Fathers Say They Dont Want A Daughter So Men Won’t Do The Same Things They’ve Done.....

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

I have a daughter. she's 6 now. I feel confident she's not going to turn out bad because most of the people in my family are shining examples of virtue. She's also really bossy and demanding so i feel confident she never let anybody do her wrong at this point. She has to have things her way. But she's only 6 and she's like the first woman to born into our family in like 40 years, so i have no clue how she'll turn out realistically.

same. She'll be good - you provide the balance. all of my family is majority male and male dominated. I was the only girl in my family until I had my daughter. Mine is bossy, extra talkative and demanding - has to have her way; so I think that's just a personality thing. The problem is being the only girl in the family has made her super pampered and spoiled. I blame my parents and brothers bc everything is catered around her. She had a fit the other day in the grocery store bc we were in the freezer section and she starts crying/complaining bc she wanted me to hurry up bc it was too cold what kind of diva display is this. I purposely took my time to show her that she wasn't running things and needs to deal with it.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I've never mistreated a woman, but ok

 

[mag357]

That’s manipulation. My daughter use to do that when she was younger(she’s 14 now). She wants to get her way(she’s a damn libra to). I raised her and my son the same way. Her mom thinks I’m to hard on hard but whenever theirs a issue she calls me to regulate. And I’m like nah playa. That’s on you. You let her electric boogie over you!


Raising girls is hard. But you can’t stop them from doing what they want to do. They are going to do everything you’re afraid of behind your back.

I was having a convo wit a guy at work about this.
He has like a 14-16yr old daughter.
He was saying how I guess she likes some boy and wanted to have him meet him, so they could go to the movies, hang out etc.
He said he met the boy, and his parents. Took them to the movies... takes them places so they can hangout...
Says the boy is a good young man.
Cool...

But i told him "but why tho?"

But why are u letting ur daughter have a boyfriend...
He says cause if he tries to keep her from doing it, shes just gonna do the shyt behind his back.
And he says he raised her right, so she should be ok...

But I asked "What benefit is it for you or her, for her to have a boyfriend..."

There is no benefit... I said you know that nikka is a teenager.
His hormones are raging... that lil nice, respectable nikka wants some p*ssy.

And if ur daughter diggs him, he is gonna have more control over her than u do.
Her having a boyfriend can potentially fukk her life up... but on the flip side, there is no potential for anything good to come out of her having a bf.
Shes not gonna get better grades, get in to a better college, make any side money by having a bf.

But he says again.... if I stop her from doing it, shes gonna do it behind my back.

And I said, u know how much shyt ur kids already do behind ur back nikka. U dont really know ur kids, the image they put in front of u, isnt their real selves.
So shes gonna do shyt behind ur back anyway.
Your job is to let her know that certain things are right or wrong for how ur raising her.
And somethings are beneficial or not for her life.

If she wants to risk getting caught having a boyfriend behind ur back... then that's an ass whupping and having her father being disappointed in her that she has to deal with

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

Raising daughters is like raising grass type Pokémon. It takes longer, has slower growth, it’s more frustrating and there are way too many things that can hurt them.

But in the end it’s all worth it.

dope analogy

 

[Sterling Archer]

It could be worse. They could have a son, and some guy could do all the things to him that they did to women...

Well executed

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

I got a muslim bro from Pakistan...
U should hear how he talks about having a daughter, the shyt is amazing...

He talks about having a child is a blessing, but having a daughter is an extra special blessing from Allah.

Lil girls are a special gift, they love you stronger... they wanna be helpful around the house. They want to help raise the other kids.

I ain't got kids but I got a gang of nieces and nephews...
And hes absolutely right... my nephews are cool..
But my nieces are like extra special... they've always been way more mature when the were like toddlers (if that makes sense), way more personality, more ambition.

Females only seem to start getting fukked up in the head and start the decline once they get into the world. Or are raised by nutt cases

From nature they are made better

awwwwww.. that's so sweeet. That's how I see it - having a daughter and son is amazing to see how they look at things from their points of view (best of both worlds) but something about my daughter makes her more helpful and attentive. When I was pregnant with her- my doctor said that she would be my best friend. And that's how I see her too; she always cares about how I feel and knows if something is bothering me.
My son is very protective though but with day to day things going on he's oblivious - if it doesn't affect him directly, he doesn't give a shyt.

 

[mag357]

awwwwww.. that's so sweeet. That's how I see it - having a daughter and son is amazing to see how they look at things from their points of view (best of both worlds) but something about my daughter makes her more helpful and attentive. When I was pregnant with her- my doctor said that she would be my best friend. And that's how I see her too; she always cares about how I feel and knows if something is bothering me.
My son is very protective though but with day to day things going on he's oblivious - if it doesn't affect him directly, he doesn't give a shyt.

