Do you INSIST if a woman says "That's OK, I got it"

[valet]

Long story short- So my sister's beautician needed a TV and my sister offered to give my late dad's tv to her. When she arrived, I brought the TV outside and was about to carry it to her car. She stopped me and said "You don't have to do that. I can carry it.. So I was like

And handed her the tv and went back to watching the playoffs.

Now, I know some men who would insist and say "no I got it." But I know how some sisters are. And don't want men doing nothing for them. So I just pull back. But what about you? How do you handle these situations?

 

[boriquaking]

I respect people’s wishes, so if someone tells me they don’t want my help I reel it in.

 

[Nymbus]

depends how they say it

 

[BelieveBeOK]

I insist after the first time because I assume they're being polite. If they decline my assistance a second time, I'll leave them to it.

You should have carried that TV though.

 

[valet]

I insist after the first time because I assume they're being polite. If they decline my assistance a second time, I'll leave them to it.

You should have carried that TV though.

Why should I, in your view?

 

[Rawtid]

She must be younger because I don’t turn down free labor anymore lol.

But naw, you did the right thing. Maybe she was embarrassed about the condition of her car or something.

 

[NeilCartwright]

This is some of the wild stuff we deal with. If we offer, and they decline, somehow we’re supposed to be a mind reader and know they’re true feelings

 

[jj23]

Long story short- So my sister's beautician needed a TV and my sister offered to give my late dad's tv to her. When she arrived, I brought the TV outside and was about to carry it to her car. She stopped me and said "You don't have to do that. I can carry it.. So I was like

And handed her the tv and went back to watching the playoffs.

Now, I know some men who would insist and say "no I got it." But I know how some sisters are. And don't want men doing nothing for them. So I just pull back. But what about you? How do you handle these situations?

You did the right thing

 

[valet]

She just be younger because I don’t turn down free labor anymore lol.

Yeah she's like late 20's. From my experience with black women this age, they view things differently then whe I was raised.

 

[SheWantTheD]

How I was raised men don't let women do any type of hard manual labor or lifting.

My mom and sister will look at me crazy if I ask them to lift some heavy shyt.

flat screen tv's aren't even heavy at all today but still.

 

[get these nets]

Long story short- So my sister's beautician needed a TV and my sister offered to give my late dad's tv to her. When she arrived, I brought the TV outside and was about to carry it to her car. She stopped me and said "You don't have to do that. I can carry it.. So I was like

And handed her the tv and went back to watching the playoffs.

Now, I know some men who would insist and say "no I got it." But I know how some sisters are. And don't want men doing nothing for them. So I just pull back. But what about you? How do you handle these situations?

Thought you were talking about money/paying.

This was a stranger, so respect her words. If she got it, she got it.

Wouldn't let female relative or friend carry the tv no matter what she said.

 

[Pseudonym]

She just be younger because I don’t turn down free labor anymore lol.

But naw, you did the right thing. Maybe she was embarrassed about the condition of her car or something.

Facts

 

[boriquaking]

How I was raised men don't let women do any type of hard manual labor or lifting.

My mom and sister will look at me crazy if I ask them to lift some heavy shyt.

flat screen tv's aren't even heavy at all today but still.

Thats not the point, if someone asks you not to do something you don’t do it.

if you see someone struggling on their own, you should always offer help. But if they decline they decline.

 

[shopthatwrecks]

no... because she gone get it later

 

[MoveForward]

Nope… I order another drink before we leave.