have you ever been lied to by a parent?

[Marco Zen]

did it affect you? or was it easy to brush off

did it change the dynamic of yalls relationship?


and for you nikkaz with kids have your kids ever caught you lying?


have you ever asked your kids to lie for you?


did it harm their credibility with you? respect?

 

[Reptile]

nikka all of us have.

 

[AnonymityX1000]

Everyone lies. It's just how big.

 

[boriquaking]

A lot of you were told you were loved and clearly that was a lie..

 

[SunZoo]

- Didn't really have parents like that, but yes they lied
- My kids catch me lying all the time Not about anything serious though.

- I wouldn't ask them to lie for me, though once they reach a certain age I think it's important for them to understand the utility of bending the truth for them and for people they may deal with that might lie to them for whatever reason. It's not a black/white thing where honesty is an inherit virtue. Honesty at the wrong time, in the wrong context can get you killed and you should know as much.

 

[Reptile]

A lot of you were told you were loved and clearly that was a lie..

Damn thats crazy! Name names though

 

[Marco Zen]

- Didn't really have parents like that, but yes they lied
- My kids catch me lying all the time Not about anything serious though.

- I wouldn't ask them to lie for me, though once they reach a certain age I think it's important for them to understand the utility of bending the truth for them and for people they may deal with that might lie to them for whatever reason. It's not a black/white thing where honesty is an inherit virtue. Honesty at the wrong time, in the wrong context can get you killed and you should know as much.

so you would teach them the value of lying?

 

[2 one 3]

Yes, sadly, all the time…

And for me, it made me look at every single person as untrustworthy.

Because if this person who brought you into the world can look at you directly in your eyes with a straight face and tell you a extraordinary lie…


Low-key me and my sister are both have been affected by the lies. A parent has told us. But it is what it is.

 

[SunZoo]

so you would teach them the value of lying?

Absolutely.

 

[Marco Zen]

nikka all of us have.

elaborate on all of us

 

[Marco Zen]

Absolutely.

would it also apply to lying to you?

 

[Chrishaune]

Breh, all parents lie to their kids at some point.

That's when the kid should realize nobody can be trusted 100%

 

[Reptile]

elaborate on all of us

Your parents never lied to you?

 

[Marco Zen]

Your parents never lied to you?

outside of santa claus, a knock knock joke or the tooth fairy i cant recall being told something i later found out wasnt true?

have you?

 

[SunZoo]

would it also apply to lying to you?

No, although if teach you how/when/why lying makes sense, there's no stopping you from at least trying to use those skills on me.

Thing is though; the value of lying is staying safe. My job is to make them feel safe enough that they never have to lie to me, but know when someone is lying to them and when it would be prudent to withhold information or even lead someone in the direction that secures your safety.

The flip side of that is, there is a difference in lying and being a LIAR. LIARS, who compulsively lie and manipulate ultimately hurt themselves by eschewing authenticity. There is always a middle ground.