"How do I tell my husband that he's boring and a loser and that I want to divorce him?"

[Elle Driver]

Then these women wonder why men don't get married anymore

Marriage is still very common, maybe you're talking about the western world.

 

[DlAMONDZ]

at this bytch talking about ambitions and shyt

She just wants to hoe it up

 

[ORDER_66]

at this bytch talking about ambitions and shyt

She just wants to hoe it up

She wants to "find herself"

 

[roxxthe96er]

Lol someone gon slide in her reddit messages an then slide up in them guts lol

 

[Ill Lou Malnati]

I think a lot of people (male AND female) feel this way about the relationships they're in. I know I did, and I know people who I've been with felt that way about me as well. People get together because they are bored, and then they're still bored, so they decide to move on in hopes of ending the boredom with something else. But, boredom only ends when you die.

 

[Samori Toure]

Im sure it's like that sometimes but I know for the most part them couples are for life. If it's a fresh marriage and they come here the woman usually gets corrupted by all this "never settle" bullshyt you hear on tv and in music and it's all downhill from there.

Then those women grow old, lonely and bitter and say stupid shyt like "there are not any good men out there."

 

[Blackrogue]

first, someone can ask the same question 100 times..
and i can answer it 100 different ways- that's part of my style

now to the point..
one thing i "learned" via the coli was a book suggested by @Blackrogue
the unbearable lightness of being by Milan Kundera
anyway, listened to that shyt on audiobook during my morning walks
they later made it a movie with lena olin being the bisexual mistress

...anyway, at one point, the author discusses the lead male character
saying there were two types of people..
those who go for different versions of the same mate
and those who go for the unique quality in each mate (=the way my mind works)

and as the author pointed out, and i believe it is true
is that..

people who go for different version of same mate are destined for unhappiness
because you never get it "all" in one package
so these people are constantly comparing and contrasting
well, girl #1 is better at this, but girl #2 is better at that, but girl #1 can do this other thing better than #2, and etc
..basically, a receipe for being a malcontent
never satisfied with what is in front of you
(because you are comparing both #1 and #2 against perfect dream woman who doesn't exist)

while the "unique quality" style is enjoying their mate
without the comparisons..
and as long as it is good, then it is good
and they find happiness

now, if we say this concept is true, then think of the applications..
my first wife died in an accident..
no bringing her back
and i date, and date, and date..
and find a great candidate for wife #2
so i get to enjoy #2 for the woman she is, without trying to compare her to #1
don't you see how that is a better situation.. than just trying to replace what i lost??

yet many of my male friends were confused.. like..
well, apart from being good looking, they didn't think she was my "style" at all
there are some superficial things.. like they both likd to dance..
but basically, different people

anyway, you can't change who you are..
if you have one erotic mold, and that's what you want for wifey..
then you are pretty much stuck chasing that rainbow
but flip it around..
do you want a woman with one mold??
remember when they used to call... (forgot that basketball player's name) a poor man's kobe bryant??
i mean, you want to be a poor copy of what she really wants??

some brehs try to get around the comparisons by targeting virgins
but unless they have been in a vacuum bubble
even virgins have developed some "erotic exposure"
and if they have a target in mind, then the mental comparisons will still linger even if she is naive on actual experience

just something to consider

Its a good book huh. Glad you liked it.
i remember that idea. The idea of the motif and repeating a pattern until completion with small variations like classical music. The idea of looking for the one in a million person or the millionth part.

Look for anais nins work as well. Her perspective and how she writes is really good. I think its her who had the thing with DH lawrence but i have to do my googles to confirm