How y'all doin? Was it as stressful as you imagined? Did it break your bank as badly as you thought? Co-parenting a nightmare or nah?
Hey, you folks who said they were never gonna have kids that accidentally had a kid.....
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Fat Fred Jones
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Fat Fred Jones
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I don't think I was ever 100% against having children, but they both came unexpectedly, during birth control lapses. Fortunately I had children with my now wife. I was only 21 with the first and the second was born a couple years later, after marriage. I'll say that that it worked out for us because we both have solid heads and remain together. Granted, as early 20-somethings, there's no guarantee that each person will remain solid. People change. I'll admit I got lucky here. We had been together for 3 years before pregnacy, though.
Prior to kids, I really couldn't fathom how parents afforded to care for them. We were fortunate to have a decent support system early and, later advancements in my career. My wife doesn't have to work so that is a big advantage. The stress really isn't that bad as long as the burdens aren't too far out of balance. Helps if you're all in the same house.
I'd say the biggest factor is going to be having a child with the right person as both a partner and parent. Having kids by someone you really don't know or like is worst than risky in my opinion. Second to having the right partner is going to be your the quality of your finances and/or support system. The phrase "Family Planning" isn't just about birth control.
Prior to kids, I really couldn't fathom how parents afforded to care for them. We were fortunate to have a decent support system early and, later advancements in my career. My wife doesn't have to work so that is a big advantage. The stress really isn't that bad as long as the burdens aren't too far out of balance. Helps if you're all in the same house.
I'd say the biggest factor is going to be having a child with the right person as both a partner and parent. Having kids by someone you really don't know or like is worst than risky in my opinion. Second to having the right partner is going to be your the quality of your finances and/or support system. The phrase "Family Planning" isn't just about birth control.