Do you feel appreciated by people you help? Do you need it?

[valet]

I was taught by my pastor that the people you do the most for, appreciate you the least (in general). And the people you do the least for, appreciate you the most (in general). Again, this ain't absolute. But in my life, I found that to be the case.

For example, I know teens at the H.S. I work at whom I've done very little for. But they were thanking me the most for helping them out. But the teens whom I've had closer relationships with, done above and beyond, not a peep, a thank you, nothing.

Now, if you do things to get appreciated, you're setting yourself for dissapointment, imo. I learned the hard way throughout the years and have to check my motives. So I try my best (though I admit I do like to be appreciated) not to get caught up in that. But I just found it weird that the original point was true. What about you? Do you need to be appreciated? Are you appreciated by the people you do the least or most for?

 

[DrHackenbush]

Man I read a quote years ago "the reason they love the devil is because he gives them nothing" and the older I get the more I found that to be true. Sometimes I think humans are just wired up wrong, you can do everything for a person and all you'll get in return is resentment

 

[DrHackenbush]

But don't get me wrong I'll always give and help any way I can, just aware that it doesn't always end up with appreciation

 

[At30wecashout]

Used to donate blood religiously till the lifesource facility closed(might find a new one).
I donate clothing, new and used, to a few places in Chicago.
Drop food off to the Uptown vagratns every now and then.
Always passing money to the homeless near the house.
Shovel random mothafukkas driveways during the winter(Im talking about plucking the shovel from someones hands and happily completing the job for them)
Etc,etc,etc. honestly, I dont care if anyone appreciates it. Much as I dislike people, I feel compelled to help whenever I can, and often feel lousy when I cant. I fail at this "supervillain" shyt.

 

[Dorian Breh]

Used to donate blood religiously till the lifesource facility closed(might find a new one).
I donate clothing, new and used, to a few places in Chicago.
Drop food off to the Uptown vagratns every now and then.
Always passing money to the homeless near the house.
Shovel random mothafukkas driveways during the winter(Im talking about plucking the shovel from someones hands and happily completing the job for them)
Etc,etc,etc. honestly, I dont care if anyone appreciates it. Much as I dislike people, I feel compelled to help whenever I can, and often feel lousy when I cant. I fail at this "supervillain" shyt.

Appreciate your posting in general, bruh

 

[1 other person]

Man I read a quote years ago "the reason they love the devil is because he gives them nothing" and the older I get the more I found that to be true. Sometimes I think humans are just wired up wrong, you can do everything for a person and all you'll get in return is resentment

 

[Hades]

If I hold someone down and don't feel the thanks, they get put on the list and receive less and less as time goes on. I always make sure to give the please and thank you do anyone and everyone to make sure they know I appreciate the help. People I don't know/ rock with get one time to mess up and I never help them again i.e. co-workers, classmates etc.

It is always people you have "less" contact with that are most gracious and I notice myself being nicer to them as well which is kind of f u c k e d up in general.

 

[Cake]

That's how most humans are. Some more than others. That's why there always has to be give and take in any relationship. Work for each others respect and both parties remain happy.

 

[SheWantTheD]

I think it all comes down to the individual but people do take things for granted. I remember back in middle school I would always welcome the new kid or some kid that was bullied and stand up for them. We'd become friends and after a short while they'd become friends with other people and it'd be like I didn't exist.

Out of all the people I helped in this way, only two I actually remained good friends with for several years. I didn't do it to be appreciated either, more so if I were in their position I would have loved for someone to reach out to me and be friendly.

Interesting how you can be practically best friends with someone for an entire year, and the following year you are like complete strangers. I think this also can tie into male female relationships. People are always chasing that person that takes them for granted, uses them, treats them like crap etc while completely ignoring or using the person that showers them with love, respect, adoration etc.