Do you really NEED 3-5 years to know if you see a future with a woman?

[Malik]

The number I hear mostly on here is 3 to 5 years before even thinking about marriage. I get it. Most dudes want to take it slow, you need time to access whether a woman is worth marrying. You have to make sure you really know her. But where does that leave the woman. Let's say yall been together 4 years and you realize you dont want to marry her and yall break up.



She was 26 when you met her. Now she's 30. You just wasted 4 prime years of her life when you probably knew from jump she wasn't the one for you

 

[Doobie Doo]

So what, that's her problem. That's four years of my life too. It ain't like I put a gun to her and forced her to stay. The trick is to buy her an engagement ring and try to change the subject anytime she brings up wedding dates.

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

Saying you need 3-5 years to know you see a future with her is not the same as saying you need 3-5 years to know that you DON'T see a future with her.

If you know from jump, I agree you shouldn't waste your time, but if you don't, you gotta invest that time.

 

[Prestige]

But where does that leave the woman.

Who gives a fukk?

 

[unit321]

The number I hear mostly on here is 3 to 5 years before even thinking about marriage. I get it. Most dudes want to take it slow, you need time to access whether a woman is worth marrying. You have to make sure you really know her. But where does that leave the woman. Let's say yall been together 4 years and you realize you dont want to marry her and yall break up.

She was 26 when you met her. Now she's 30. You just wasted 4 prime years of her life when you probably knew from jump she wasn't the one for you.

It depends.
Some guys are retarded and hook up with the wrong woman thinking she's not the wrong woman. Different issues. Whatever. People are people.
Have a happy Thursday.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

I think 3-5 years should be the cut off as in, if she's not the one by now she will probably never be the one. But you could come to the realization that she is the one well before 3 years. Putting some arbitrary number on the amount of years before making that decision is a bad idea in my opinion.

 

[-G$-]

i didn't need that long

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Some do, some don't. I didn't and still don't.....​

 

[Atlrocafella]

When the divorce happens it wont even matter how long it took you to marry her.

 

[killacal]

Cuz dudes are out here playing mental gymnastics to trick themselves from marrying. shyt should be natural but there's not great judge of characters out there

 

[Jakarta]

i didn't need that long

I proposed after 3 months.

 

[AllHolosEve]

When the divorce happens it wont even matter how long it took you to marry her.

me & my bm were together off & on for over 10 years.... she fl!pped the scr!pt try!n to l!sten to her s!ngle female relat!ves & landed !n the bushes... t!me dont matter, yall un!ty matters...

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

not to see if you have a future, just to know what your chances for survival are. you can usually tell off gate if you have some sort of future with a woman or if you'll get to know each other better. the relationship is more about testing the common level of interaction over a certain time period to see if it's worthwhile proceeding past that point...

 

[QuintessentialBM]

It depends... I wouldn't blame young adults between the age of 18-24 being together for 3-5+ years in order to get themselves together financially and mature together... When you have your stuff together or you are approaching your late 20's and early 30's, that stuff should already be together, especially the maturity, where most folks are lacking.

I agree with the 2 year standard(unless you are both still trying to get your lives in order). Year one should be getting to know each other..... and a relationship can take off as slow or as quickly as the couple wants. Year two can be used as a comparison to see if year one was a fluke. In 2 years, you should know a person's personality, maturity, ect.... to know if you want to marry your significant other.

Males and females play too many games though and that's the ish I don't like. Men for sex and women for resources/financial stability.

 

[Blacsmiff]

6 months, to a year and a half tops.

The longer it takes, the less chance a marriage will have after that period.