Fellas...can we talk about how averse to having the talk about "body image" women are?

[no.]

bruh...we're not even talking "thick" here...were talking OBESE.

I already answered you... And as I said, you can say whatever you want, it just won't earn you any smiles.

Of course you can comment. But not surprisingly, it was taken the wrong way by a woman trying to protect her chubby friend from a man she thought was making fun of her. That was likely what it was: protectiveness towards her friend. Even if you didn't mean it in an offensive way at all, she still went ''well, she is fat but don't say it, that's mean!'' because there usually are people talking about fat girls behind their backs, making fun of them.

You can comment but it's not, how can I put it... politically correct to do so. The politically correct thing to do is to be the blind-to-appearances guy who says beauty is actually inner beauty, that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and yadda, yadda, yadda. Of course it's not true from an aesthetic point of view, but the world is filled with white lies for a reason. It's what people want to hear, it's what makes them feel good about themselves.

 

[swimmingpools]

Honestly Id want to know if I was falling off. Weight, appearance, whatever. I want him to be able to remind me that Im slipping, because I sure have no problem doing the same. I dont think its rude at all to point out a change in your S/Os appearance as long as youre respectful.

But if youre not her man, I can see why she'd take it as offensive...

 

[jadillac]

Girls are sensitive about their body image, especially with the media propagating unrealistic standards.

How can I explain... when a woman lets herself go, she's violating the social standards of beauty and she expects to be punished for that, especially by men.

Trust me, most girls who are fat know they are fat and they know men generally don't like fat girls, so the average male is pretty much a potential aggressor to their self-esteem. Of course, the man might not be viewing her negatively at all, but she's working under the (correct) assumption that most men will.

And that of course generates a hell of a lot of defensiveness derived from low self-esteem. People don't want to be reminded of their flaws, especially not by people who don't have to conform to the same standards as they do in order to be accepted. In short, the thought process goes more or less like this = ''Men are the ones rejecting fat girls. If they say something, it's because they're attacking them like we expect them to do.'' + ''Men don't know what is like to be a woman struggling with her weight. Men don't get to say shyt.''

I agree with most of ur post, except for the bolded


Women don't have it any harder than men. A man has to be tall, a flowing head of hair, be cut/muscular, have a lot of money....and be good looking/handsome on top of all that.

All a woman really has to do is keep herself somewhat in shape, wear a little makeup. Added to that, there's magazines and ENTIRE stores that cater to women who may be a little more round & curvy than the average. That's a huge self-acceptance boost right there for women. Men don't have any of that.

A woman with fake boobs, face full of makeup, and fake hair will talk bad about an average looking man who approaches her.

 

[GoPro]

All you gotta do is ask her if she'd really give the time of day to a fat man. Shuts em up every time.