was thinking of my past relationships, and if mistakes that I made changed me.
i'm still doing the same mistakes today basically.

I did change though, but I feel it's more the passage of time that changes you then your experiences.
Now i'm not saying experiences don't change you, i'm just thinking of the passage of time changes you more.

I 100% believe that people are products of their environment, but that's another topic.
I'm not talking about who you are, but rather how you grew.

Thoughst?
Did your life experiences change you or was it mostly the passage of time.
Don't knee jerk reply, really think about which takes the bigger piece of the pie chart.

if a binary choice must be forced, my experiences change me more than the passage of time.

now that I am a father, most days i still feel like im somewhere between 16-26. The other day thinking "damn I am about to be 34" was kind of a shock.

it seems more wise to have your experiences, and especially the experiences of other people inform the changes you make before the passage of time brings the same, or their same experience to you, for you to experience it.

i've thought a lot about what is the most clearest communication possible. Sayings, proverbs, proverbial speech; at this point in time it is the clearest way to force a thought in someone else's mind. completely ironic/paradoxical and right on brand for the absurdity of life to have it be the case to have someone understand your thought straight ahead, it has to be communicated in a roundabout way.

 

[Caca-faat]

100% I'm better at reading ppl and recognising patterns of bulls it so I know to stay away from that kind of person. Most ppl are full of shyt or pieces of shyt. I just give ppl enough rope to hanf themselves then treat you accordingly. I have met very few genuinely nice ppl and I'm sure after a while there's some bullshyt to be discovered. Took me entirely too long to learn that their shyt doesnt need to be my problem.

 

[Wig Twistin Season]

The phrase “experience is the best teacher” sums up the answer. I’ve never heard “time is the best teacher” in my life.

If you sit in the same spot doing the same thing, you’ll never grow (mentally) no matter how much time passes. No diss to those who live life like that, but I can usually tell a lot about a person based on how much they haven’t experienced.



You know the type… adults that won’t try new foods or think anything outside of their bubble is “boogie” or “tryna be white.”

 

[rabbid]

Nah because some people never leave their hometown be old as shyt still stuck on stupid. Its definitely the experiences that change you. Alot of people are afraid to find out they aint shyt so they stay in positions that enable them to feel a sense of comfort or superiority. Stay fukking ducks and people that dont ask alot of questions.

Thats not to say that people with lots of experience dont be on bullshyt. Its like De Niro in Heat, sometimes you cant shake your old habits. I still crave big booty rachets but thats just what it is. It doesnt stop me from seeking out different types of women. And i have a self awareness to not let myself fall victim to old pitfalls like going over her house after 11pm.

 

[P90]

Experiences without a doubt more than time. But some intrinsic traits change with time for sure.

 

[CinnaSlim]

You dont just passively change. Did you learn anything from your experiences? Did you reflect on the time passed/past actions? What lesson did you take from what happened? Your life is based on your choices.

 

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[Savvir]

I was thinking of my past relationships, and if mistakes that I made changed me.
i'm still doing the same mistakes today basically.

sounds like you're just slow.....

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

The passage of time is an experience.

However, in the context you speak, you just seem to lack the ability to self reflect or probably reflect in general. You don't have to actually experience something to understand or grow from an experience.

Perhaps you should reflect on why you have choosen to continue to make the same mistakes.

Why do you subconsciously decide those acts serve you while consciously expressing that they don't?

 

[New Jeruz Jewelz]

Definitely experience. Buy a guitar and never play it. You won’t become Slash just because you’ve had it for 10 years.

If the results of your previous decisions don’t help sharpen your future decisions, you’re truly losing at the game of life. Mental memory is a thing just like muscle memory. You can perform new acts but you can perform more effectively with practice

I’m a master of my working domain by experience alone. That experience has shown me that it’s more than technical skills required to succeed. Most younger degree holding graduates don’t understand the dynamics that come into play for consistent success.

 

[010101]

experience requires time*

 

[duckbutta]

Both. It's the experiences you have that you can only get with the passage of time.

 

[Digital Omen]

Man I'm out in San Diego at a work conference and right across the bay at North Island is the carrier I deployed on twice in the Navy
Back then I busted my ass on that flight deck. Iranian Navy gave me an oh shyt I'm dead moment, so I got beef with them.
Other than that looking back the Navy made me who I am today
Before enlisting I was another 1st and 15 hand to mouth hustling and scrambling call center p*ssy getting hood adjacent studio apt driving a bucket
going nowhere fast in life. College dropout spent my 20s partying and getting laid
Once I turned 30 I said fukk this shyt, I don't want this life for me anymore.
Right before the 08 financial crisis I was offered a no doc loan for a 115k house in Miami Shores. Mind you I was at a call center on some trying to avoid overdraft fees (of course I still got em)
aka I had no business buying a house. (That crib is worth half a mil now).
But something clicked inside me that made me think I want to cop a crib the right way.
So I found my nearest recruiter and signed up
Did my 4 years during Obama's first term. Deployed twice, got married, and saw the world.
I earned the vet bennies I have now. I copped a crib with a VA loan and made a profit when I sold less than a year later.
Had I done the no doc bullshyt and then lost it in foreclosure would have made it extremely difficult for me to get a TS/SCI clearance, which is how I get paid 6 figs/6 certs now and get flown out on some corporate shyt
In my middle age I'm touring Europe, WFH for a remote only company, GMB, getting my dikk wet on the regular, and the condo high rise on some Miami hook up I got a guy that we all do down here
I thank the Navy for that. It changed my life.