Fellas: Times You Won the Argument with Your S/O

[The 2020 New Member]

Tried to tell my girl about her attitude problem. Her friends and co-workers reached out about her current gig being on tin ice. She got mad. Rather than i tried to be a stand-up dude, only to be met with the exact attitude that was causing friction. She left the bar to go get smokes and i walked her out. Told her i loved her. Walked a mile home.

She tried to pull over and talk but i simply said "we'll speak tomorrow". She drove home crying. I feel for her but she needs to stop being so bratty. I aint eem mad so i see it as a win. No?

shyt just had me thinking. The only way a man wins a couple's dispute is to not get mad and walk away.

 

[Turbulent]

Tried to tell my girl about her attitude problem. Her friends and co-workers reached out about her current gig being on tin ice. She got mad. Rather than i tried to be a stand-up dude, only to be met with the exact attitude that was causing friction. She left the bar to go get smokes and i walked her out. Told her i loved her. Walked a mile home.

She tried to pull over and talk but i simply said "we'll speak tomorrow". She drove home crying. I feel for her but she needs to stop being so bratty. I aint eem mad so i see it as a win. No?

shyt just had me thinking. The only way a man wins a couple's dispute is to not get mad and walk away.

not the only way.

 

[The 2020 New Member]

not the only way.

when she's not hearing you out it sure seems to be the only way.

but what else did you have in mind?

 

[roxxthe96er]

Real men don't lose arguments to women

 

[Turbulent]

when she's not hearing you out it sure seems to be the only way.

but what else did you have in mind?

stick to your guns. don't concede anything, don't try to buy peace. don't get off subject AT ALL.

 

[The 2020 New Member]

stick to your guns. don't concede anything, don't try to buy peace. don't get off subject AT ALL.

Oh, well that's how I actually won this one but she still wanted to trip. So I just walked away. I feel like I could have sabotaged myself if i gave into her bullshyt. hence, walking away. When I say win, I mean being the one that doesn't have to apologize later for hurting the other one's feelings. Her feelings needed to be hurt tonight.

 

[The 2020 New Member]

Real men don't argue wit women

fixt.

 

[Turbulent]

Oh, well that's how I actually won this one but she still wanted to trip. So I just walked away. I feel like I could have sabotaged myself if i gave into her bullshyt. hence, walking away. When I say win, I mean being the one that doesn't have to apologize later for hurting the other one's feelings. Her feelings needed to be hurt tonight.

i don't apologize for that type of shyt if what i said needed to be said. i don't play the guilt game. if i say it, chances are i meant it. she can either accept it or step.

 

[roxxthe96er]

fixt.

Nothing wrong with tellin a bytch when she wrong though

 

[The 2020 New Member]

i don't apologize for that type of shyt if what i said needed to be said. i don't play the guilt game. if i say it, chances are i meant it. she can either accept it or step.

I feel you but it's not always about giving her an ultimatum. I love my girl and I don't see myself walking away from her anytime soon. However, friction occurs between folks. I don't believe there's some perfect girl out there for me that I'll never have an argument/disagreement with. Just because You or I don't play the game, doesn't mean that our girlfriends don't. Just because she gets upset about what I'm saying doesn't mean that we don't love each other or should abandon each other. That's way too extreme and highly unrealistic in my opinion. Some relationships are toxic but most just require understanding each others flaws (or at least trying to) before we call it quits.

For the record, I'm not talking about thots or flings. I'm talking about a person that you see yourself with for a long time or marrying. When it comes to random ass bytches, I have been quick to but with someone that I share everything with, I have to deal with the conflict in a way that is conducive to us continuing to care for one another.

 

[Turbulent]

I feel you but it's not always about giving her an ultimatum. I love my girl and I don't see myself walking away from her anytime soon. However, friction occurs between folks. I don't believe there's some perfect girl out there for me that I'll never have an argument/disagreement with. Just because You or I don't play the game, doesn't mean that our girlfriends don't. Just because she gets upset about what I'm saying doesn't mean that we don't love each other or should abandon each other. That's way too extreme and highly unrealistic in my opinion. Some relationships are toxic but most just require understanding each others flaws (or at least trying to) before we call it quits.

For the record, I'm not talking about thots or flings. I'm talking about a person that you see yourself with for a long time or marrying. When it comes to random ass bytches, I have been quick to but with someone that I share everything with, I have to deal with the conflict in a way that is conducive to us continuing to care for one another.

i can respect that,

but i didn't mean it like an ultimatum. what i meant was, i won't apologize for something i said just cause i hurt her feelings (especially if i meant it and it's the truth). hell i won't even apologize for the way i said it cause chances are it needed to be said that way. i don't do ultimatums. what i meant was, if she's not happy, she will see it on her own and decide on her own that she needs someone else. she's the one who stays or walks away. if i'm committed, i'll stay. but i won't compromise. you always have to be ready to see them walk away.

 

[thirdeye]

Arguing with an s/o? There's no winning in that.
Straight losses for the both of us

 

[AtomicUse]

I've never been one to argue, it's exhausting. Just hang up the phone, or leave the room/house/setting and go get someone else, or be by yourself.

All of those options are better and more productive than arguing.

 

[Beedad]

Even When You Win, You Lose. Don't Argue With Women. Save Your Energy On Something Else.

 

[thirdeye]

I've never been one to argue, it's exhausting. Just hang up the phone, or leave the room/house/setting and go get someone else, or be by yourself.

All of those options are better and more productive than arguing.

My ex loved arguing, I'm sitting there like um, I'm not wasting my energy on being angry at you.
He saw me not arguing with him as me not caring about the relationship....what my nikka?
Thank god I got out of that shyt, it's not worth it.