Do y'all want to "grow" with your children?

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

I see people talk about this all the time. A really young couple will have kids because they want to be in their 40s when their kid(s) are in their 20s so they can grow with them and be young with their grandkids.

I was never interested in that. I don't want my kids to be relatively close in age to me. Every time I see that, I always see a 'Friend-First Parent-Second' relationship and I'm not with that shiit. I prefer my kids to be at least 35 years younger than me.

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

Wouldve been cool but it would've been a struggle for me to raise them because of lack of funds in my 20's. Now I can have kids and support them without any kind of worry. Only thing I'm going to regret is possibly not being around for my potential grandchildren

 

[Taadow]

I don’t think it’s the same thing you’re saying it is;

It’s more so that they want to have the energy to be able to play/interact physically
with their kids and grandkids, and you don’t have as much energy when you’re older.

I had an Older Dad and we did a lot of stuff together, but we didn’t really play sports
together or go to the park together or things like that.

I don’t want children myself, but I understand why people who would want to have that dynamic.

Truth be told, that’s part of the reason I don’t see myself getting married.
I like to pick my women up, but I’m getting older and a lot of these broads fat.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Came for the fukk them kids MJ pic. Leaving highly disappointed

 

[1thouwow]

People wanna be friends with their kids instead of parents

 

[Human Torch]

Early 20’s is wild but i understand the concept of not being too old. A of it is a compromise at the end of the day.

i had my first at 27 and my second at 31. Enjoyed enough of my 20’s and was finally secure enough at 27 for it to work. And on the backend I’ll be 49 when my youngest is 18. Ideally no older than 58-60 when I become a grandparent.

 

[King Poetic]

#nokidgang here

 

[getmoney310cpt]

If I was rich at 19 then sure that would be cool

 

[invalid]

From my experience, the kids that were the smartest and most successful growing up had older parents. I don’t know if there is any type of scientific study done on this but it may be because the parents in their older years are wiser, been around the block, had time to make mistakes and course correct, and know the opportunities that are out there that they themselves either took advantage of or maybe missed out on and ensure that they provide for their children.

When you have kids when you’re young, you’re doing exactly what you said, growing right along with your children, so you may miss out on opportunities for your children that you yourself may not realize because of your own process of still growing, until later.

 

[Umoja]

The ship has passed but it would have been nice.

I hope that my wife and children are the people I love the most in the world so yes, it would be great to spend the best years of my life with them.

 

[African Peasant]

It's the best thing to do. Having your first kid in your mid to late 20's is the ideal situation.

 

[goatmane]

My dad is 50. I'm 27. He did everything with me and never complained about energy

My son is 18 months old pretty good chance he's a great grand parent

 

[Guile]

Y'all sound like yall want to go to the club with your kid or like your teenage is gonna actually hang out in the back yard with you playing pick up ball.

 

[Phantum]

I wouldn't have been a good father in my 20s.

 

[number21]

Nope. Always rather have wisdom to teach my children as much as I can.

They're my children, not buddies where we can grow together and experience things with.