Do You Feel Former Thots/Ho's Deserve Happiness?

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Nobody deserves happiness :camby:

You gotta fight every day to earn that that shyt :birdman:

Everybody does whether they a hoe or a housewife, a boss don like myself or a homeless crack head :ufdup:

Expect just because you're a good person you'll deserve happiness, brehs :heh:

In Harlem, we take responsibility for our own mental well-being and psychological state :dame:


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I didn't say u said anything. My comment is just based off of my own thoughts and opinions based off of the topic
That's your belief and I can't say that you can't have it. I never mentioned male whores though. I don't believe it's wise for honest, loyal, committed women to marry men with sexually promiscuous pasts either. Sexual promiscuity is the result of underlying issues in my opinion such as a lack of discipline, child abuse, sexual abuse, etc.

Oh and I never said anything about who's deserving of what. I just posed a question, I am not in a place to assess what someone is deserving of or not.
 

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I agree with you to a certain extent but it's still a cop out. "I'm going to change until I'm forced to or I die". There are plenty of people who make changes for the better before shyt hits the fan. There are plenty of people who chose to eat healthier and exercise before they became overweight, sick, develop diabetes, cancer etc.

I can also use the example of a woman looking for a husband right after college and all the fukkery that happened then. Whereas another women continues to live a destructive lifestyle such as having sex with random men, doing drugs, drinking alcohol etc. One changes before she's forced to, and the other changes because she's forced to.

Just because someone has made better choices in one area of their life does not mean that they are making better choices in other areas of their life... Everyone fukks up somewhere at sometime

Many men on the coli think that because a person has made a poor choice or choices in one area of their life then they are disposable human beings.

No one said that anyone should accept an attitude of "I'm not going to change unless I'm forced to or I die." I am saying that some people don't think that there is anything wrong with the way they are living until they are forced to put together broken pieces.

To some folks dysfunction is normalized. And it takes a while for those types of people to discover alternatives and actual pathways to those alternatives.

The people who are traveling along the self-improvement road (whether forced or not) are the ones I am speaking about. What does it matter if someone was "forced" to make changes for the better? What does it matter if they saw the need to change right after college or years down the road? Are they not tryin to grow and get better? What's the judgement for?

I am thinking of myself where unhealthy eating was normalized for me. It wasn't until I was 25, pre diabetic, and hypertensive when I actually looked into proper nutrition (forced to change). I had been overweight since I was 8 or 9 but didn't make the choice to improve until my late 20s (and I still don't make the best choices today). That doesn't mean that I am disposable or that I should have been making the right choices from the get go in order to find love.

Everyone has their own journey in life with their own destination. I am not going to knock anyone trying to improve themselves because I understand how it is a constant battle to get better.

If you are on your journey to improvement and meet up with someone who is on their own quest to get better, why not go through that journey together? If they have too many red flags and hang ups for you then that's fine. But don't try and make them feel like their road should end because yours ventures off in a different direction.
 

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....and the question still remains IF a women didn't have a vagina or her LOOKS how else would she get a man ? It's just a question :sas2:


Your views on women make you seem barbaric.

The same way a man would get a woman without a big dikk and large amounts in his accounts :mjpls:
 
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Your views on women make you seem barbaric.

The same way a man would get a woman without a big dikk and large amounts in his accounts :mjpls:


Naw men will always be a hunter gathers. Men should know you build from inside out nobody is going to love you like your mother or grandmother. That dosent mean you TREAT EVERY women like your mother or grandmother....that would be suicide. When YOU see a guy with a nice mouth piece trust he didn't roll out the bed that way. It took time most women that are a dime quote unquote has been getting guys since the 7th grade. Women also can have sex whenever they won't but not every man can.

Now let let you in on why nice or beta men don't understand the guy with the nice mouth piece. The guy with the so called mouth piece just started earlier in life. He was the only boy that could hangout in the girl circles in the 5th and 6th grade. Thats the only thing that the guy that is good with women has on the beta male is ...time.

It's a skill just like cooking...fixing a car...playing an instrument. Women have to be looked at like it's a skill you have to add to being a Renaissance man. I can still be a Renaissance man and get women cause being is all you really need to get women. I have met a women how has a personality better than mine.

So it's not the same way your eggs are losing time as we speake . Men and women are not equal never will be. The only reason women believe this is because men suppress parts of their manhood to make you feel womwn feel equal.

So yeah you right I am barbaric about loving me cause anit no women going to do that. I just got out of a relationship so I'm no longer going to lower my intelligence to get by with women. I know the tricks of the trade ...I was raised by three women grandfather is an ex pimp and my uncle is as well. Dosent mean I don't respect women. I just know women don't respect a man's perspective on relationships at all and that's why frankly a lot of me lie to get women. We know our truth and HOW we truly look at women will NEVER BE accepted. <<<< think Patrice O'Neal.
 
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If they're sincere, absolutely. But most of them are not so because of that, I'm indifferent to them suffering the wages of being a whore :manny:
 

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Just because someone has made better choices in one area of their life does not mean that they are making better choices in other areas of their life... Everyone fukks up somewhere at sometime

Many men on the coli think that because a person has made a poor choice or choices in one area of their life then they are disposable human beings.

No one said that anyone should accept an attitude of "I'm not going to change unless I'm forced to or I die." I am saying that some people don't think that there is anything wrong with the way they are living until they are forced to put together broken pieces.

To some folks dysfunction is normalized. And it takes a while for those types of people to discover alternatives and actual pathways to those alternatives.

The people who are traveling along the self-improvement road (whether forced or not) are the ones I am speaking about. What does it matter if someone was "forced" to make changes for the better? What does it matter if they saw the need to change right after college or years down the road? Are they not tryin to grow and get better? What's the judgement for?

I am thinking of myself where unhealthy eating was normalized for me. It wasn't until I was 25, pre diabetic, and hypertensive when I actually looked into proper nutrition (forced to change). I had been overweight since I was 8 or 9 but didn't make the choice to improve until my late 20s (and I still don't make the best choices today). That doesn't mean that I am disposable or that I should have been making the right choices from the get go in order to find love.

Everyone has their own journey in life with their own destination. I am not going to knock anyone trying to improve themselves because I understand how it is a constant battle to get better.

If you are on your journey to improvement and meet up with someone who is on their own quest to get better, why not go through that journey together? If they have too many red flags and hang ups for you then that's fine. But don't try and make them feel like their road should end because yours ventures off in a different direction.
What are you talking about? :heh: In your post that I replied to you were basically saying that people don't change unless forced to and I told you that that isn't always the case. Where's the judgment here? Where in this thread have I judged anyone and demeaned them for their actions good or bad? This isn't even the topic of the thread. The thread is if people feel people who led sexually promiscuous lifestyles in the past deserve happiness with people who haven't.

I even said myself that I don't wish anyone unhappiness and I don't care who marries them, but I myself wouldn't. I completely understand everyone is at a certain place in their lives, and most if not all people want to do better on some level.
 
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Your views on women make you seem barbaric.

The same way a man would get a woman without a big dikk and large amounts in his accounts :mjpls:


What your saying is typical...you are a women who is sitting on a vagina so I expect you to make these type of comments. It still all love thoe. My goal for any young man I mentor us NO TO BE TYPICAL when dealing with women.
 
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