Does your parents marriage affect the way you think about Relationships ?

[Pay Your Bills]

Seeing how my mom dragged my father to the mud through all those years, this inspired me to never let that happened breh, my father is the coolest guy i've known my entire life, very cool, always calm and level headed, but my mom was always the man in the house, she make way more than my pop and always taking care of everything in the house, she never respected my father, which is why he left. Seeing this while growning up, i think this is the reason why i'm always on anti-simp, pro GMB and HOH mode.

 

[Verbal Kint]

Of course. What you see modeled as a youngn always affects you. My folks divorced when I was like 3 but they used to yell and scream when pops would come pick me up at times. I was just talking with my wife about this because I refuse to argue with her or do anything near arguing with her in front of our kids for that very reason.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Definitely, my dad cheated on my mom so I always think I'm gonna get cheated on so I'm always ready to leave.

The odd thing is, I never heard my parents fight before the day mom found out he was cheated.

 

[Rawtid]

Most definitely.

 

[mr.africa]

yes

 

[parallax]

Not my parents, but my grandparents for sure. Seeing how devastated one would get when they got sick in older age, or just how destroyed my grandfather got when my grandmother passed makes me want a relationship like that. But at the same time, I know I'm too selfish to ever have something like that.

 

[Will Ross]

Definitely, my dad cheated on my mom so I always think I'm gonna get cheated on so I'm always ready to leave.

The odd thing is, I never heard my parents fight before the day mom found out he was cheated.

You do know your mom most likely got her payback right?

 

[Yehuda]

No.

 

[Paper Boi]

this question is too deep.

let's just say i'm aware of it and it probably effects me for better or worse.

 

[Ashley Banks]

You do know your mom most likely got her payback right?

She left the day she found out. Also, my mom isn't the kind of person to get payback. lol She just says "it's his life, he can do what he wants".

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

How could it not? I've learned a number of things but some things stand out a lot.

I don't believe in putting women on a pedestal and putting their wants ahead of mine because of a lot of women simply don't know how to appreciate selfless behavior. It also taught me that a lot of men are all talk but their actions don't match up with their claims. Plenty of men claim to be leading their household and talk like they're doing so much but really it's their wives that have more control and have more of a say in important decisions.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Your dad was a p*ssy.

 

[Marc Spector]

yes.

My mother is becoming more regretful in her later years that she married my father. She loves him but doesn't like him. My dad is stubborn and doesn't put enough effort for her.

Mind you, what she doesn't realize is that she wore him down over the years with constant nagging and resentment. I think he just stopped giving a fukk over the years because no matter what he did, he never made her happy.

My takeaway from their marriage is that you have to marry someone who at their core understands conflict is a product of TWO sides.

 

[Pay Your Bills]

yes.

My mother is becoming more regretful in her later years that she married my father. She loves him but doesn't like him. My dad is stubborn and doesn't put enough effort for her.

Mind you, what she doesn't realize is that she wore him down over the years with constant nagging and resentment. I think he just stopped giving a fukk over the years because no matter what he did, he never made her happy.

My takeaway from their marriage is that you have to marry someone who at their core understands conflict is a product of TWO sides.

Agree, Problem is you don't know until you're married and live with the person, my pop always told me my mom was not the same person when she married her, things change through the years, including someone's personnality. Picking someone is very tricky, you can't never know.

 

[DaPresident]

YUP....

Watched my parents go thru the ups and downs...but they ALWAYS showed each other love and respect. They rarely, if ever, fought around my sister and I. They got into disagreements, but all couples do.

I saw a lot of love and respect, which I still see to this day. That's why I refuse to let some of the brehs on here or my past experiences jade me on marriage. I've seen it work first hand and I see it everyday with my parents, i saw it in my deceased grandparents, and many examples in my personal circle..