Girl Code vs. Guy Code when it comes to dating

[Aceofspades404]

As many of you know, I'm not really experienced when it comes to guys/relationships. Me personally, I tend to just base things on what I consider to be morally right.
Now this isn't just me cuz I've seen this with other girls so I know it's pretty common.
But why are guys so comfortable with trying to talk to a girl whose friends with a girl they used to date?
Guy 1 used to date my friend around sophomore year. although they never had sex, we all used to hang out with each other and were always hugged up on each other so why da hell does he think it's ok to even blow in my direction?
what makes it worse is that he is actually an upstanding individual and I keep feeling guilty for trying to bush him for the past year and a half, as much as I complain about not finding a good guy.
guy 2 who I grew up with dated a friend, a girl I grew up with(he was in her wedding party), and my friend/third cousin and he hasn't let up at all these past 3 years. I dread every single time he comments on my pictures. I just want him to go away.

So what say you? Is it just inexperience and I should relax a bit or is this part of the game that I should avoid at all costs?

 

[Sterling Archer]

I thought you meant the TV show. :belipup:

 

[Aceofspades404]

I thought you meant the TV show. :belipup:

I'll edit the title

 

[Sterling Archer]

To answer the question, I think it has something to do with showing the (ex)girl that she fukked up by letting it be known that her friends find you desirable. Or maybe if it is a petty individual, out of spite. Theres a good chance that it is simply someone who you have already spent time with and are familiar with. You don't need to go jump through the hurdles of getting to know this person. Maybe there was a mutual attraction that went no where because of the previous relationship and now that it is over, its something that can be acted on. There's usually more satisfaction in finally conquering sexual tension than it is creating it with someone.

To answer more specifically, its not an issue among men. Depending on how the relationship ended, your friends are not off limits. If it ended badly, then they are most definitely NOT off limits. And as much as you personally may adhere to this "Girl Code", recognize you are in the minority even among your women peers. Women like to present themselves as if they don't do this when in my experience, are just as guilty as men are of it. I've never approached an ex's homegirl and to this day, there's only been one ex whose friends didn't reach out to me for to hookup.

Men just dont bother to act like we don't it like women do.

 

[InDePickWest]

Some dudes get off on fukking friends/sisters. These are usually attention seeking fukkboys that you should curve. Being in college, I've had nikkas try to talk to me literally days after my friend had him. Im a lowkey lame. Girl code is dont fukk with your sisters hoes cuz she might want to double back. Too many men out here to recycle dikk.

 

[Mowgli]

Men don't care about the relationships of friends when it co.especially to lussh. If she's that fine and he always had an eye on her he will persue.

Women are no different in this regard because they will fukk the homie if they heard he has that pipe or a prosperous future.

 

[iBrowse]

@Tony_Bromo stop messing with OP's emotions

 

[Aceofspades404]

To answer the question, I think it has something to do with showing the (ex)girl that she fukked up by letting it be known that her friends find you desirable. Or maybe if it is a petty individual, out of spite. Theres a good chance that it is simply someone who you have already spent time with and are familiar with. You don't need to go jump through the hurdles of getting to know this person. Maybe there was a mutual attraction that went no where because of the previous relationship and now that it is over, its something that can be acted on. There's usually more satisfaction in finally conquering sexual tension than it is creating it with someone.

yea when guy 1 would converse with me, he would say "tell your friend I said hi" and not her actual name. I thought they were still friendly with each other til he said " I don't speak to ...'. I really didn't like the tone.

To answer more specifically, its not an issue among men. Depending on how the relationship ended, your friends are not off limits. If it ended badly, then they are most definitely NOT off limits. And as much as you personally may adhere to this "Girl Code", recognize you are in the minority even among your women peers. Women like to present themselves as if they don't do this when in my experience, are just as guilty as men are of it. I've never approached an ex's homegirl and to this day, there's only been one ex whose friends didn't reach out to me for to hookup.

Men just dont bother to act like we don't it like women do.

Yea I realized that. I actually cutoff my exroomate/friend bc of that and many other things. she got close to the guy after her best friend broke up with him. she would be texting her best friend making the guy look bad but then go to the guy and make her bf look bad. I remember he went to his ex gf's graduation and took pics with her and my roommate was talking crap the whole way back home.

 

[HoloGraphic]

In my experience, if things aren't going you're way with people just cut them off. Give that same space and attention to people who work with your interests, standards, goals, etc. How can you find Mr. Right if your surrounded by Mr. Wrong & Co? You can not keep both bad and good company at the same time.

What you need to learn is confidence to play by YOUR rules and to stick to them.

 

[Sterling Archer]

yea when guy 1 would converse with me, he would say "tell your friend I said hi" and not her actual name. I thought they were still friendly with each other til he said " I don't speak to ...'. I really didn't like the tone.


Yea I realized that. I actually cutoff my exroomate/friend bc of that and many other things. she got close to the guy after her best friend broke up with him. she would be texting her best friend making the guy look bad but then go to the guy and make her bf look bad. I remember he went to his ex gf's graduation and took pics with her and my roommate was talking crap the whole way back home.

Sometimes they may do it as a roundabout attempt to get back with their ex. Competitiveness and jealousy can jumpstart a rekindled relationship despite what most thinks. You may think you don't want that bike anymore until you see someone else having a ball riding it. Now you realize how much fun you used to have riding it and want it back.

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

@Tony_Bromo stop messing with OP's emotions