Worddd... that's exactly how my nephews are.
If it doesn't effect them directly, they could give 2 shyts.

Nieces be actually giving a fukk.
Damn u got me missing these lil people right now

 

[Luke Cage]

awwwwww.. that's so sweeet. That's how I see it - having a daughter and son is amazing to see how they look at things from their points of view (best of both worlds) but something about my daughter makes her more helpful and attentive. When I was pregnant with her- my doctor said that she would be my best friend. And that's how I see her too; she always cares about how I feel and knows if something is bothering me.
My son is very protective though but with day to day things going on he's oblivious - if it doesn't affect him directly, he doesn't give a shyt.

Shoot, i'm still like that

i need to have a son though and see what it's like. I always wanted to be that dad in the crowd at the sporting events. I encourage my daughter to play sports too but she takes after her mother. very interested in feminine things, pink and purple everything, dresses like a ballerina, wants to wear makeup etc type stuff.
I don't mind though, i wasn't trying raise a young ma or anything.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Can you explain this a bit more? I’ve always heard this but why would you view your own child as a threat or competition? Shouldn’t you be raising them to be better than you?

I'm talking on purely substance level. Like mothers who are on a petty type of vibe, where they either view their daughters as prettier than them, jealous of their daughters in the sense of wishing they were in their daughter's position or mothers who have become so bitter at their life choices, mistakes, setbacks that they vent their frustrations on to their daughters and the segment of mothers who want to live life vicariously through their daughters. Basically they want to be their daughters or see their daughters as their "second chance" at life. With each, it tends to bring a level of dysfunction bc the daughter feels their never good enough or they can't live up to the image that their mother sets for them. The daughter internalizes all this, not realizing that it's not the daughter's fault - that's the mother's insecurities. The daughter doesn't realize this until their older and gain life experience. In some cases, the daughter will act out (sexually or the need for intimacy in social situations, negative interaction - (gang, street life) or on the flip side of that, the daughter will eventually grow out of it and use it as motivation to level up in life as a way to prove their worthiness, become super competitive in school, etc). There a very good video out there that breaks this down. Let me see if I can find it again, I post it up for you.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Relatable.. all of it. It's hard af but she's so sweet and cute, so I can't even stay mad and she's getting to the point where she knows it too. She'll talk back or start whining, questioning me, I check her and a few minutes later she will come cuddle up on me..it's a wrap. Like you said I need to regulate before it turns into something beyond control. I know that I'm harder on my son - I don't let him get away with the slick talk, and I set up more boundaries with him; I'm not trying to have him be food or susceptible out here to influences.

Yeah I know exactly what you’re talking about. I don’t fall for that. I forgot what it was but one time when my daughter was around 7 or 8. She did something and her mother and I had a fallen out over her. I did not speak to my daughter or her mother for like 6 months. I just sent money every month plus clothes and sneakers. Sounds crazy by I gave zero fukks. I’m stubborn but one thing I won’t do is be disrespected. And to this day they know not to fukk around with me lol.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Worddd... that's exactly how my nephews are.
If it doesn't effect them directly, they could give 2 shyts.

Nieces be actually giving a fukk.
Damn u got me missing these lil people right now

Men/boys are interested in things and Women/girls are interested in people.

 

[Will Ross]

I think people say they want sons because our society really does not show the struggles a boy can face.
while our society shows what girls can face. So most people are going to say they want sons.

 

[Sugarbush]

Having a daughter is a wild emotional trip bro. Watching soft shyt on tv makes me tear up and even the slightest thought of anything happening to her gets me in my feels

 

[MJ Truth]

To her.....

We always hear men say they don’t want a daughter or are overprotective of their daughters bc they “know men”...and dont want the same things that’s happened to her that he’s done before to girls...

But I never hear women say “I dont want a boy, bc of all the things I’ve done to men”

“I know women”....
Do women not care?

I do know overprotective moms that hate all their son’s girlfriends....but compared to men AND women Ive heard who dont want daughters is more common....

Is this why most mothers give bad advice ?(the real advice makes women look bad, and in turn the mother look bad)

Are sons seen as more valuable then daughters?



@HarlemHottie @Nicole0416 and other Coli moms help me out

Let's be real here, just by virtue of biology, women are more likely to be violated than men are anyway, and the gap is even wider when it's girls vs. boys. And society is built for men to succeed moreso than women (despite what these new age losers bytch about).

 

[intruder]

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