Do you feel that sex is the core pillar of your current relationship?

[FLATOP]

In my younger days it was but I'm not sure if it would be the same today or if it should be

What are your thoughts?

 

[levitate]

Nah. Being good parents and growing the family financially.

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

No and I don't think it should ever be imo

 

[Crude]

I have had some relationships based on that and usually after I busted a nut or two, I'd seriously have to ask myself why am I even here with this woman.

If you want anything meaningful you better enjoy their company when you aren't fukking.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Communication/Goals/family are the pillars in my current relationship..
But what I really value is the ability for us to just laugh everyday..
A woman that can make you genuinely laugh and can hit you with witty quips..
Without getting butt hurt
I hit the lotto

 

[StretfordRed]

Nah.

We can go about 5/6 days with no sex and be fine. A perfect week will be some home cooking, some snuggles, a night or two out, some deep conversation, good entertainment and round it out with some body2body time. But we've been living together almost 2 years now so sex naturally becomes naturally less important

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

Nothing will tell you more about how you value / perceive a particular woman than post-nut clarity

If post-but, you’re like “goddamn I don’t even like her...why is she still here?”, don’t do the relationship between thing with her

 

[Doobie Doo]

Sex is the difference between me being a chick's boyfriend or her platonic friend. I'd say yes.

 

[Gold]

No and I don't think it should ever be imo

I couldn't disagree more.

So many people are okay with not having sex with their s/o and wonder why their relationship goes to shyt

 

[patscorpio]

I couldn't disagree more.

So many people are okay with not having sex with their s/o and wonder why their relationship goes to shyt

this..intimacy is the key to a healthy relationship..if not...its only a matter of time before things go off the rails

 

[Gold]

this..intimacy is the key to a healthy relationship..if not...its only a matter of time before things go off the rails

Exactly. People severely underestimate the importance of sexual intimacy in a relationship. It should absolutely be one of the pillars of your relationship especially when you are young.

We have sexual needs... needs not wants. Your body will give you nocturnal emissions if you do not nut. Its not optional.

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

I couldn't disagree more.

So many people are okay with not having sex with their s/o and wonder why their relationship goes to shyt

If the core of your relationship is sex then what's going to happen if you can't have sex anymore. Like if your significant other gets hurt in an accident or when y'all grow old and shyt. Also intimacy and sex aren't always the same thing

 

[Marco Zen]

Mutual respect and highest level of understanding is

 

[Gold]

If the core of your relationship is sex then what's going to happen if you can't have sex anymore. Like if your significant other gets hurt in an accident or when y'all grow old and shyt. Also intimacy and sex aren't always the same thing

Fair points. Let me rephrase my stance. I do not think sex should be the sole core pillar, but it should absolutely be one of them, at the highest level of importance with the others.

As to your question, what happens when you are no longer able to have sex? Easy, you lose a core element of your relationship. This is a fact. If you marry someone who are unable to have sex with, you will not have that core element of your marriage.

Its the same as when people lose the ability to do other things that were once a core part of their relationship. Sex is no different.

There is intimacy without sex, true. But sex should be the ultimate.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I guarantee everyone saying no is satisfied with their sexual situation


Good sex is a non factor, bad sex is everything