How do get over being bitter about the past or people that have done you wrong?

NoirDynosaur

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It’s very relatable. We all been through this when deal with someone who fukked us over in the past.

Be better not bitter

Holding grudges of hatred, pain and misery is not healthy for the soul

Heal yourself. Heal from your trauma. Cleanse

Start reading people to identify red flags in the beginning. Don’t expose yourself. Have boundaries.

People can’t hurt you unless you give em permission
 

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Realize how silly it is to keep wasting time on whatever you're bitter about and then spend less and less time on it. Accept the fact that you might never be completely over it but don't dedicate time to it. When it crosses your mind let it go as quickly as possible. It will get easier
 

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Overkill every trait that they failed at. In my case:

  • Being a good husband
  • Being a good father
  • Being real with folks
  • Focusing on my dreams and happiness
  • Watching my health
  • Being a writer
  • Continue to follow God's plan
  • Having a loving soul
Sure, it's impossible to hide the scars, but you can flaunt them to go along with the suit and tie of excellence.
 

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out of sight, out of mind.

part of the healing process is getting away from them while you work hard on improving ur life.
once you make it and you are in a happy place, it would not even matter
this is bogus. thats what triggers alot of people. Pretending something don't exist ain't healing
 

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Anyone thats held a grudge on me and told me clearly telegraphed that it would happen as they mentioned people before me that they were still bitter about. You usually know what you're getting into. So i actively choose not to engage that part of my brain when I see them again or interact with any mutual associates in public. I choose the golden rule in all aspects of my relationships with others.

If I was trying to rekindle with a girl that did me dirty in the past for instance, would I want her throwing that in my face while I'm talking and throwing shots at me on social media? Hell no. So I choose not to do it on my end. That way whatever happens I know I kept it solid on my part.
 
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