Having your shyt together beforehand vs. building together?

[Reece]

What’s y’all opinion on this? My thinking was to have your shyt together, build your foundation then get serious about finding a wife. My foundation built now. My homie got married younger and they went through the struggle together and now they solidified. I’m a bit jealous he had a rider through his tough years I won’t lie

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Should be both imo. You should have yourself together, but you should also be building with your partner regardless. Relationships are always evolving.

 

[invalid]

An equally ambitious significant other would most likely push you farther than you would have went on your own. With a partner like that it’s okay to build together. Someone like a Michelle Obama. If you don’t have someone like that, it’s probably better to have things in order before you jump in.

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

I struggle with this too. One part of me wants a woman being willing to build with me in a relationship, cuz that's a defining quality to me for wifey material.



On the other hand, this generation of women really aint about that "Build-A-N***a" shyt as they call it That's not exactly what *I'M* talking about doing together but at the same time I get it. You really are kinda better off grinding until you're situation is straight.





But then once you do, it's like do you love me or my status? Now that you have built yourself up there's a lot to lose rather than having something to build on. Place your chips in the wrong pot and next thing you know you're on here with these Red Pill/Get Married Brehs muhfukkas



I don't have the answers but I lean towards building

 

[Heafcliffe]

Both worked for my wife and I....

We saw the potential in one another for a prosperous future.

 

[mag357]

Nope... have ur shyt together already.
If she has helped u gain the shyt that yall have..
Then u gotta say shes equal to u.
Trust me. A woman never 4gets that she had a hand in ur shyt...
"U wasnt shyt b4 me" will pop in her head when yall beefing...

And also, that thinking is backwards.
There was never a time in history where men relied on women to help them achieve financial goals.
A man had to have certain things before he could even get a wife.
The fact that women will fukk a niggs and be with a nikka... and only give her p*ssy to that 1 nikka.
Like hes deserves that. But shes getting up everyday working, and paying half the Bill's too is fukking ridiculous and how women will always take Ls for now on... simple

 

[MMA]

It's parallel. Men who say they want a women when they are building themselves up are asking for a women to love them/want them for who they are oppose to what they have or can provide. Men value natural loyalty (who they want it from)

You shouldn't be bringing your struggle unto someone else regardless of your situation, especially shouldn't be bringing your struggles on a woman or vice versa. Been with mine since we were younger. She stuck by my side, loyalty and all, is rewarded for that. It's now my obligation to take care of her for her loyalty.

 

[Brock Landers]

With the way prenups are being tossed out like an old newspaper it's not going to matter much anymore Judges deciding what to do with your single assets as they please

#GMB

 

[YaThreadTrashB!]

fukk that build and then get prenup

 

[Silkk]

bytch gonna distract the hell out you.


Get it together grouch

 

[BrehWyatt]

It's vastly more rewarding to build together. To have that partner that you go through highs and lows with while growing closer and prospering from what life throws at you.

But that's not realistic. I feel like women would MUCH rather a man be as complete as he's going to be, and a man would rather have it together prior to. Now, whether a woman has her shyt together? The average man don't care about that shyt. If you're attractive and are loyal, for the most part, a breh is content.

Standards ought to be raised there, but until they are, women are fortunate to have a relatively low bar to reach for the average breh.

Having your shyt together beforehand is ideal. Now, what that means to you or anybody else? That's all relative. But for a guy trying to be about something, it BEHOOVES him to have his shyt together as best he can before trying to actually cuff one and get out of the game. Too much at stake from a pride, ego and legal standpoint.

 

[BaggerofTea]

never had a woman to build with. now that I have started putting things together, good career, well paying work, in shape etc i am not sure that I want to even be with a woman period.

depends on what you want and need.

 

[the cac mamba]

depends. if you have your shyt together beforehand, you can tell her to kick rocks

Get it together grouch

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

A woman that is loyal and believed in you during the lower half of your climb up the ladder is going to be more valuable than a chick that will drop you if things go wrong.

It's all about how much a man values loyalty and love. A man that puts personal success/money ahead of love is going to have a completely different perspective than a man that values love over every thing.

 

[FlexPavilion]

Having your shyt together beforehand will open up more doors for you to be able to pick and choose. Trying to find that "ride or die" when you're on the come up is easier said than done. I know it's possible, but it sounds like wishful thinking to me. When I was on my grind, I had women that said they would be down and then showed otherwise.

When you bring more to the table, you date more. The more you date, the easier it is to figure out who's down to ride and who isn't. Giving yourself the most options is the best way to go about life, not just dating.